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I'm 21 years old, have had my share of different types of relationships so I enjoy answering love life questions. Whether it's about getting closer emotionally or physically don't hesitate to ask, hopefully I'll be able to help. I also love the medical field and will be a registered nurse soon. If you have any questions regarding a recent medical diagnosis (don't ask for one please, not a doctor) I can help you better understand it and the treatment as well

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last night, we were up late together in person.
we started a small argument about wanting and not wanting to do sexual things with each other. then he began to cry (which he rarely does) and said that he was sorry for forcing me to do something i didn't want to. i told him it was alright, but he didn't believe me.
so today, he didn't answer my text for about 20 minutes and i was like, alright that's fine. then he texted me - "baby, i'm so sorry i didn't text you back quicker. i'm such an asshole, i should have paid more attention." i was like, what? o.O because i didn't care that he didn't reply ASAP. i can live without him texting me within 20 minutes.
it's just pretty recent.. and i don't know why he's suddenly so clingy to me. sometimes he jokes around like, "ohh you can't get out of the car until you kiss me :)".
i love him to death and i like my space. any ideas why its so sudden?

I dont see the problem... you say you want to keep your space but all he's doing is telling you stuff. Clingy would be always asking to do something, maybe asking you to drop plans you already had for him. Like i said i don't see the problem and this being more attentive should end soon, when he see's it doesn't make a difference to you. If you want him to stop being that way then all you have to do is not say the same type of things back.

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ok, when i try to upload pictures onto my ipod touch, it doesn't seem to be working. :( i only want this one picture, me and my idol (christofer drew. :) ) well, anyway, i want to put it like as my background, instead of that earth.. i made a seperate folder, and i think its in there, but it says 0 pictures, in that one thing. :( i don't know why, & i don't know what i'm doing wrong.. can anyone help me out??

I dont sync the pictures i get. If the picture you want is on your computer:
1. Send it to your email address
2. Check your email with your ipod
3. Click and wait for the pictures to load
4. Then double tap on them and it'll ask if you want to save the image

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Hey,I think i have a real problem with dudes..or do I? It never fails,I just cant never seem to keep a dude.Either they cheat,about to cheat,or lie.Is it me?Do i have a problem?Boys really know how to hurt a girl.There was this boy that "so-called" had a crush on me.I was a junior back then and he was a star player on the basketball team so i was soooo happy because he was an athelete.But his friend and my friend hooked us up.We exchanged numbers and all was good until....the ex girlfriend came back around.Ugh!! I was so mad.Everytime i turned around it seemed like she was always following him.She was also a cheerleader so they always saw each other at the games.I guess she decided she wanted him back because sooner or later i found out through the school gossip that they were a couple again.I was crushed.He never really broke-up with me or anything..just left me hanging.I will never forgive him for that.And there were also many realation-ships just like that one in my life.I'm always gettin left for someone of a more,lets just say,"higher standard".Now iam single and i refuse to ever date again..I just cant do it.Do you guys ever think I will find true love because i dont.I just cant trust dudes and I dont wanna take my chances.Somebody please give me advice because i'am so lonely but i just dont wanna be held by the wrong hands...Thanks for listening.

You were in high school, what did you expect guys to be like. Don't give up on dating, i can give you a couple of things a good guy would look for. You said you were always getting hurt by bad guys. Maybe its because of the vibe you were giving off, maybe a little to flirty? Or how you dress? Im going to be a senior in high school and i cant hurt a girl whether i care about them or not. What i found attractive and what i liked about my last girlfriend was how she dressed, how she acted, talked. She rarely ever dressed revealing, and in school never. She wouldn't go up to every guy to talk to them. When she first met me all she did was introduce herself.
If you want a good guy those are the things we look for. GL don't give up

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im 13 and i am already getting white stuff and i was wondering when will i get my period

It depends, unless you've had other types of discharges (clear and stretchy, clear and watery). I cant tell you when you will have it. You may get a white discharge at the beginning and end of your cycle. It could come in less then a week or 2 weeks.
http://www.pamf.org/teen/health/femalehealth/discharge.html
This website will help you better predict when your getting your period and how to tell if you have an infection

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im 14/f and theres this guy i like and i feel stupid about he cause we dont even know each other at all like weve never even said a word to each other befor i want to get to know him better but hes reallyshy and dosnt talk much to people he dosnt know what should i do??

He's not gunna talk to you much at first, but keep talking to him until he feels more comfortable with you. I'm pretty shy myself and it takes me a while to have a long conversation with someone. Don't worry about getting rejected or anything if he's shy it might look like he is but he's not.

