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Is she interested or just being friendly?
There is this girl at work who I like and have a thing for and who i think may have a thing for me, and we both get along well with each other ( said by someone else) , for about a year now. I'd just like other poeple's opinion about the whole thing, given the following
* She occasionally calls me Boo boo, She also calls me different variations of my name in Italian aswell, which she learnt in school
* She had a boyfriend until 2 months ago. The way i found out about that makes me feel like it was a setup. My friend who let it slip,Dayna and myself were chatting about random tuff, i started walking away to my area, when Dayna said come back, so we could chat a bit more, which i did. Then my friend says how long has it been since you broke up and she says about a month.
* A work friend let slip to her (Dayna) that i like her. However she does not know that i know she knows
* I have kissed her twice on the cheek, which she initiated.
* We sometimes share drinks and food
* She recently (within the last week) asked for my number so she could "show me something", which turned out to be a photo she took of me a few days earlier. I've finally gotten her number aswell, which i've been after for a while
*She initiates most of the physical contact between us. Stuff like hugs, particularly from behind and/or when i'm not expecting it. Sometimes she pokes me and brushes my arm or butt when walking past sometimes. Also she sometimes leans her head on my shoulders. On occassion she will come up behind me and lock arms so we are arm in arm
* We sometimes stare at each other in a good way
* On several occasions she has asked would i still be her friend if she changed her hair colour, or coloured her nails or altered her hair style or something trivial
* On a few occassions over the last few weeks, when we have been alone for a bit at work, she has drawn love hearts on my hand and wrists.
* We almost always ask each other when we will each be next working to see when we are both on.
Having said all this, she is the flirty type, but compared to what i know, i get the "special treatment". Also a few months ago (8-9 months when she was still with her boyfriend), a friend from work took it upon themselves to ask Dayna if there was anything happening between me and her, and apparently she replied is that I am like an older brother to her.
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she definitely can be the "flirty type". I have plenty of girl friends who will constantly flirt with other guys, even if they don't have much interest in them. Its their way to "practice" flirting on guys they don't like- meaning.. it will be easier to flirt with guys they like.
But I could be wrong.. she could really like you. All they signs she's showing definitely means she's attached to you. you might be considered an "older brother" but note this- she said that to another friend.. she didn't say that to you... You should know, girls say 1 thing to their friends, but say something different to guys they like. I would know because I have done the same thing. The traditional "do you like him?" and I tell my friends "no" but when i'm around him, i'm constantly thinking "yes i do". So she could have just been telling her friend that you're like an older brother. Or should could be honest about that.
If you want my opinion, You need to look at her history more. How many close personal friends does she have? If she has practically no good close friends, then she could just think of you as a best friend/brother. but if she has a lot of good personal friends, then she could like you more than friends. Did anything bad happen to her lately? If something bad happened to her lately, she could just feel sad and lonely, and only likes you so she can feel loved and close to someone.
but honestly... the only way you can find out the absolute true answer is if you talk to her about it. Ask her to hang out and just plain straight out ask her how she feels about you. It might be easier if you tell her how YOU feel about HER. Then ask her.
PS: girls don't like it when guys drag on the conversation and talk endlessly. Its easier for us to understand if you just get to the point right away. If she needs/wants more details, she will ask for them.
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