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should i fight or forget?
I am 18 and female. I recently split up with my girl friend who i love to peices and we had to finish the relationship cuz she couldnt handle the distance cuz she got told go live with her nan, i dont know if i should fight to keep her or let her go and move on? any suggestions would be greatful
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Sometimes negative events result in positive outcomes. That is, when you move on from your relationship with your previous girlfriend it gives you a chance to meet someone even better.
At your age, though, you need to do a lot of exploring, dating a wider variety of people and maybe living overseas after college. So don't get tied down right now. Just meet people and have fun and kick butt at school.
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How long were you together?
Here's what I would say. Plenty of long distance relationships don't work. At the same time, my sister was with her girlfriend for a year, and then moved to the UK, while her girlfriend still lives in Seattle. They have been faithful, and are still together 3 years later, and plan for her girlfriend to move to the UK.
It can go either way. It comes down to - are you willing to tough it out? To go through the pain of missing someone so much and not being able to reach out and touch someone. You both have to really want it to work for it to work. Doubts are natural, but you both have to really want it.
Also, you could temporarily set up some kind of open relationship agreement, still talk on the phone and see each other when you can as much as possible, but be allowed to date other people. If you really want to be with each other, those people will pale in comparison.
Hope this helps, good luck sweetie. <3
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Try to keep in touch with her without overwhelming her and see how things go. Be her friend for now and let her know you will always be there for her. If it's meant to be, you two will come back to each other naturally. If she seems distant, doesn't return phone calls often, then maybe it's time to move on.
But don't jump to conclusions if she doesn't return your call right away sometimes...she could just be busy with her new life, it does not mean she does not care about your feelings. Maybe you should try finding a hobby or a new job that will impress your girl friend. Maybe during that time you will have found a new fulfillment and realize that you are too young with such a bright future to worry about a deep serious relationship when there are so many wonderful things to partake in and learn in life. :)
good luck and everything will work out fine. :)
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