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My whole life, so far anyways, has been one, big, miserable hell. I'm going to be 19 in September and I don't feel like I can trust anybody. I've been told I'm pretty even beautiful, but I am not popular. Everybody makes fun of me, all throughout school they've made fun of me. My friends make fun of me, my family makes fun of me, and they do it in front of people who just met me which gives them a bad impression of me. I feel like everyone hates me because of some of the stuff they say. Everyone talks down to me when I say how I feel and I just hate it! Everyone seems to want to know how you feel and then when you tell them, they yell at you! I hate my life, and I hate being alive. No one would miss me if I was dead, so why does God keep me alive?

Your whole life is only miserable because your making it that way. People making fun of you? Really? God isnt making you care what they think of you. You do. Stop caring, if you dont like them what do they matter? If you told me your life was miserable because of things you couldnt stop like i dunno getting robbed of everything you had or getting diagnosed with a incurable disease thats going to kill you, then i would understand. You cant magically cure that disease but you can stop caring what other people have to say about you. Your 18 its about time to grow up and realize that kind of stuff doesn't matter.

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My best friend since like forever won't talk to me! Well I mean she does, but not like she use to. We use to tell each other everything and now she won't tell me what's going on with her. She doesn't talk to me on the phone anymore as much as she use to. I know it's probably something she doesn't want to talk about, but I really want to help her. I should probably drop it. What do you think I should do!?
:(

She's the type of person that just wants someone to be there to talk to. As if there was nothing wrong don't keep trying to ask her whats wrong. You can help her by just being there.

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okay so all my boyfriend talks about is having sex with me and doing things with me. and i'm sooo not that type of girl...like ill do some things with him but not to the point of having sex with him... like thats just not who i am. but stupid stupid me went and said to him okay ill have sex with you!! i feel sooo stupid and i feel like im setting him up and getting him all excitted for it and im not even going to have sex with him... like this is allll he talks about and i guess im asking....how do i break it to him that im not who he thinks i am and i dont want to have sex with him?????

any questions about my question just ask.
any advicee is so GREATLY appreciatedd!!!!
please and thanks
-cuttechick26

I have a couple of questions.
1. Why are you with him? If all he does is talk about having sex with you. Instead of making plans, trying to make you happy, telling you how happy is that your together. You know a real relationship.
2. What are you getting out of this? It doesn't sound like your happy about him telling you how much he wants to have sex with you. Most girls wouldn't be. Did he just start doing this after you went a little too far the night before? Then tell him to stop looking forward to something that's never gunna happen.
This is something that you should have talked about before deciding to be together. Better late then never tell him what kind of girl you are and what kind of guy that you are looking for. That guy might just be him. Good Luck and if he gets mad about you not having sex with him dump him.

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Hi I'm Hailey and I'm 17

I've been dating my boyfriend for two months after talkign for 4 years. We are in love and I don't know what i would do without him. Usually i ditch a guy before the first month is up but with him its different. But the only problem is i cheeted on him wiht an ex boyfriend the first week we went out before he really meant much to me. the other night when he slept over he read my diary entry about how i cheeted and was very upset. he eventually go over it and realizes that our love is to strong to throw away over one mistake. is this normal? and should i be mad for him reaind my diary?
thanks sooo much

Eventually? How long did it take him to get over it? If it was like a day then somethings wrong. If all you did was sit back and wait for him to get over it. Then what you have isnt love. If you did everything to get his trust back then i could understand. Your really lucky that hes taking you back. I hope your joking about being mad at him for reading your diary.

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Okay. Well , I have like absolutly NO arm muscle.
I can do like half a push up. && when I flex its like no muscle what so ever? How do I qet some biceps && triceps? Pleeasee && thankyou.

I like to work out my bicep's by using dumbbells. When i first started working out i started off with 15's but i had a little muscle. Maybe you should start off with 10's do 10 with each arms sitting down (Doing these while sitting is alot harder then standing up). Do as many sets as you can and dont wait so long in between sets try to do them as fast as possible. And when you can do 8 sets then go up some weight ( 15 to 20 20 to 25) Eventually you will be doing 35's maybe even 40's if you stick with it. As for triceps you can hold yourself up close to a bench and go down then back up ( i hope you know what i mean its tough to explain) start off by doing 10 and as many sets as you can. When you get to be doing 5 sets start doing 20 and when you can do 5 sets of 25 then find a workout with weights unless your happy with the size of your triceps. Good Luck

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this guy and i liked each other, and it was going great. i had the feeling that he liked me more. i was scared to hurt him so i told him i only wanted to be friends. do you think he'll see me the same?

