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Samantha567
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Me and my friend Rylee have been friends since 2nd grade now we are sophmores in highschool and we have growen distent she always picks boys over me and i always invite her to my birthdays and she and she hasnt invited me to one of here since 5th grade. When I go to her house i always want to talk and go jump on the trampoline and she is always busy on the internet. What could this mean help me please (link)
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Well Sami, I have a friend named Deana. When dad and I left you know who, Deana and I went our separate ways. We talk to each other every now and then, but not very often. I still consider her my best friend, even though she has another best friend to fill my slot. But to me, no matter how she says or what she does, she will always be my best friend. I hope I helped somewhat...
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Hi,
I plan to take a road trip with 2 guys friends, a girl friend and myself. We are all 20 years plus in age. We want to take a camper van and we have the option to all sleep in the same camper van. If we did, us girls would be very modest, have separate beds of course and wear normal clothes to bed. But, I'm not sure if sleeping in the same room with the guys is ok?
PS We are all single, committed Christians.
Thanks for your help.
Hannah
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Its okay to sleep in the same room. It's not like you are doing anything naughty. You are just sleeping. Its not a sin to sleep in the same room with guys.
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I'm fourteen and I am babysitting an eight year old girl and 5 year old boy for the next three and a half weeks. My first day was today, and I was already running out of ideas, which scared me to death! Any recommendations? (link)
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Look for activities online. Have the children read books so they can practice. Play their favorite games. Teach them new games. Play with them outside. Have them find a bug and tell them about it. Play with them.
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I need to lose 15-20 pounds in about 20 days I need exercises I can do inside and healthy eating habits please bc I kinda have no will power I've been trying to chew gum to get my mind off the food (link)
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You should wear heavy clothes to make you sweat, because when you sweat you loose all that exess water in your body, causing you too loose wieght. You can also look for a body purifier pill that helps you flush out all that extra stuff from the food you eat. And also you can take a Vitamin B12 pill. That pill balances out this other Vitamin that if you have too much of, can cause body fat. My dad does this and has had great results.
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My boyfriend and I had sex a week ago and the condom broke, but he did not ejaculate. I've been on birth control pills (Ortho Tricyclen Lo) for about 5 months and have taken it correctly with no missed doses. When we had sex it was 9 days after the start of my period(i wasn't on my period when we had sex) and I don't exactly know too much about ovulation... What I'd like to know is do you think I'm pregnant or any chance. I've looked up symptoms and it's hard to distinguish them this early. THANK YOU. (link)
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You are not pregnant. He didnt ejaculate and you are on birth control pills. More than likely you are not pregnant unless a alien abducted you and impregnated you that way, but other than that there is no chance that you are pregnant.
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Am I emotionally cheating? I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and everything has been great. But there's a new guy I work with that I keep thinking about. What do I do? I don't want to think about or like this guy I work with, but for some reason I'm attracted to him. I still have feelings for my boyfriend though and I for sure want to be with my bf. What do I do? I don't want this to sabotage my relationship- I'd never cheat on my boyfriend physically but am I being dishonest to him by having another guy on my mind? (link)
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You are not cheating until you act on your thoughts for this co-worker. If you don't act on your new found feelings for him, you are not cheating. Having attractions for other men while you are in a relationship is normal. Its natural to have these urges. Just be honest with you boyfriend and tell him your thoughts, but also tell him that you are not going to act on them. That you just want to make sure he knows how you feel.
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one of my good friends told me he likes me. he's liked me before and I used to like him, he knew that. but then he thought I liked someone else cause I did but I don't anymore I like the boy that likes me and I just wanna talk to him and be with him but he doesn't know I like him. should I tell him?
I'm a 13 yearold girl and he's 12 maybe but we are in the same grade. so there isn't an age difference. I wanna tell him but I'm not sure if i should or not. (link)
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Go after him before he beings believing he will never have you. If you like him then go for it. Do it before its too late.
