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Emotionally cheating?
Am I emotionally cheating? I've been dating my boyfriend for 8 months and everything has been great. But there's a new guy I work with that I keep thinking about. What do I do? I don't want to think about or like this guy I work with, but for some reason I'm attracted to him. I still have feelings for my boyfriend though and I for sure want to be with my bf. What do I do? I don't want this to sabotage my relationship- I'd never cheat on my boyfriend physically but am I being dishonest to him by having another guy on my mind?
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Yes, you are cheating. Sometimes we knowingly put ourselves in the position that ultimately becomes detrimental to our relationships. The key to your situation is to not allow ourselves to get that close. It is natural to be attracted to others by nature but if you avoid certain situations you can avoid problems. If you truly want to be with your boyfriend then just stay away from the other guy. The grass is always greener I've found out but in the end is only unhappiness searching for what you already had all along.
On the flip side of things perhaps you aren't ready to be a serious relationship. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone should get out there and date, meet new people, and find out who they are first before they truly know who they want to spend their life with. Life is too short to be tied down to one person while your mind is on another. Perhaps it's an indication that your boyfiend just isn't meeting all your needs.
However, please be honest with your boyfriend if you do want to date other guys. I'm not saying to tell him you are thinking about someone else but let him know if your thoughts might turn into actions.
To me it sounds like this guy at work makes going to work all that more fun. Whats wrong with that? Enjoy yourself but be cautious and fair. I know you would never want anyone to get their feelings hurt through all of this. Best of luck and please enojoy life.
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You are not cheating until you act on your thoughts for this co-worker. If you don't act on your new found feelings for him, you are not cheating. Having attractions for other men while you are in a relationship is normal. Its natural to have these urges. Just be honest with you boyfriend and tell him your thoughts, but also tell him that you are not going to act on them. That you just want to make sure he knows how you feel.
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No, it is not cheating.
Cheating would be, well, cheating. Being sexually intimate with him. Being emotionally intimate with him. Flirting seriously with him. I don't think flirting is wrong so long as you're not actually interested in the people with whom you flirt. Some people just like being flirts when it's harmless.
When you really kinda like the guy, it's not.
Unshared thoughts are not cheating. They're really no one else's business but yours. If the guy at work realizes you like him and responds, then you tell your boyfriend and figure things out from there.
It's lust. Lust is magnetic. Put two people of appropriate sexual orientation and gender in a room together, and get their emotional defenses lowered, and attraction is a fairly common result.
Love is about who you choose to be with.
Plus... Well, I can't speak for guys in general but as a guy I feel like I'm wired that way. I can't help but look. We use attractive interchangeably with "stunning" for a very specific reason. It's fun to be stunned once in a while. As long as that's all it ever is, it's really somewhat beyond your control.
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everyone has different oppinions on this, but i think yeah, it is emotionally cheating.
to have a crush on a celberity or something is one thing, but to start liking/thinking about a guy you know and work with WHILE you have a boyfriend is cheating. its also a bad sign because if youre starting to notice another guy, your missing something with your boyfriend that this new guy has and you really need to think about it.
lets put it this way.. if your boyfriend was woring with a girl and he kept thinking about her and was attracted to her.. and he didnt tell you, would you feel like youre being emotionally cheated on? and what would you want him to do ? tell you, or keep it a secret and just go on liking her when hes with you ?
and yeah, i believe you wont physically cheat on your boyfriend, but these are things you need to think about.. put yourself in his shoes. how would you feel ? yuh know ?
talking to your boyfriend could help, like i always say: comminication is key. and if you explain to him whats going on, you probably wont sabotage your relationship, but if this is really on you concious and its making you feel guilty, then you either have to stop thinking about the new guy [if thats possible] or talk to your boyfriend about all of this.. because theres really no other way to solve all of this.
good luck ! hope i helped, and if you need anything else, feel free to inbox me. xxo.
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You might just have a small crush on the other guy, its happened to me before.As long as you dont start talking to the other guy you should be fine. The crush will go away :)
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