What do you mean see you the same? Do you mean be as close to you as he was b4? Well if that's what your asking it depends how it ended and if he did like you. If he liked you alot he probably will stay close. But it also depends if the 2 of you have had problems in the past. Was this the first time you stopped talking as more then friends? If its not and if he didn't make a effort to stay with you hes going to want to get over you and that means staying away from you. Can i ask you a question? If you do like him why would you hurt him and how? It sounds like your a great person from the choice you made but you should also pay attention to what he wants. Good Luck and you can answer my question on the feedback thanks

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my wife pressured me into a big mortage and many other fininical areas.I know it was my fault for saying yes, but i could not handle the rentless pressure.Now i have lost almost evreything i had even my will to succede.I love her but not in love.i feel she has taken advantage of my heart.now she is trying to fix it but i dont want her to. I am lost in life what should i do

I don't get why you don't want her to fix it. She's your wife she loves you. Your not in love with her? Were you ever in love with her? If you were at one point you can be again. She made a mistake and you let it happen if you want a great relationship with your wife you need to speak up. You should have let her know that you weren't comfortable with it. Your just confused right now give her a chance to make up for it. Here's one of my favorite website's http://www.marriagebuilders.com/
Read some of the articles when you can. And good luck

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My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. When we first met he was a "trouble maker" and occasionally did drugs. He has completely changed his life around and no longer is a part of that scene because he knows that I do not approve of anything like that. We went to a party last week with some of his old friends and I got a bad vibe. I asked him to be honest with me and he told me that he did cocaine. What do I do? I don't want to instantly be mad at him because at least he told me the truth when he could have just lied and said he didn't do anything, but I do not want to be with someone who is okay with using drugs. I don't want to say ill leave him if he does it again or anything because then he will never admit to it if it happens again and I want him to be truthful. Help!

Addictions are hard to overcome but it is possible and hes going to have to choose between you and drugs. You will leave him right? if he decides to keep doing drugs? Talk to him about it find out if he wants to quite so he can stay with you. He probably will say yes give him a chance and keep an eye on him. He might make SOME mistakes. When i say some mistakes i don't mean once a month or every other month he does it. I mean give him 1 or 2 more chances to prove himself. Good Luck

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I can kind of understand why my dad doesn't want me alone with guys, but at the same time, I really do need to start to be more independent. The thing is that I am 16 years old and I think I am pretty mature. I haven't really screwed up anywhere; I get amazing grades, make an effort to help around the house, and I'm generally respectful to my parents. I'm sober too, which isn't the case for my brother. They don't trust him very much, but they let him go out with a girl if he wants to. It's a pretty messed up double standard. Lately, there's a guy who I really like and we aren't exactly dating but it's understood that we both like eachother. Anywyas, I want to talk to my dad about this, but talking to him makes me really nervous because he just says something like "no you can't go" without giving me a reason. He doesn't say, "I don't want you to have a boyfriend" he just says no to everything. Even when it's me and another girl and the guy, my dad is still skeptical. I want to be honest with him but it doesn't work. When I tell the truth about who I want to hang out with, he is against it. So I've had to lie a lot lately to hang out with him, but I'm tired of it. I talked to my mom and she said she knows I already had a boyfriend once so obviously I can do whatever I want, but my dad is very hard to read. Can someone help me out. Thanks

The only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Get a reason for why he doesn't want you to spend time with guys. If it's "your too young to be dating". Remind him of how mature you are try not to compare yourself to others (never works). Don't give up and when he does let you. Don't give him a reason to regret it. Good Luck

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*i'm sorry, this might be a bit long.. but i need to say all of this so it'll make alot more sense.

sooo, i just got a boyfriend... ever since 12/29/08
he's sixteen and i'm fifteen.

what i mean by he's not that active, is not in a sexual way.. but i mean in a relationship way.
before we started going out, he SAID that he liked me.. but didn't really seem like it.
he doesn't text or call me as much as he did before, makes it seem like he was losing interests in me. and whenever i texted him, he only texts back when he WANTS to. makes me feel like i'm just there, because he WANTS me to be there.

before, i couldn't take it anymore.. so i texted him saying that he was confusing, and he FINALLY texted back asking why. and i said "tell me this honestly, do you like me or not?" he goes "yeah.. why does it seem like i don't?" and i said "somewhat" and he goes "why" and i said, "because you SAY that you do, but it doesn't seem like it." and he told said "that's because i'm not sure if you like me" that kind of made me go like "what the heckk?" because I'M the one that's been texting him, and he's the one that hasn't been answering. but, we worked that out... but he can't really use that excuse anymore since we're together now.

