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Refusal to be Vunerable
17/f
Recently my best friend and I have stopped talking. We are finished. Previously, we spent approximately eight hours a day together without problems. When I needed her the most she began to avoid me and we had an irreversible fight. I realize it is time to move on.
The problem, however, is that this reinforces my nature to avoid making too close of relationships (friends or romantic). I would never want to feel vunerable or alone after a break up so I put up walls to avoid getting into committed relationships. Is this healthy behaviour? I prefer not to trust people or become overly attached to them. Should I make a conscious decision to stop putting up these walls? Thanks for your advice, I really appreciate it.
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Its probably not real healthy behavior. :)
You will meet many people in your life.
Some will remain in your life and others
will just be there a short time. You learn
something from them all. Even what type
to avoid so you DON'T get hurt.
So stop putting up walls. You might miss
out on some great friendships. Not all
your relationships will be long lasting
at any age, but you just don't avoid
having them.
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It's not good to be putting up walls because you don't want to get hurt again. I know its hard but if you keep doing this your never going to be happy. And if your thinking im just going to be doing this until im an adult and less likely to break-up well, its still not good because you might be missing out. I say take the walls down so you know you didn't miss out on anything and you wont have any regrets. Good luck
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