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umm, well im 13,female. and i got really drunk with a couple of friends. And my mistake happened, i had sex and we didnt use a condom, but i didnt get pregnant. i really liked this guy, we were talking for 6 months.am i slut for letting this happen ?
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Well, ur not a slut but you are 13 years old and you already had sex, thats a little younge. You're just really lucky that you didnt get pregnant. but you shouldnt even be drinking yet because then bad things will happen as they already did. You should try talking to this guy about it and tell him to keep it between the two of you only, so dont go around telling everyone that you already had sex because people are harsh and they wont understand how this happen, they will just know that "you had sex at 13" and they will think you are easy.
i hope my advice helps:)
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well, your 13 and i dont think it's right to be drinking, i dont think its even right to be derinking at all for any age. all it's doing is messing with your brain! i don't think your a slut because that happened but i do think that it was your fault for all of that because of the drinking. try and lay off of it because you don't, you will be labeled one because it might keep happpening, and you dont know what can hapen at that point. maybe one time you can actually get pregnant, so try and stay away from the drinking, in my opinion.
i hope you listen to me and good luck, hope i helped(:
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You are not a slut, but I dont think you were raped like that man said. But that's besides the point. A slut is a woman who can't get enough sex and goes after it. Basically a woman who has sex all the time with many different men.
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First let me say you are not a slut by any definition of the word. Next let me also say I am an adult more in the age group of a grandfather.
Technically what happened to you was that you were raped. Yes, raped. Rape is defined as the sexual knowledge or intercourse without consent. You were drunk and unable to defend against or give consent. We will skip over the law concerning age of consent you are way to young for that to even be part of the problem.
Next if the boy who raped you is more than 16 or 17 depending on the laws in your state he has committed more than one felony. I could list about four more. The real problem here is not whether or not you are a slut. It is did he intentionally get you drunk so he could have sex with you. If so he is not the nice guy you thought he is or was and you need to stop him from doing this to others.
To do this you need to tell you parents. Yes they will be upset. First by the fact that you were raped and second that you were drinking. Hopefully this is something that happened recently and you still have the clothes you wore, including your panties. Save these now, put them in a plastic bags as the police will want them for evidence.
Yes, your parent are going to have to report this to the police and let them handle it. Just going to his parents will not stop him from raping another young girl. Just how the police will handle this I'm not sure and that is not your concern. Your concern is preventing him from doing it again and getting justice for him raping you.
Now I'm going to chime in on drinking. Your 13 that is 8 years below the legal drinking age in every state. There is a reason for young people not being allowed not to drink alcohol. Unfortunately you have learned the hard way. It is not cool and it is not good to get drunk at any age as alcohol lowers ones inhibitions and abilities to perform even everyday tasks.
I am a member of a fire department rescue squad. I cringe every Friday and Saturday night that I have duty for there are not many of those nights where some teenager are not involved in an automobile accident. Over 90% of these accidents are speed or alcohol related; sometimes both.
Since we respond on to two major interstates many of these accidents are fatalities. If you don't think it causes us hurt to have to use the Jaws of life to cut lifeless young bodies from twisted metal. Then I will tell you it does, each and ever time we have to do this and we do it all to often.
Their is one call that will haunt me for the rest of my life. It happened on a city street. A young girl not much older than you was racing to catch up to her boyfriend when she hit a bump and lost control of her car. She wasn't wearing a seat belt. When we arrived on scene I looked in the car, it looked like she was sleeping and had a bloody nose, she was dead. Most of the bones in her body were broken. Worst of all the accident happens two blocks from where she lived and we had to wait 3 hours for the medical examiner to arrive before we could remove her from the car. Her parents had to watch as we cut the car open and took her from the car and placed he in a body bag.
Have I grossed you out. Good that was my intention. Maybe by doing so I will keep you from getting in a car with someone that has been drinking. Maybe you will remember this story when you start to drive. Maybe I just saved your life. I hope I have.
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Irresponsible would be a better word
First of all you are 13 years old and drinking at your age is illegal.
Let me explain a few things; When consuming enough alcohol people tend to have the inability to think with a clear head. Although you were talking to this man for 6 months it was wrong of him to take advantage of you and this is what he did. If you ever got caught drinking/drunk your parents could be fined, you could be heading to juvenile and they could delay your rights to have a licence until you are 18.
Also, A slut defines someone who sleeps around with numerous people not someone who gets drunk and has sex. You were careless and irresponsible. My best advise; Stay away from alcohol and stop having sex you are too young.
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A one-time event doesn't make you a slut. It's a useless label anyway. Even if you did fit the definition of a slut, how would applying that label be in any way helpful?
Please take this event as a wake-up call. You are too young to be drinking and having sex. Continuing that sort of behavior will only lead to trouble. Soon enough you will be old enough and mature enough to both drink and have sex in a responsible way. It's a lot easier to get into trouble than to get out of it, and some choices have life-long consequences. Enjoy your teen years, but please be careful so you can also enjoy your adult years.
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i wouldnt say you are a slut, but you WERE careless.
yes, you made a mistake. but getting drunk with your friends at such a young age will lead to nothing good. but youre human, you make mistakes. everyone does.
however, next time. dont drink.. or at least dont drink as much. im not going to lecture you right now about underage drinking and sex at a really young age because like, just last year you werent even a teenager, but what i AM going to tell you is that you need to be safe. no glove = no love. always use a condom or some type of birth control, and since youre so young, id say a condom would be best suited for you.
youre not a slut.
dont think that about yourself. but be careful and most importantly, be SAFE. who knows what couldve happened.. you couldve gotten pregnant. or worse. so just be safe :]
good luck ! hope i helped, xxo.
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There is no such word as slut. If you call your self one then yes. Why let other people call you names and it bother you. You made a mistake it happens and you learn from it. Just remember you got lucky by not getting pregnant. Because I had a baby at 15 and I keep him and its hard it was hard to raise him to finish high school life is hard in general adding more to it just complicates things. becareful for now on.
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