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I'm around 13 and I REALLLLYYYY want a cell phone!!!! So I am willing to pay for it all, I have my eye on a lg neon 2, I found a good fido plan for 100 min, unlimited texting, unlimited weekends and evenings for 25 dollars a month! My parents are still against it and I need advice? Also, I don't go out or anything, but I DO go out for lunch at school (off school property) thank you in advance!!!!!! (link)
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I dont think you should get a phone with minutes even though txting is unlimited. I never liked minute phones. They were always a pain. If you are set on getting a phone look for one with unlimited calling as well. Try to convince your parents that you will use it properly and not screw up with it.
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Me and my girl had sex the day after her period ended, shes on the birth control pill but forgot to take it that morning after we left, we ended up having sex and i pulled out but some i think still went in her before i pulled out, she took 2 birth control pills the next day, do you think she could be pregnant? also its been 28 days and her period hasnt come yet but she took a pregnancy test and it came back negative...what do you think? (link)
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Well the pills she took, if she was pregnant, could have killed the fetus before it grew into anything bigger than a molecule. Dont freak about her period, sometimes its late or irregular. Taking more than one pregnancy pill can effect the period cycle. If you want to be sure then go to a doctor or clinic to get a better test. And if she forgot a day, but she has taken it before without any missing days, there could be a possiblity that the pills she has taken before was still in effect.
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ok so after she kept begging and begging, i finally told my bff (who is a straight girl and who i really like as more than a friend) that im bi but when she got mad at me she told another girl and her mom. when we made up i wanted her to come over but she said her mom wont let her call or text or have any out of school contact with me. so one time i decided to text her anyway and this is what i said: i just wanted 2 say i love you. you dont have 2 text back but i just wanted you to know that" i figured she would take it as a friendly "i love you" but i guess she didnt. . .so i guess her mom read the text and my friend came into school and she goes "my mom is scared that you r gonna screw me and eat me out" so i said "we are in 7th grade not high school! and besides i would never do something you didnt want me to do to you and i could never force you to do that!" ive never told her to her face that i like her but i know she knows. and she told her mom that i like her too. anyway, so her number shows up on my cell and so i opened the text and it said "this is her mother. please stop texting her" and i wrote back "um ok but i havent been texting her recently but ok" i dont know if her mother is a homophobic (which seems unlikey because her parents are lesbians) or if shes insane or what. i dont know what to do but it hurts to not be able to contact my friend at all because of her mother. please help me and offer some advice on what to do and say,opinions, etc. p.s. i cant tell my parents anything about this because i am not ready to tell them i am bi. (link)
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Okay, the next time her mother txts you and tells you to stop talking to your friend tell her that you are not going to. She cant pick her daughters friends. She cant control who her daughter hangs out with. And reasure her mother that you wont do anything to your friend. Try to have her mother understand your intentions and tell her that you do like her, but wont take things further without her own consent.
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ok so i am a 13 year old female and i was really upset with my mom because she kept on yelling at me and overreacting when i was trying to make cookies. so she started yelling "stop! you arent making cookies aymore put everything back!" what really annoys me is that she had to concern herself with something my sister and i were trying to do on our own. so after we were forced to put everything away, we walked downstairs and i said "god you are such a retard" to my sister and i know i shouldnt have said tht but i was sooo angry. so my sister was like "i'm telling mommy" so my mom screams at me to come upstairs so when i do, she goes "sit in that f***ing chair and study" and i said "fine i was going to do that anyway" and so i sat down and she runs over and i flinch like any normal person would and curled up into a ball and she starts hitting me and pulling my hair and she smashes her face against mine and screams at the top of her lungs over and over again "don't give me a f***ing attitude do you f***ing understand me?!!!" so i said yes and then went upstairs and started to cry because i was so scared but then i figured "why bother caring. she does this all the time! it was worse last week whe i stood up for my dad when she was being a complete b**ch and she told me to go f*ck myself and gave me the finger and drove off so why be scared now?" but the truth is, i am scared. i have no trusted adults to talk to and friends who always just say "some people have it worse than you so shut up" i have nobody to reach out and i refuse to call hotlines because they will take me away or they will trace my number if i call as anonymous. im so scared because it seems like my whole life is a mess. im struggling with my mom and my sexuality. i told my friends i thought i was bi and one of them told another girl that i did not want to know and she told a bunch of others. it feels like i can not trust anyone anymore. please help me. i just want to curl up and die. (link)
