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Depressed and unhappy
I'm always crying and my eyes are usually swollen, I've had a rough year, constantly getting bullied. My teachers just pretended that they cared what was going on in my life. My face is usually greasy + pimply, and I have a crush on a guy who will probably never like me back. I hate being 12.
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don't cry, because no matter how hard you ccry your never going to change the facts of life, ive learned from experience when my mom passed away! and when your getting bullied stick up for yourself! even if your scared to death yell right in their face and say something like "im not scared to beat you" or something, because if they see your scared, they have won, but if you stick up for yourself and play around pretendong your tough, you might freak them out.
my face used to be greasy also,, theres these pads you can buy to wipe your face and all the grease goes on the pads, you can buy them at walgreens, ( thats where i bought mine)
and the acne, maybe ask your parents to bring you to the dermotologist ( its a doctor who takes care of the skin) or buy a very good face wash!
and dont say a guy will prob never llike you becsue you dont know that for sure! be more open and have a more fun life, find new friends, be funny, outgoing, hang out more.! laugh!!
"laugh as much as your breathe and love as much as you live"
i hope i helped and good luck, hope everything goes well, and start talking to that guy! let him notice you!(:
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Huni I feel so sad that you are having a hard time... you really need to talk to parents or someone about the bullying and stand up for yourself... You can fix the pimple problem easy by using some face cleanser and its just a normal part of growing up every one gets them also the guy that you like might actually like you too why dont you try approaching him and talking to him if he doesnt feel the same dont worry you are only 12 you have a whole life ahead of you ... let your parents know how you are feeling maybe you should go to some counseling sessions that can really help also if you ever need to talk feel free to contact me I will be here to talk to you and help you with whatever you need
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First the bullying is unexceptiable you need to stand up for your self. If you don't they will continue to do this. The skin problems are three thing puberty, cleansing, and what your putting in your body. Your 12 so you can't help but get the bumps but you can keep them totally under control by washing you face 2 times a day. Meaning wash then use an astringent and finish off with a face lotion. Now drink water and a lot of it. And boy like you based on how you feel about your self. Be happy to be who you are I know it can be hard growing up I remember. Just be your self dress how you want to and where your hair how you want to do the things you want to do. Get into some activities in school, don't be afraid to get involved. Make your self happy learn that early in life.
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Being bullied is something every young teenager will have to deal with. As you grow older, the bullying will stop. I have been there done that. Teachers usually have something shoved up there asses anyway so dont get depressed over them. Now with your face, try out different skin cleansers to help keep your face from getting greasy. Pimples are natrual and will go away with time. And how do you know that the guy will probably never like you back? Have you asked him? Never asume these things. It's better to confront your feelings, and if he doesn't return them, well there are many other fish in the sea. He is not the only boy you will ever have a crush on. And you are only twelve, you shouldn't be worried with relationships at your age. It will only make things more difficult in your future. But you will do whatever you want. Just hang in there and have a positive attitude. Not everything will be as bad as this past year. Things will brighten up and if you keep to a positive attitude, you will gain the respect of people you never thought would even think about it. It worked for me. Just hang in there.
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Hi, before I start let me say I am of the grandparent age so my advice comes from being both a parent and grandparent.
Twelve is probably one of the hardest ages for any child. I believe young people today call it being a "tweener". You are no longer truly a child, yet your not a teenager either. You've started into puberty, which is probably the most likely reason behind the greasy skin and pimples. More on this later.
When I was twelve most of us were in eight grade with all the pressures that come with the last year of what is now called middle school. You have all the internal pressure of puberty, the external pressure of new expectations of you and if that is not enough; you have a whole new social system to navigate. It was tough when I was your age; I can only imagine what it is like today.
Lets start with the greasy skin. As I said this is most likely linked to the start of puberty. Your body is adjusting to the new hormones it is producing. You may or may not be seeing all the effects of puberty yet but you will soon. You can get help for this with a visit to your family doctor or a dermatologist.
As for the guy you like. You are by fact of life two years more mature than him. He may be your same age but he probably has not developed an interest in girls yet. He and the other boys may act as if they do in school but when alone his interest are still that of what boys are interested in, not what girls are interested in. So just hang in there for another year or so and give him a chance to catch up to your maturity level.
