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I am straight to the point, My advice is given based on my opinions of what YOU write. I may not always tell you what you want to hear but I am not here to sugar coat shit.
I am honest, I am blunt, At times an asshole but one thing I can promise, I'll never lie.
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My brother has asthma and he doesnt like to take treatments. When he takes breathing treatments he still stops breathing in his sleep. Could he have sleep apnea?
Sometimes he starts breathing again when u pat him on the back
Breathing on and off is very common for people who have sleep apnea or any sort of sleeping disorder, Many people who have this problem should seek treatment as it can be or become a serious problem.
The proper treatment can help your brother relax and get a better nights rest as well as helping with bad snoring which is also common for people who have sleep apnea.
I know it is no fun to wear a mask at night but it is better to seek treatment then to take any chances. Your brother needs to seek and keep on treatment because I'm not trying to scare you nor your brother but sleep apnea can be deadly if not treated properly.
What makes him not just wake up and go to the bathroom? My brother doesn't just pee in his bed, he has peed in my moms bed and the couch in the living room. He just wakes up in the middle of the night and goes to sleep wherever.And hes peeing everywhere. Could he be peeing in the bed cause he has asthma?
Sometimes people have to wake him up to go to the restroom and sometimes he drinks water before he goes to sleep. sometimes he doesnt and he still pees in the bed.
he drank some water last night and he just peed
Your brother is not peeing the bed because he has asthma.
Is your brother on any medication? Sometimes this can be the cause of bed wetting, However you stated that your brother drinks water before going to sleep..Bad idea. Best thing to do is to drink at least an hour before you head to bed and if you do drink something after that hour always make sure you try and use the bathroom first before you go to bed. This is likely what is causing your brother to have this problem, Try laying off any sort of liquid before bed. If this doesn't solve the problem and your brother is taking medication consulting a doctor would be your best bet.
Okay so there is this real close friend of mine.We are classmates. And we had this sleepover, a couple of us, guys and girls. I just broke up two months back with my bf who cheated..so i am still getting over it...And my friend broke up a few days ago. We ended up chatting throughout the night, and i dont know what happened but we ended up kissing each other too..it was not our intention of doing ANYTHING like that. we pretty much have feelings for our ex's and not each other. i dont know why and how it happened.
we have promised not to tell this to anyone. and that this incident will stay a secret between the two of us forever. but i feel weird about it, i feel disgusted for doing such a stupid thing now. do you think things will change because of this? i am scared he would tell someone which i really dont want.HELP. how should i handle this?
It happened because you let it happen, The best way to handle it is to tell him you apologize but you feel it was a mistake and would like to put it behind the both of you. If you both are getting over a breakup then you both should of kept your distances.
Things will not happen if you don't let it, If he goes on telling people either A. ignore it and let it pass, or B. Admit your wrong doing and move on.
Okay first of all I DO NOT live with my dad. In fact I haven't even seen him in 7 weeks.
I'm supposed to go to his house every other weekend but I really hate going there so I tend to skip a lot of weekends and he often has things that come up on our weekends so he'll cancel as well.
I feel like my dad is an animal hoarder.
He lives in a 1 bedroom apartment and currently has 11 inside cats and 2 outside cats and one of them is pregnant.
He also has 4 snakes,two whole aqauriums full of mice and an aqaurium of fish.
All of those animals in a one bedroom apartment.
So you can see why I never want to visit him.
I really want to report him and I know they wouldn't tell him who reported him but I'm afraid if they see his place they're going to evict him as well as take all of his animals and I don't want that to happen because he doesn't have enough money to move somewhere else.
He's also a junk hoarder as well but he's getting a lot better with that. The entire back room is filled to the ceiling with junk but he doesn't put anything back there anymore and he's always trying to clean up all of the other rooms.
He has another lady living there now too (a friend of his) and I want to make some sort of secret deal with her where we tell my dad to go out and while he's gone we just pile everything into trash bags and throw it out.
