She doesn't want to be in a serious relationship until she is older
Question Posted Sunday June 19 2011, 4:33 pm
Ok first off
We got together last year on the 26th December and today she said that she cant take the emotions of a serious relationship when she is this young. She sayd that we're are both to young but she still loves me. She said to wait until she is older (16-ish) or has left high school (18) I love her so much. I will wait until she is ready. She is my first, my one and only true love and I told her I will wait. But I know its gonna be really hard for me. I leave highschool at 16 so ill be introduced to new people after that. I know it's gonna be really hard for me. Has anyone got any advice for me? All advice is loved.
adviceman49 answered Monday June 20 2011, 10:37 am: First loves are always true loves, your one and only love. I remember my first love as if it were yesterday and yesterday was over 40 years ago.
I was 16 at the time and had just received my drivers license. My family was going on vacation, a car trip up to Canada across the the Trans-Canada hwy down into Michigan and back home. I of course did not want to go. My father bribed me by allowing me to do most of the driving. I called my girlfriend every night.
We had an on and off again romance until I went into the military. She married shortly after I went into the service. I married shortly after I returned home.
This is pretty typical of teenage romance. You will be going off to college while she stays home to finish high school Absence doe not always make the heart grow fonder, it makes for loneliness. You will meet new people as will she.
karenR answered Monday June 20 2011, 7:17 am: The girl you love is right. You are both a bit young for a serious relationship. I know its really hard to understand that at the moment, but you will one day.
What you have to do is get out there and date other girls. She will date other guys. If you meet again later in life and want to try it again, you do. Just don't spend years waiting on her. I'm sure she doesn't expect you to.
Erinn_the_bamf answered Sunday June 19 2011, 9:27 pm: Frankly, I wouldn't wait around for her. You both know you're young and chances are any relationship you have isn't going to last. Just play it by ear. If you're still single by the time she's ready, go for it, but if something better comes along, don't let the opportunity pass by. She doesn't want to be with you now, so there's no guarantee she's going to want to be with you later. Don't put all your eggs in one basket, kid. [ Erinn_the_bamf's advice column | Ask Erinn_the_bamf A Question ]
Xui answered Sunday June 19 2011, 7:26 pm: Your girlfriend told you in a nice way that she does not want commitment at this time.
Stop worrying about it, I know it's hard but reality is you both are young and she is not ready to date and she told you that. Take it one day at a time don't jump the gun because nobody knows what the future holds and we can't predict what is going to happen in a year or two. [ Xui's advice column | Ask Xui A Question ]
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