Last; you skin problems and even the way you are feeling right now are things you should be talking over with your mom. I am fairly certain she is waiting for you to say something to her, rather than for her to impose herself on this. It may be hard to believe but mom and even me were your age at one time. We have experienced the pain you are experiencing and we can help you if you let us.
What you have written to us is nothing to be embarrassed about. Heck you've told total strangers. Why can you not speak to your mom about this?
Let mom help you and let mom make an appointment with a doctor for some proper skin care while you are still able to care for the problem before the problem does permanent damage to your skin.
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it's called being young, it happens to everybody...that's usually how teachers act they say they care but it's their job....things get better as you get older...and about the guy tell him how you feel theirs no regrets in love maybe he'll feel the same way(:
-maggielawson
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I was in a similar situation when I was 12. I think when I turned 12 things started going downhill for me. It happens to a lot of people, believe me. It doesn't have to be that way though. You're letting yourself feel this way.
The getting bullied thing is a totally different situation. You definitely need to talk to someone about it, someone you really trust. Friends aren't really the best to go to for this but maybe parents or other teachers, counselors, or any other adult that you trust.
With the acne, wash your face twice a day with some kind of acne wash. If that doesn't work then you can see a doctor and they do miracles with this kind of stuff.
You don't need to stress out over boys. Being 12 is hard enough. Having a crush is fine and it doesn't matter if he feels the same way or not. Guys cause way too much drama in a girls life anyway.
First get everything else figured out in your life, then you can stress out about boys.
It will all be fine. Good luck!
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hey there
I know what you are going through. Being a tween/teenager is such a rough time. There's always lots of drama and lots of pressure put on you. At this age, you're always competing.. competing for guys, being the prettiest, having the most friends, being the smartest, being the best at everything.. well let me tell you this- none of those things really matter.
I'm 18- that's 6 years older than you. I went through the same thing you did, and almost everybody went through this too. Its called growing up. Everybody has experienced it at least once. Let me give you a heads up- none of these things matter. I used to think that I had to have a lot of friends, be really popular, look the prettiest and have a ton of boyfriends. That was just high school haha. But then I realized.. i'm never going to see these people again. Why does it matter?? Why should I put myself through all of this trouble, if it doesn't matter?
Set aside those stupid "stereotypes" and be your own person.
You're young. You should be enjoying life and having tons of fun. Don't start stressing about these stupid little things. Actually, i wish I could go back to being 12 years old and take my own advice. I regret so much that I was worrying constantly and always pushing myself way too hard. I never really had any fun either. Because I was pushing myself and it just wore me out and I never really had fun.
Do you know what living life actually means?? its not about how much money you have, or how many friends, or how pretty you are.. that's not how you "live" life. Living life is when you're happy. YOU are happy. You are pleasing yourself and doing things to your fullest potential. This means you shouldn't do things to please other people. Do whatever makes you happy, and let other people think what they want. Because in the end, their opinions will never matter. All that matters is that you're having the best time of your life. 10 years from now, you want to look back at your life and smile, and think "wow. I had so much fun when I was 12." instead of thinking- "I had a terrible time when I was 12 because i was always worrying about small stupid things".
Just go out and be your own person and have fun! If small things like acne and being overweight annoy you, then try eliminating them (in a safe way!). Wash your face 2x a day and use acne products. Work out more to lose a few pounds. Get that courage to talk to that cutie boy and ask him for his phone number and to hang out. Hang out with your friends and go do fun things like a girls night out, shopping, sleepovers etc.
Don't worry about the small things because they never matter. All that matters is that YOU are happy :)
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About the bulling, tell your parents. Get it stopped. I know how you feel. Im 13, i was in your shoes less than a year ago. It gets better. About the pimply thing, take showers everyday. Ask your parents/guardians to buy you some acne was. Its like $4 at the store. About the crushing on the guy. That happened to me too. Except I went out with the guy, and I really did not like it. Relationships never last
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Awwh BabyyGirl keep your head up, this is just a bad phase your going through. Its gonna end trust me, i went through it before if you anyone to talk to im here for youu :)
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