He always complains about not having money but he would if he didn't have all of those animals.
I'm just really afraid he'll lose it if either the animals or the stuff goes away but he really needs to just stop.
He thinks taking in all of the animals is justified because the animals are sick/pregnant when he gets them and then he takes care of them until their well again but then instead of finding homes for them like he says he's going to do he just keeps them.
I'm also worried that they'll take some of the cats and put them to sleep because one of them is blind in both eyes and another is blind in the one eye however both of the cats are really sweet.
What should I do?
I don't want my dad to get in legal trouble or get evicted he just doesn't have the money to find another place and he doesn't do anything bad or evil he loves his animals and he's nursed them all back to good health it's just that he has too many and their making him sick with all the cat fur and ammonia and he already has really bad lungs.
He even had a full blown asthma attack less then a week ago and he's always getting bronchitis.
Any advice is appreciated.
Contact your local animal control, Candore is right, Hoarding is a sign of emotional issues and your father needs help.
I'm going to be blunt, Your father needs help and considering the fact that he has bad lungs it's either someone helps or he can end up dead. After contacting your local animal control department I would highly recommend speaking to your father about getting some therapy or seeking help from a psychiatrist. Often people who are hoardings are in denial they need help or have a problem. I'm puzzled to know how your father has not been evicted yet...
I can tell you that if your father does not seek professional help soon somewhere down the line it could catch up to him and he could be threatened to be thrown out or evicted without warning. I would rather have a pissed off father then take the chance of having your father become homeless. Yes, If your father is unwilling to get help then you need to call the proper people and have them help him. It is extremely unhealthy and his living environment is a health hazard.
Do NOT remove his belongings without his knowledge, This is no way to help his habit. You will put him in emotional distress and possibly make his habit even worse. The only way to help your father is to have your father seek professional help. Also there is a number you can call 1 800 Got Junk that will take pretty much all of his things that he throws out. I believe they show up with a big truck.....There is a great start. Have you ever watched the show Hoarders?....Have you ever thought of contacting them? There is another option.
Now I know you are worry about the possibility of your father getting evicted but the truth is, It can happen either way. You can help him remove the garbage from his home....or someone else can find out and it will be done the hard way.
Ok first off
Me: 15/F
Her: 14/F
We got together last year on the 26th December and today she said that she cant take the emotions of a serious relationship when she is this young. She sayd that we're are both to young but she still loves me. She said to wait until she is older (16-ish) or has left high school (18) I love her so much. I will wait until she is ready. She is my first, my one and only true love and I told her I will wait. But I know its gonna be really hard for me. I leave highschool at 16 so ill be introduced to new people after that. I know it's gonna be really hard for me. Has anyone got any advice for me? All advice is loved.
Your girlfriend told you in a nice way that she does not want commitment at this time.
Stop worrying about it, I know it's hard but reality is you both are young and she is not ready to date and she told you that. Take it one day at a time don't jump the gun because nobody knows what the future holds and we can't predict what is going to happen in a year or two.
ok so i am a 13 year old female and i was really upset with my mom because she kept on yelling at me and overreacting when i was trying to make cookies. so she started yelling "stop! you arent making cookies aymore put everything back!" what really annoys me is that she had to concern herself with something my sister and i were trying to do on our own. so after we were forced to put everything away, we walked downstairs and i said "god you are such a retard" to my sister and i know i shouldnt have said tht but i was sooo angry. so my sister was like "i'm telling mommy" so my mom screams at me to come upstairs so when i do, she goes "sit in that f***ing chair and study" and i said "fine i was going to do that anyway" and so i sat down and she runs over and i flinch like any normal person would and curled up into a ball and she starts hitting me and pulling my hair and she smashes her face against mine and screams at the top of her lungs over and over again "don't give me a f***ing attitude do you f***ing understand me?!!!" so i said yes and then went upstairs and started to cry because i was so scared but then i figured "why bother caring. she does this all the time! it was worse last week whe i stood up for my dad when she was being a complete b**ch and she told me to go f*ck myself and gave me the finger and drove off so why be scared now?" but the truth is, i am scared. i have no trusted adults to talk to and friends who always just say "some people have it worse than you so shut up" i have nobody to reach out and i refuse to call hotlines because they will take me away or they will trace my number if i call as anonymous. im so scared because it seems like my whole life is a mess. im struggling with my mom and my sexuality. i told my friends i thought i was bi and one of them told another girl that i did not want to know and she told a bunch of others. it feels like i can not trust anyone anymore. please help me. i just want to curl up and die.
