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I'm 17 And Pregnant, Don't know what to say to my father
I'm 17 and I have just graduated highschool and I have found out i'm pregnant. Me and my boyfriend want this baby very much and my mom told us she'd be strong and supportive which she hasn't been she just wants us to get an abortion and say's were too young, although we're truly not . He's 18 turning 19 this year and i'm turning 18 this year . My mom says she told my dad & I asked her what'd she say , and all she could do is look at me disgusted how she has been this whole time since we for sure found out that I am pregnant and say he's upset/ mad something like that . I haven't talked to my dad I've been avoiding him and now I'm sitting up in my room bc I don't want to see or talk to him . We had planned to talk all together today, but my mom told him and can't even tell me what he's said . I don't know what to do or say . My boyfriend's mother is very happy and understanding but my parent's aren't at all . It's so annoying because this situation is not going to change so I don't understand why anyone's making a big deal . So what should I tell my dad if he decides to spark up a conversation with me about it if I have to leave my room before he leaves . I am very scary I know ..
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Don't get an abortion if you want to keep the baby. Your parents are mad of course, because they know it's going to be hard for you to take care of a child right out of high school. They don't think you'll be able to handle it. So what do you do? Prove them wrong! Tell your dad that you'll always be his little girl. It'll make him happy.
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Your brain will keep developing until you're 25, so you aren't intellectually or emotionally mature yet. One of the consequences of that is that teens make rash decisions because they are so present oriented.
Moreover, both your parents are indicating that they are not into helping you raise your child. If you can't deal with abortion, which I would personally advise you to have, then please, please, please think about putting the kid up for adoption. Neither you or your boyfriend are ready for this economically, let alone psychologically. The introduction of an infant and its almost constant need for attention is going to throw a monkey wrench into the chemistry you and your boyfriend have, which will make it even less likely you will stay together.
So again, either have an abortion or, if you decide to take the pregnancy to term, put it up for adoption. Your child will thank you and it will be better for the viability of your future, no matter what guilt feelings you may have at the thought.
Step back and try to think about this RATIONALLY, okay?
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Your 17 years old. You live at home. Do you even realize whats going to happen to you? No more parties no more going out with friends. None of your friends are going to want to hang out with you if you have to bring a baby around.
Do you have a job?
Does your boyfriend have a job?
Dont you want to go to college?
I mean really, your parents are probably pissed cause they know they are the ones that are going to end up taking care of this kid, not you. Your 17 years old your not ready emotionally or financially to have a child.
You need to look at other choices, or you could end up ruining the rest of your life.
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Listen to your mother.
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I'm not going to lecture you too much...but your mother is right.
You are 17 and you do live under their roof.
Now for your dad, Acceptance comes with time. Your father may not like or approve of the idea but eventually he will learn to accept it.
Your parents are disappointed because no parent wants to hear their 17 year old is expecting a child when they aren't financially ready and still live under their parents roof. That's the truth
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