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You should call the police. It will be better for you to be taken away. I went through the same thing when I was younger. I had no one to run to, no one to save me. A teacher noticed scars on my neck from my dad's girlfriend choking me with her finger nails digging into my skin. I thought the same as you. I didn't want to get taken away, but in the long run, it is what was best. Now that I am out of that situation I am doing much better and I don't have many problems anymore. And who cares if you are bi? You should be proud if that is what you really are. If someone makes fun of you or sneers at you because of it, just tell them, "Yeah? What of it? It's not like you know who I am. I am bi, and I am proud of it!" And tell those stupid friends of yours that tell you that there are other people out there with worse problems, to shut up. You are as important as anyone else and deserve help. Its not like you are a snobby little bitch who only cares about herself. You need help and you have to call someone. Next time your mom does something, stand up for yourself. And if she starts harming you, harm her back. Go for the stomach or her sesitive areas. After you beat her down once, she will think twice before stepping all over you again. Dont hestiate and dont get soft.
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i want to earn some money but i can't get a job because i'm only 13 and i dont know who to babysit for. i dont know whether putting up fliers around the neighborhood would actually work. i babysit my own little brother all the time but my parents never pay me or give me an allowance. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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You would be suprised on how putting up flyers can help. If you want to babysit just make the flyers and put them out there. You won't know until you try if it will work or not. That's what I am doing and so far it's working for me. Just make sure you have a pretty darn good flyer.
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16/F So I had sex for the first time a couple days ago and I started my period the next day. We did not use a condom so I was paranoid about him cumming inside me but he's experienced and said he didn't and I trust him. I have already had my cherry popped so I know it's not me bleeding from my first time having sex. I was wondering, if he accidentally DID cum inside me even if he didn't think he did, could I possibly become pregnant even if I'm on my period? I doubt I am but it feels better to make sure. (link)
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You can get pregnant even when on your period sometimes. Some women have been on there period and still got pregnant when the man came inside her. If he said he didn't I'd trust him, but to be sure next time, use a condom or get on birth control.
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I really love hanging out with her, she's like my only friend, but I'm tired of the lies. First she lies about a boyfriend that is clearly not good for her (never met, doesn't know much about it, he is out of the country until later this year), she chats online to tons of people she doesn't know and I can tell you for a fact it's having a bad influence on her. She tells me her sister is going to call (I know her sister), but I know it's not her sister because she leaves my bedroom and goes down the hall to another room and shuts the door. She tells me she doesn't drink but I know she's been so drunk off her a** she was sick for two days. Do I have a right to be super upset? Should I stop being friends with her? Also, I'm almost 19 and she's almost 20. (link)
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You have every right to be super upset. I would be too. I'd tell her straight up how I feel and that if she doesnt straighten herself out she will loose a dear friend. Maybe she has to loose someone close to her to realize that she is doing wrong. But I wouldn't completely stop being friends with her. I'd just tell her how it is most of the time and that I don't want to hang out with her if she is going to do that stuff. And tell her that she has lost your trust as a friend.
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I'm always crying and my eyes are usually swollen, I've had a rough year, constantly getting bullied. My teachers just pretended that they cared what was going on in my life. My face is usually greasy + pimply, and I have a crush on a guy who will probably never like me back. I hate being 12. (link)
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Being bullied is something every young teenager will have to deal with. As you grow older, the bullying will stop. I have been there done that. Teachers usually have something shoved up there asses anyway so dont get depressed over them. Now with your face, try out different skin cleansers to help keep your face from getting greasy. Pimples are natrual and will go away with time. And how do you know that the guy will probably never like you back? Have you asked him? Never asume these things. It's better to confront your feelings, and if he doesn't return them, well there are many other fish in the sea. He is not the only boy you will ever have a crush on. And you are only twelve, you shouldn't be worried with relationships at your age. It will only make things more difficult in your future. But you will do whatever you want. Just hang in there and have a positive attitude. Not everything will be as bad as this past year. Things will brighten up and if you keep to a positive attitude, you will gain the respect of people you never thought would even think about it. It worked for me. Just hang in there.