If your mother is abusing you, Tell someone. A teacher, Counselor or an adult you trust. If your mother is hitting you and swearing at you that is abuse.
This girl wont leave me alone. She makes fun of me because Im mixed, my mom is Puerto
Rican and my dad is black and mixed with white, she makes all these jokes calling me a piece of sh**t and talking about how the UK is better and that shes all glamorous up there. shes keeps saying that I live in texas so I have to catch what I eat and etc, and she keeps saying she has a life but she wont leave me alone .All these insults telling people that I eat dog and saying that Im a wetback and all of this is NOT true. She keeps getting on my nerves and no one likes her because shes racist, but she bothers me mostly because she knows it really bothers. Ive tried ignoring her but shes still doing the same thing. How do I get her to leave me alone?
Ignore her
People who have big mouths and look to insult someone are people with insecurity issues, This is one of the main reasons people get bullied everyday. If you show no reaction, She gets no reaction. People don't just bully someone for nothing the whole point is to piss the other person off. No there is nothing wrong with you, No you didn't do anything. The truth is, She may have a life...but this girl again has insecurity issues. Pay no mind too her if you ignore her somewhere down the line it will get old...she will get bored because she is getting the same reaction over and over again and she isn't getting what she wants. She'll move on and someday she will get a REAL life. ;) Be strong and let her make a fool of herself.
If the bullying gets out of hand where she gets physical then you tell someone, Let an adult know. If you are in school let a teacher know you are being bullied. Inform them of what is going on, It is nothing to be ashamed of and someone needs to tell this girl to back off. The old saying "Karma is it's worst enemy" is true. She will get her piece somewhere down the line.
i need a physical done for school so i can play basketball but im to scared to go i get really nervous and start crying i could always just not get it done and take p.e i dont know what to choose.i feel so confused
Listen,
Physicals are really not as bad as you think, I know you get nervous but there are many many people out there that get physicals done everyday. It is just required when you play sports. When you get a physical done you often have a paper that a doctor has to fill out so you can't just pretend it never happened.
The last time I got a physical all they did was check my heart beat, my blood pressure, my weight etc. It was nothing to be scared about :) ...but at the same time that was some years ago. Don't worry though everything will be okay!
Hi, my girlfriend has her exes b-day party coming up and I don't want her to go. She says they have mutual friends which is why she is going. She also said that if it wasn't such an uncomfortable situation that I could come. But why can't I go so that I can mark my territory? He should see me and see how happy she is with me? I am scared something will happen between them because he still has feelings for her. I don't want to confront her about it because she already thinks I am insecure with our relationship but I find that she is being inconsiderate in going to this guys b-day. Please, help me in either calming me down or give me ways in which I can approach this issue with her.
If he is an ex, Then there really is no need for her to go at all. Even under the circumstances of having mutual friends at the party. These friends can contact her and see her any other time. If it is going to be an uncomfortable situation then you would think she would want you to go to ease the tension.
Talk to her, Express that you feel the relationship between her and her ex is over and she needs to start seeing that. Frankly, It sounds awfully odd that she would want to go to a party that is for her ex. He may still have feelings for her but something also says maybe she feels the same way and just will not admit it. If she is completely over it, Again there should be no need to be in contact with her ex. Exes cause drama and problems, Even if the two come to a mutual understanding and decide to remain friends. Unless the two have children she should have no need to inform her exes into your lives. You are her boyfriend, She is with you now. If she keeps this up I would either tell her it's him or you. I don't play games like that.
