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friend's insane mom keeping her from contacting me ever since she found out
ok so after she kept begging and begging, i finally told my bff (who is a straight girl and who i really like as more than a friend) that im bi but when she got mad at me she told another girl and her mom. when we made up i wanted her to come over but she said her mom wont let her call or text or have any out of school contact with me. so one time i decided to text her anyway and this is what i said: i just wanted 2 say i love you. you dont have 2 text back but i just wanted you to know that" i figured she would take it as a friendly "i love you" but i guess she didnt. . .so i guess her mom read the text and my friend came into school and she goes "my mom is scared that you r gonna screw me and eat me out" so i said "we are in 7th grade not high school! and besides i would never do something you didnt want me to do to you and i could never force you to do that!" ive never told her to her face that i like her but i know she knows. and she told her mom that i like her too. anyway, so her number shows up on my cell and so i opened the text and it said "this is her mother. please stop texting her" and i wrote back "um ok but i havent been texting her recently but ok" i dont know if her mother is a homophobic (which seems unlikey because her parents are lesbians) or if shes insane or what. i dont know what to do but it hurts to not be able to contact my friend at all because of her mother. please help me and offer some advice on what to do and say,opinions, etc. p.s. i cant tell my parents anything about this because i am not ready to tell them i am bi.
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Okay, the next time her mother txts you and tells you to stop talking to your friend tell her that you are not going to. She cant pick her daughters friends. She cant control who her daughter hangs out with. And reasure her mother that you wont do anything to your friend. Try to have her mother understand your intentions and tell her that you do like her, but wont take things further without her own consent.
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I would be hesitant to place a label on your sexuality. At your age both boys and girls are still trying to figure out their sexuality. To label yourself as bi would not only be wrong but self defeating at this time. To even put this in the category of a phase that most young people go through would not be right either.
There are a number of reasons for sexual attraction to someone of our own sex at this age. First and foremost is the fact it is safer and easier to relieve the sexual tension brought on by the changing hormones your body is producing. Parents generally think nothing of two children of the same sex being behind closed doors, sleeping together, even in the same bed, particularly females.
I have known women that have been bi all through college, then gone straight heterosexual afterwards. Reason it was easier and sex was more available if you were bi; it was also safer.
As for why your friends parents, who as you say are lesbians, feel and are treating you the way they are. The only thing I can think of is they want your friend to discover her sexuality on her own. They may also feel she is to young to be experiencing any type of sexual contact at her age, which I'm guessing you are both around 13.
Being 13 is far to young to be having sex of any type. It is okay to fantasize about sex and sexuality it is another to actually have sex.
My advise is that you stop telling people you are bi for I don't think you truly are bi. I think you love, generically, both boys and girls which is giving you the feeling you are bi. Wait until you are older, more of an adult and can truly understand your sexuality before you stick a label on yourself.
I see nothing wrong with being bi, bi-curious, gay or lesbian. As your finding out other people do have a problem with it, especially in someone as young as you. So wait until your more of an adult and had the opportunity to more fully explore your sexuality. Do not be in a rush to have sex. Certainly 13 year olds should not be having sex of any type.
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