my last couple of relationships, i didn't take really seriously. but this time, i would actually try to make this one work out. but the relationship can't work out if only ONE person tries to make it work, right? SUPPOSEDLY i'm the first girl that had ever gaven him 'butterflies' and really liked before going out with. he says so, but it sure doesn't seem like it. i'm not sure if he's busy or what not.. but after we went out, my boyfriend doesn't even seem like a boyfriend! our last conversation ended with "HAPPY NEW YEAR!" and "YOU TOO!" *ends...

i would talk to him about it, but it'd probably end up the same as before.. i'm not even sure if he even takes this relationship seriously or not. because i don't want to, if he isn't going to.

sooo, the questions that i'm wondering is.. what do you think is running through his mind? do you think he lost interest? what's your opinion on this? what should i do?

your response is very important to me! please & thank you (:

Alot of things could be running through his head. How did his past relationships end? Have you told him about yours? Did it make him feel uncomfortable? You said that you didn't take your previous relationships serious and maybe thats what he wants. I know you already talked to him but i think you should again this time about what type of relationship he wants. And make sure you tell him what you want even if its not what he wants. Good Luck

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ok sorry if this is long but i really need help i dont know what to do.

me and my b.f have been going out for about 3 months soon on january 16th and recently i started talking to this guy that i met and now i think i like this guy way more then i do my own b.f. because he talks to me the way my b.f would never and tells me things we hung out yesterday and it was amazing no i didnt cheat im not like that but the problem is how can you like someone more then the person you lost your virginity to because me and my b.f had sex recently and i dont know that felt wrong like i know your first time is suppose 2 feel right but it was just all wrong and this other guy likes me and i know he doesnt becuase he told me today and im really confused

i think yea i really do like this kid but something isnt just there with me and my b.f so any advice on what i should do

oh and me and this kid have been talking for a bout a week now so im gonna have 2 wait i know and please dont give me any advice on following your heart or rap like that i herd enough of that so please anyone with normal advice please i need help i dont know if ill make a mistake by breaking it off with my b.f becuase he had a lot of problems in his life and im his longest relationship so i dont know

any advice please and i will rate high! thanxxxx =]

Well it seems like you don't know what you want. You lost your virginity to someone your not in love with. Thats not good. Tell your boyfriend that you have feelings for someone else so you can stop wasting his time. I suggest you start thinking about what you look for in a relationship b4 you get in one. Make sure the person has almost everything you want. By almost everything i mean you can look over the little things (Doesn't have to look perfect). You need to do this so you can lessen the chance of this happening again and other things that cause relationships to end. Good luck

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17/f

Recently my best friend and I have stopped talking. We are finished. Previously, we spent approximately eight hours a day together without problems. When I needed her the most she began to avoid me and we had an irreversible fight. I realize it is time to move on.

The problem, however, is that this reinforces my nature to avoid making too close of relationships (friends or romantic). I would never want to feel vunerable or alone after a break up so I put up walls to avoid getting into committed relationships. Is this healthy behaviour? I prefer not to trust people or become overly attached to them. Should I make a conscious decision to stop putting up these walls? Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it.

It's not good to be putting up walls because you don't want to get hurt again. I know its hard but if you keep doing this your never going to be happy. And if your thinking im just going to be doing this until im an adult and less likely to break-up well, its still not good because you might be missing out. I say take the walls down so you know you didn't miss out on anything and you wont have any regrets. Good luck

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Im thinking about getting a pit bull puppy. I was wondering if anyone has a pit bull and what they could tell me about their experiences and what advice they could give. Anything is appreciated!!

I don't think a pit bull is a good choice I've heard that they can get pretty aggressive when they get older.

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Okay, so, this past month my one best friend, he started liking this girl he met on myspace and facebook. She lives really close and whatever, so it's not like it'd be an online relationship if they'd date.

She had really strong feelings for him and he really likes her. She'd tell all her friends how cute he was, and how special he was, and whatever. And then she went to a party, and started talking to one of her guy friends who has a crush on her. She told my friend she kind of likes the other guy more now. They eventually met then.

Now, it elevated once again. She completely doesn't like him anymore, and just wants the other guy instead. Now my friend is in this big state of depression and I don't know what to say. I've been telling him to move on, that he doesn't need these games, but he just gets angry.

So.. What should I tell him?

Don't bring it up just be there for him. Try to keep his mind off of it you can ask him if he wants to hang out or something. Right now he's not ready to talk about it but he will be. Good Luck

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Can somebody give me a list of songs that will make me feel better about a break-up. A song that says: I dont need you, you cheated on me, im better off without you.

thanks i need to feel better...

Taylor Swift- Shoul've Said No
Taylor Swift- Cold As You
Renne Cassar- Forget To Breathe
Renne Cassar- Are You Happy Now
Michelle Branch- Goodbye To You

Sorry thats all I have hope you feel better.


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