What should I do? My 34 yr. old daughter has gained a substantial amt. of weight w/n the past 3+ yrs. since her job relocated her to a state on the other side of the country where we have no family and she does not make friends easily. She runs & sometimes wks out w a trainer, but she is very heavy below the waist (from sz 10 to sz 16 pants). She has gone to dr. about it & has learned that she inherited a gene (a disease) for very lg. & heavy legs. She should wear special hose, but she won't. She is a beautiful woman, but is self-conscious abt the heaviness & wears long pretty summer dresses. The problem is, in the back, she has alot of jiggly & u can c the bumps & lumps & she wears thong undies. I gingerly suggested that she wear an undergarment to smoothe. She absolutely refuses! She said she is NOT wearing a girdle! She is a classy & professional woman, but the jiggle & bumps are unattractive. We got into a big argument (screaming match) & she started crying, as though I am picking on her and she is visiting me now in Md. I am so upset and so is she. You can cut the air w a knife. She has even gone and had her seamstress line the dresses, but you can still see the lumps, bumps and jiggle. It takes so much away from her beauty, class and style. I asked her if she has seen herself w a 3 way mirror. My daughter is in denial and I do not want the world laughing at her. She's classier and smarter than that. I do not understand why she refuses to accept that she needs the smoothing that even a half slip with lycra can add.
Wow...
Whatever happened to loving your children unconditionally? The user below me is 100% correct, This is none of your business your daughter is an adult and you should respect that. Instead of putting her down, Accept her as she is. Isn't that what a parent is supposed to do? love and support their children no matter what they look like, how they act or what else. You are killing your daughters confidence by continuously putting her down and judging her about her weight. Your daughter is entitled to wear whatever she wants to wear again she is an ADULT who is 34 years old. All you are doing is pushing her away by giving her negativity. Family is supposed to be there for family NO MATTER WHAT. So in other words start minding your own business and worry about YOU.
SHAME ON YOU!
My father is catholic, and very controlling of every step i take. I still have to call him all the time, where i am, who im with, and i have a curfew. Or more of a limit of 2 hours after my work to see friends. I fell in love with my boyfriend, and we plan on moving out together next month. I dont know how to tell my dad that im leaving and not going back to europe with him.
Have a sit down with your father, Explain to him that you understand he only wants the best interested for you.
Sometimes parents have a hard time letting their birds fly out of the nest, Let Dad know you are 20 years old and you feel it is time to start making decisions on your own. You are over the age of 18 and are now legally an adult who can make choices. If you want to stay with your boyfriend and get a place together you are entitled to do so. Let Dad know that you will call him everyday and keep reassuring him that you will be okay.
No parents likes to except that their children are growing up and there may be no easy way to tell your father you want to start living your own life but in time your father will come to terms with that.
I'm 17 and I have just graduated highschool and I have found out i'm pregnant. Me and my boyfriend want this baby very much and my mom told us she'd be strong and supportive which she hasn't been she just wants us to get an abortion and say's were too young, although we're truly not . He's 18 turning 19 this year and i'm turning 18 this year . My mom says she told my dad & I asked her what'd she say , and all she could do is look at me disgusted how she has been this whole time since we for sure found out that I am pregnant and say he's upset/ mad something like that . I haven't talked to my dad I've been avoiding him and now I'm sitting up in my room bc I don't want to see or talk to him . We had planned to talk all together today, but my mom told him and can't even tell me what he's said . I don't know what to do or say . My boyfriend's mother is very happy and understanding but my parent's aren't at all . It's so annoying because this situation is not going to change so I don't understand why anyone's making a big deal . So what should I tell my dad if he decides to spark up a conversation with me about it if I have to leave my room before he leaves . I am very scary I know ..
I'm not going to lecture you too much...but your mother is right.
You are 17 and you do live under their roof.
