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Lost my virginity but he didn't pop my cherry?
17/f
I had sex with my boyfriend for the first time awhile back and it was my first time and ever and when I got home I checked to see if there was any blood and there was nothing. Was it possible he didnt 'pop my cherry'? The first time was kind of a quickie but then the next time we had sex it felt like he hit it hard but I never bled. I heard when a girl loses her virginity she will bleed during or after. Am I still a virgin or?
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Once you have sex with a guy no matter if he 'popped your cherry' or no you are no longer a virgin and the reason you havent bleed yet was because he hasnt gone far enought in or he is smaller and it cant reach so yes you are not a virgin and just give it time you will make it there
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even though it was a quickie if he was in you then you're not a virgin and all girls are different not all of us bleed or maybe you just broke your hymen before without knowing it you can do this by some exercises and even riding a bicycle but he did pop your cherry so you're not a virgin
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If his penis entered your vagina then you had sex.
Also, If you are unsure then take up more sex education.
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Please know that there is NO(!) "technical" version of a virgin or some sort of twisted belief system because you didn't bleed. I can actually explain this further (yes, be prepared for my short informational rant):
Unfortunately, there is no true medical definition for virginity. This leads people to run with their own ideas. Instead, let's pick up a real dictionary:
As per Webster's Dictionary:
Virginity:
- the quality or state of being virgin
Virgin:
- an absolutely chaste young woman
- a person who has not had sexual intercourse
- a person who is inexperienced in a usually specified sphere of activity
Chaste:
- celibate
- pure in thought and act
Celibacy:
- abstention from sexual intercourse
Sexual Intercourse:
- 1: heterosexual intercourse involving penetration of the vagina by the penis
- 2: intercourse (as anal or oral intercourse) that does not involve penetration of the vagina by the penis
Putting those definitions together to form accurate information:
Virginity refers to a person who has abstained from vaginal, anal, and oral intercourse.
As per some Wikipedia knowledge:
A virgin (or maiden) originally meant a woman who has never had sexual intercourse. Virginity is the state of being a virgin. It is derived from the Latin virgo, which means "sexually inexperienced woman"
No such thing as "technical" virginity. Your hymen does not make you a virgin. Period!
It's extremely likely (as in, I'd put money on it) that your hymen was just very elastic if you've never noticed (or very little) blood in your panties that could be related to a broken hymen during another activity. Some women have very elastic hymens that will just stretch during sex, rather than rip, tear, and bleed.
Most hymens already do have a hole in them. If you were born with an imperforated (no hole) hymen then the doctor would have created a small surgical opening when you were an infant. Think of it like this: how else would your menstrual fluid escape if there was no natural hole, right? Most women are born with the hole. If they weren't, a small hole is created so that they can grow into healthy adults.
The hymen is thin but is fairly elastic any way. Younger women tend to have more elastic hymens. Some women have such a flexible hymen that it will just stretch out to accommodate a partner.
Usually what happens is that the hole is too small to accommodate a full-sized penis. The male inserts into the vagina and during this, or the thrusting that follows, the hymen cannot stretch any more and will just rip, leaving along a trail of blood from the "injury."
Like I said though, not everyone is made the exact same. Your hymen was probably just more elastic, stretched out fine to accommodate your partner(s), and may never actually rip or tear (although, during childbirth it's likely it will--not that you'll actually feel it at the time).
So, no, you aren't some sort of "technical virgin." You also really shouldn't be concerned. Your body just stretched easier. That's all.
And, yes, it's likely your hymen has widened enough that it's visually noticeable that you've had sex. Instead of having a small hole in your hymen, you probably have a little bit larger one now. No big deal. Still looks like a vagina.
So, your "cherry" has been "popped" but instead of it ripping/tearing, it was just stretched a lot. Voila. Not a virgin.
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