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Why do others call me stuck up cause I'm shy?
Why do others call me stuck up cause I'm shy?
I'm not around family and friends. I'm just sometimes quiet around people I never talked too or I'm quiet when I'm tired. Sometimes when I first meet people it takes me a while to come out of my shell cause I think I'm going to get judged . I'm happy and smiling all of the time. That’s just how I am, a happy person. Since elementary school I've heard girls say that I'm stuck up or "I think I'm all that". I honestly feel like I'm the nicest person I never talked bad about someone even behind their backs. There's no point if you think about it, you never know what someone's going through. I'm not a bitch. It won't get you anywhere in the future. Can someone tell me why people do call me stuck up cause I'm shy? I really don't get it
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I've had this same problem since...forever!People have always assumed that because I'm not as talkative as them that I must think I'm above them. If you think about it, it's petty arrogant for them to have a specific criteria that only "non stuck up people" adhere to. As if you're some social pariah for not being the EXACT way they want you to be.From your post, you seem like a genuinely kind, understanding person who is constantly being misunderstood due to the complete lack of effort from others. The people that assume you're stuck up, I bet have never taken the time to GET to know you, have they? I know from experience that they seldom ever do. And even then it feels like some sociological experiment, right? As if they're trying to get you to say something to reaffirm what they already think of you. I know it's frustrating to be accused of that when you KNOW it's the farthest thing from the truth, but as long as you continue to be yourself, who you are is enough to destroy any misconceptions people have about you. And even if it doesn't, the people who care about you and know who you are are already in your life. The ones who deserve your friendship will always gravitate towards you. Hope this helps!!! :)
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I have the same EXACT problem! Really the best way to deal with it is not worry about what people say because they don't even know you. If they are too judgmental to get to know who you actually are then its their loss!They are not any better off insulting someone they don't even know anyway. I'm sure it will work out once they get to know you. Hope I helped!(:
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Don't worry about it. People will only say things like that becuase their jealous. If you were stuck up, they wouldn't waste time making fun of you, Insecure, thats all. R
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I know someone that has the same problem. Its because you dont talk much and so people asume things about you because of it. They dont know the real you.
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Hey there(: Yah I hear that a lot around school about people. The reason why they call you that is because you don't talk to a lot of people and they think the reason why you don't talk to people is because your to good to talk to them. In other words they think you think your to good to talk to people. Thats the main reason why. I know your just shy but some people just underestimate people. Thats the reason why though. I hope I helped good luck(:
xoxo Madison
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I've gotten that a couple times. Just because you're shy doesn't mean you're stuck up and they don't get that.
If you want them to stop saying all that crap then start talking some more. Either that or you can just ignore their comments because they're the ones that are judging, not you.
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Let me explain something....
Sometimes silence can give off the wrong impression, I myself am also introverted and I am certainly not the social butterfly at all. From another persons perspective you don't talk and because you don't talk that much it could make other people think that you have a problem with them, conceited or just simply a bitch. Does this make you one? No.
There are a number of people who don't seem to understand that people with anxiety disorders have a hard time putting themselves out there. I have heard a never ending "Just talk more, Who cares what other people think" The thing people don't seem to understand is it isn't that easy. If you want to overcome your anxiety then you should seek some counseling and see if your doctor suggest you to go on anxiety medication that will help you cope with your daily life.
Also, Who cares about what other people think? If someone doesn't want to put the time and effort into getting to know the real you then it is their loss. Perhaps these people can't stand to see you happy all the time? Just keep smiling and be yourself if you think you should then try talking more. :)
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i agree with jasmine, Maybe you should start talking a bit more. Because im a VERY LOUD person im not shy at all and sometimes il meet new people and they just stay quiet the whole time, so abviously i assume they dont like me? and that makes you look stuck up, so if u can help it try being a little more talkative (:
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They think your stuck up because your not talking,.
Now you could be shy but to some people being quiet and just smiling,. and not talking is a body language of saying im not talking to you because you dont deserve my words,. because im better than you,.
So be very careful even when being shy.
Hope this helps:)
~Jasmine*
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