Now for your dad, Acceptance comes with time. Your father may not like or approve of the idea but eventually he will learn to accept it.
Your parents are disappointed because no parent wants to hear their 17 year old is expecting a child when they aren't financially ready and still live under their parents roof. That's the truth
Ok so Im Gracie and Im 13. So I just got my period a couples of months ago, this is like my 3rd time. Anyway whenever I get my period For some reason I just feel really dirty or weird so I take lots of baths when Im on it. Everytime I take a bath or a shower I never,like bleed when Im in the water. Is that normal? I mean Im not complaining, Id rather not have blood everywhere (I know that's gross, sorry lol) but I was just wondering why. If I go swimming will the same thing happen? Will all the blood just stay inside me?
I don't recommend taking baths while on your period, Water will increase the blood flow. Stick to showers until off your period. Also, Yes it is normal. Nothing to worry about! :)
Ok so me and my boyfriend live about 40 min apart and he has a job. Needless to say, we only see eachother like once or twice a week. Anyway, that leaves us texting pretty much everyday throughout the day. I'm just wondering why is it that, when texting, if I happen to text back slow (10-20min) he gets pissed at me, yet, he sometimes takes up to an hour to text me back and always says "i hope your not mad" or something like that. So, it's ok for him to do it but I can't? What is that about?? He told me flat out that he's the jealous type of guy, does that have anything to do with it?
Jealousy can lead to be controlling, I'm not saying this is the case but that is generally what happens in many cases.
40 minutes is stretch, Once or twice a week is a drag. If it bothers you that he gets angry then you need to tell him that he can't always expect you to text back right away. You have things to do and take care of just as well as he does. Reassure him that you will text him back as soon as you have a free moment on your hands.
On the other hand if you boyfriend's jealousy doesn't lighten up your relationship may die out because like I said above many times jealousy turns into controlling. Nobody wants to be controlled in a relationship, Also after a while I'd imagine you'd get sick and tired of being accused of possibly cheating or talking to someone else because your boyfriend doesn't trust you.
me and my boyfriend been together for 9 months. we love and care for each other. we'll be living together soon. months ago he wanted to come in me, i disagreed coz i didn't to get pregnant and afterwards i wanted him to come in me he disagreed. recently, it's been a while that he says he wants to come in me. is he hinting me to get pregnant? he also knows that a i want a baby. thanks
If you aren't living together, You aren't ready for a baby. Also, Are you and your boyfriend financially stable? If not, You are not ready.
I'll be blunt: 9 months is really quick to be considering children in the relationship, I would personally wait until you and your boyfriend are settled down in your new place and you know that you can afford to provide for a child. From the sound of it, You both are not ready. Start using protection it is better to be safe then sorry.
Ok so I'm M/16. When I was like 5, me & my friend would do some sexual stuff. We got cought checking eachothers thingies. I was young & probably curious. (My friend started it) I now have a tranny porn problem. I found it by accident while looking at regular porn. I am not atracted to dudes! I am shy but theres this girl I really realy like. But this stuff is making me feel dirty & undeserving & weak. I try not to watch tranny porn. But I keep relapsing. I've never felt any "way" with a dude. But I have with girls, a few of them actually. But still, am I gay? I don't stare at behinds & bodies of girls as often as my friends. I still do though (when no ones around) So they call me gay
If you are not attracted to guys nor can you see yourself being with one then you are not gay.
Gay defines someone who is sexually attracted to a male.
Also, Different people like different types of porn. You like to watch older people having sex, Does this make it wrong? No. I personally also like to watch people who are older having sex. (Not that old) but my point is it is not dirty nor wrong to have fantasies. Also, Just because you checked out a few Dudes penises still does not make you gay, It makes you curious. As you stated above you were young, Nowadays if you were checking out a guys penis I would again probably say you are just curious. Unless you have sexual contact with a man you are again not gay. You shouldn't feel dirty nor weak, You are a typical teenager and again your tranny porn is just a fantasy and something you enjoy watching. Not at all something to be ashamed of.
