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please help me! i'm getting really scared of my mom! now i just want to curl up and die
ok so i am a 13 year old female and i was really upset with my mom because she kept on yelling at me and overreacting when i was trying to make cookies. so she started yelling "stop! you arent making cookies aymore put everything back!" what really annoys me is that she had to concern herself with something my sister and i were trying to do on our own. so after we were forced to put everything away, we walked downstairs and i said "god you are such a retard" to my sister and i know i shouldnt have said tht but i was sooo angry. so my sister was like "i'm telling mommy" so my mom screams at me to come upstairs so when i do, she goes "sit in that f***ing chair and study" and i said "fine i was going to do that anyway" and so i sat down and she runs over and i flinch like any normal person would and curled up into a ball and she starts hitting me and pulling my hair and she smashes her face against mine and screams at the top of her lungs over and over again "don't give me a f***ing attitude do you f***ing understand me?!!!" so i said yes and then went upstairs and started to cry because i was so scared but then i figured "why bother caring. she does this all the time! it was worse last week whe i stood up for my dad when she was being a complete b**ch and she told me to go f*ck myself and gave me the finger and drove off so why be scared now?" but the truth is, i am scared. i have no trusted adults to talk to and friends who always just say "some people have it worse than you so shut up" i have nobody to reach out and i refuse to call hotlines because they will take me away or they will trace my number if i call as anonymous. im so scared because it seems like my whole life is a mess. im struggling with my mom and my sexuality. i told my friends i thought i was bi and one of them told another girl that i did not want to know and she told a bunch of others. it feels like i can not trust anyone anymore. please help me. i just want to curl up and die.
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If it gets serious. Tell someone you do turst. But you're mom is probably going through something intense. But let me ask you something, does this happen all the time? I have a friend with the same problem. R
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You should call the police. It will be better for you to be taken away. I went through the same thing when I was younger. I had no one to run to, no one to save me. A teacher noticed scars on my neck from my dad's girlfriend choking me with her finger nails digging into my skin. I thought the same as you. I didn't want to get taken away, but in the long run, it is what was best. Now that I am out of that situation I am doing much better and I don't have many problems anymore. And who cares if you are bi? You should be proud if that is what you really are. If someone makes fun of you or sneers at you because of it, just tell them, "Yeah? What of it? It's not like you know who I am. I am bi, and I am proud of it!" And tell those stupid friends of yours that tell you that there are other people out there with worse problems, to shut up. You are as important as anyone else and deserve help. Its not like you are a snobby little bitch who only cares about herself. You need help and you have to call someone. Next time your mom does something, stand up for yourself. And if she starts harming you, harm her back. Go for the stomach or her sesitive areas. After you beat her down once, she will think twice before stepping all over you again. Dont hestiate and dont get soft.
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Hey there I am really sorry to hear this:( I agree with the other person when they said try talking to your dad, but if that don't work I know you don't want to call the police or anything saying that you'll be taken away but honestly do you want to continue living like this? thats horrible what she's doing to you. Also though if you call the police and tell them or go to the police station and tell them(if you don't want to call or if your scared too) whats going on and things but express that you don't want to be taken away. Though if they wanted to take you away after you said that you didn't want to it would 99.9% sure that it would only be for a short while, while your mother went to counciling and you would most likely be able to stay with a family member like your dad or something! now thats the best thing to do and I really hope that you'll do this Its for the best and it will help. Well I hope I helped(: Good luck I'll be praying for you. P.s. not to be all preachy but try praying to God he will help, he is always there for you.
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Do you ever talk to your dad about this? i think you should, if you dont. and i think you should tell him how scared you are and how you feel.
if you do that, or dont do that.. either way, you need to tell someone. i know you said that you dont have any trusted adults you can tell and your friends tell you to suck it up, and you dont want to be taken away.. but if you dont get help, your mom wont get help. and if shes already abusing you, your sister will most likely be next.. and i know that you dont want your sister to get hit either.
youre going through a hard time in your life, and its not your fault, at all.
heres a website you need to look at, it has a number you can call for help.. just scroll down to the bottom [i will also list the two that will help you, since i dont know what state you live in]
- [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
the first number: (800)-422-4453
the second number: (800)-799-7233
please, please call one of these numbers, or even the police. your mother should not be doing this to you. and she needs help. a school counselor, a teacher, a relative of yours [like an aunt or an uncle] you need to tell someone!
if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. hope i helped ! xxo.
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If your mother is abusing you, Tell someone. A teacher, Counselor or an adult you trust. If your mother is hitting you and swearing at you that is abuse.
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Hey, im in the same situation.... im 13/f too. The best thing to do, is call child protective services. Or tell someone at school. I know it sounds all corny and stuff. But it really does help. This summer im moving to another relatives house. But you really do need to tell someone. But since you can't tell anyone at school since its summer. I just suggest you call 911 the next time it happens. Don't call when your mother is right in the middle of yelling at you. She'll get more pissed then. Wait till you can go up into your room. Get a phone, call 911 and tell them your mother has been hitting you and screaming at you. And that it just happened today and its been going on for ex amount of years or months. Or just call 911 right now. Its really the only option to get you out of your household. and away from your mother.
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