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What is Love? I always hear people sayong they love someone or something but what does it all really mean? Why do people like my parents and family say they love me? Is there actually something so ridiculous and naive out there? (link)
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Love is many things. Love is an emotion, expression, and much more. No one can actually fully understand the meaning of love. There are many different forms of love as well. There is the parental love. A bond between parent and child unlike any other. There is lovers love. A strong love for a certain person. You feel that they are the most important thing in the world. There is friendship love. A caring feeling for the people around you. A brother/sister love. A bond between brothers and sisters that can't really be explained. Love takes on many shapes and forms. Someone can be in love with an object. Is it ridiculous or naive to love? No it's not. It actually makes one person stronger to love. Without love there wouldn't be anything to fight/live for in this world. Love can hurt, but we normally use that experiance for the future. Like people say, "It is better to have loved and lost, rather than to have never loved at all."
Another quote, but from a move called Moulin Rouge, "The greatest thing you'll ever learn, is just to love and be loved in return."
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Why do others call me stuck up cause I'm shy?
I'm not around family and friends. I'm just sometimes quiet around people I never talked too or I'm quiet when I'm tired. Sometimes when I first meet people it takes me a while to come out of my shell cause I think I'm going to get judged . I'm happy and smiling all of the time. That’s just how I am, a happy person. Since elementary school I've heard girls say that I'm stuck up or "I think I'm all that". I honestly feel like I'm the nicest person I never talked bad about someone even behind their backs. There's no point if you think about it, you never know what someone's going through. I'm not a bitch. It won't get you anywhere in the future. Can someone tell me why people do call me stuck up cause I'm shy? I really don't get it
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I know someone that has the same problem. Its because you dont talk much and so people asume things about you because of it. They dont know the real you.
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This girl wont leave me alone. She makes fun of me because Im mixed, my mom is Puerto
Rican and my dad is black and mixed with white, she makes all these jokes calling me a piece of sh**t and talking about how the UK is better and that shes all glamorous up there. shes keeps saying that I live in texas so I have to catch what I eat and etc, and she keeps saying she has a life but she wont leave me alone .All these insults telling people that I eat dog and saying that Im a wetback and all of this is NOT true. She keeps getting on my nerves and no one likes her because shes racist, but she bothers me mostly because she knows it really bothers. Ive tried ignoring her but shes still doing the same thing. How do I get her to leave me alone?
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Tell her that she needs to grow the f*ck up. Tell her that she need to put the sock that she used to give her boyfriend a hand job with up her freaking pie hole. I would go all out on her if she ever came up to me talking like that. And if she wants to met a true Texan she aint gonna like it. Maybe I will hunt her down and have her for dinner.
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I have been trying to lose weight for about a year. I have been eating the right things, tracking my food and exercise, seeing a personal trainer, and have had blood drawn. All the blood tests come back negative for diabetes, thyroid problems, anemia, and whatever else they test for for weight problems. It is so frustrating! And I don't understand why if i'm doing the right things the weight won't come off! (And I do mean that literally. 10 pounds loss in a year is NOT losing weight! Especially when I was working out and GAINED weight.) grrrrrrrrrr! Has anyone else had this problem before? (link)
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Even though you might be eating the right foods, you may be eating too much of them. And when you exercise it might be a good thing to make your self sweat extremely, but not get dehydrated.
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umm, well im 13,female. and i got really drunk with a couple of friends. And my mistake happened, i had sex and we didnt use a condom, but i didnt get pregnant. i really liked this guy, we were talking for 6 months.am i slut for letting this happen ? (link)
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You are not a slut, but I dont think you were raped like that man said. But that's besides the point. A slut is a woman who can't get enough sex and goes after it. Basically a woman who has sex all the time with many different men.
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