17/f
I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time awhile back and it was my first time and ever and when I got home I checked to see if there was any blood and there was nothing. Was it possible he didnt 'pop my cherry'? The first time was kind of a quickie but then the next time we had sex it felt like he hit it hard but I never bled. I heard when a girl loses her virginity she will bleed during or after. Am I still a virgin or?
If his penis entered your vagina then you had sex.
Also, If you are unsure then take up more sex education.
I'm a 13 yearold girl and im not really sure i forget, you smoke weed right? what about crack? what do you sniff and what do you smoke? I'm not going to do any of this stuff I'm just wondering.
I do neither
If you are thinking about trying it, Don't do it.
Here are bits and pieces I've gathered from a few websites
Crack cocaine doesn't just affect users physically; it also affects them psychologically. A powerfully addictive substance, crack cocaine can affect people psychologically in the following ways:
Physical and auditory hallucinations
Depression and suicidal thoughts
Selling off personal effects to pay for the addiction
Seizures
Heart attacks
Psychosis and schizophrenic-like behavior and thoughts
Also, If you weren't thinking about doing any of these then why would you ask? Stay away from the drugs unless you want to end up dead.
i posted a question on here about 2 months ago about me being addicted to synthetic ecstasy. everyone gave me really good advice, but nothing is getting better. its just getting worse.
and just the other day i found out that the synthetic x has traces of meth in it. my friend rolled with me and had a drug test the next day. (we thought it wouldn't matter since the x was legal) well, everything looked fine on the drug test except the meth line was discoloured, which meant she had some in her system. obviously, she didn't take anything except the legal x, so we knew it had to be that. luckily, it was her parents who made her take the drug test and they thought it was just defective.
my friend and i are suffering from this addiction together and as soon as we found this out, we did our research. a lot of things that were going on with us that we ignored did point to a meth addiction, afterall: withdraw from peers, loss of interest in certain hobbies, scratching, weight loss, etc. in my mind i know this is really bad, but i still can't stop. we've tried to cut back with little success. i've considered telling my parents so i can get help but it'll forever change my relationship with them. on top of this, my mom's brother was on meth for years and got locked up for it and if she knew her daughter was doing the same thing, she'd never speak to me again. and i know my mom, that is something she'd do. my dad would be disappointed and i don't like disappointing him. i need help, i just don't know how to go about that. anything is appreciated. 18/f
Rehab
The best way to get help is to help yourself first which basically means staying clear of anything that would negative in the process of getting clean. If you want to clean up then you have to do it for you and not your friend.
You are 100% correct, You will eventually be caught if you continue to do what you are doing either that or you'll end up dead. I'm just being honest with you.
Admit yourself to Rehab and stay clear of your friend, She is not going to help you. You have to help yourself.
16/F
Okay, my friend always asks me how my boyfriend and I are doing and I always just reply with 'fine. After all, I like to keep my relationship with him between us, that and we're both too shy to start gushing about how we cuddle and stuff. Not to mention, our relationship involves mostly talking to each other. I like this relationship and it's my longest and best so far. Well, my friend exploded one me the other day about it and she asked what the sex was like and I was like what the heck?! She's younger than me by a few months and she already has weird problems of her own. Yet, she kept saying that I should've had sex with him by now, three months is enough. Uhm, nooo, I'm only sixteen and he's younger than me, so there's definitely no freaking way it's legal. Is there anyway I can get her to shut up about it without actually being rude? Because I think she might be trying to anatagonize me... You don't HAVE to have sex in a relationship, right? Especially at age sixteen?!
If it bothers you that your friend is being nosey, Then tell her, You don't have to be a bitch about it but simply telling her "I'm sorry, I didn't want to be rude but I feel that my relationship is my business and I don't like discussing it" It isn't too harsh and it is pretty straight forward.
Continue your relationship the way it is, There is no rush to have sex and I give you the applause for waiting. You tell your friend to worry about herself.