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My dad doesn't like me to be around guys
I can kind of understand why my dad doesn't want me alone with guys, but at the same time, I really do need to start to be more independent. The thing is that I am 16 years old and I think I am pretty mature. I haven't really screwed up anywhere; I get amazing grades, make an effort to help around the house, and I'm generally respectful to my parents. I'm sober too, which isn't the case for my brother. They don't trust him very much, but they let him go out with a girl if he wants to. It's a pretty messed up double standard. Lately, there's a guy who I really like and we aren't exactly dating but it's understood that we both like eachother. Anywyas, I want to talk to my dad about this, but talking to him makes me really nervous because he just says something like "no you can't go" without giving me a reason. He doesn't say, "I don't want you to have a boyfriend" he just says no to everything. Even when it's me and another girl and the guy, my dad is still skeptical. I want to be honest with him but it doesn't work. When I tell the truth about who I want to hang out with, he is against it. So I've had to lie a lot lately to hang out with him, but I'm tired of it. I talked to my mom and she said she knows I already had a boyfriend once so obviously I can do whatever I want, but my dad is very hard to read. Can someone help me out. Thanks
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I know all dads are like that in some way but yours seems like he dosen't want you to get in any trouble and turn out like your brother. He might just be afraid of losing his little girl. But anyways, what i would do is have a sit down talk with him and tell him exactly what you put on here about being a good kid and everything and you won't do anything to disobey his trust. If he won't listen, try to get your mom to help explain since she seems like she dosen't have a problem with it. Hope this helps! Good luck!
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Ask your mom how to go about approaching
the subject with your dad. If anyone knows,
she does. Maybe she can at least tell him
that he isn't communicating well with you
and that you should be able to talk to him.
Make sure you let dad know that you really
want to be able to come to him about things
but that he sometimes makes it very difficult
to do so.
Also realize that it isn't you he doesn't
trust, but the guys. He knows how they can be!
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The only thing you can do is talk to him about it. Get a reason for why he doesn't want you to spend time with guys. If it's "your too young to be dating". Remind him of how mature you are try not to compare yourself to others (never works). Don't give up and when he does let you. Don't give him a reason to regret it. Good Luck
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Well,if your brother is older,its probably your parents firstborn,right? well,they see how he is,and they dont want you to be like that.your parents just want the best for you,i think you should just start sneaking out.works for me,im a huuggge daddys girl and he hates it when i hang out with guys.
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My dad is the same way. I'm 17 and I wasn't allowed to date until i was 16....finally i just got fed up with it and told him that i was tired of being treated like a little kid. It was hard to get him to understand but he eventually gave in. Just list off the reasons of why he can trust you....then ask him what his reasons of not trusting you are...if there isn't any then he won't know what to say and he will probably give you a little more freedom. I hope that helped you in some way :] don't give up...he has to let go sometime and he will realize that
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