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What makes a good girlfriend?
Hey,I think i have a real problem with dudes..or do I? It never fails,I just cant never seem to keep a dude.Either they cheat,about to cheat,or lie.Is it me?Do i have a problem?Boys really know how to hurt a girl.There was this boy that "so-called" had a crush on me.I was a junior back then and he was a star player on the basketball team so i was soooo happy because he was an athelete.But his friend and my friend hooked us up.We exchanged numbers and all was good until....the ex girlfriend came back around.Ugh!! I was so mad.Everytime i turned around it seemed like she was always following him.She was also a cheerleader so they always saw each other at the games.I guess she decided she wanted him back because sooner or later i found out through the school gossip that they were a couple again.I was crushed.He never really broke-up with me or anything..just left me hanging.I will never forgive him for that.And there were also many realation-ships just like that one in my life.I'm always gettin left for someone of a more,lets just say,"higher standard".Now iam single and i refuse to ever date again..I just cant do it.Do you guys ever think I will find true love because i dont.I just cant trust dudes and I dont wanna take my chances.Somebody please give me advice because i'am so lonely but i just dont wanna be held by the wrong hands...Thanks for listening.
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You were in high school, what did you expect guys to be like. Don't give up on dating, i can give you a couple of things a good guy would look for. You said you were always getting hurt by bad guys. Maybe its because of the vibe you were giving off, maybe a little to flirty? Or how you dress? Im going to be a senior in high school and i cant hurt a girl whether i care about them or not. What i found attractive and what i liked about my last girlfriend was how she dressed, how she acted, talked. She rarely ever dressed revealing, and in school never. She wouldn't go up to every guy to talk to them. When she first met me all she did was introduce herself.
If you want a good guy those are the things we look for. GL don't give up
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you need to look at their character and really see if their a good person before you get so obsessed with them.
you said boys really know how to hurt a girl...but girls really know how to let them self become hurt. This bball player prob just wanted to talk and find out more about you too see if you were a good match. did you guys even date?
Look what most guys want, is a low matinence genuinely nice, but still smoking hot chick, that they would love to take home to meet their mom, and take back to their room. When you first meet a guy, dont scare him off by being so into him! You have to let them come to you sometimes. You have to get better at picking the guys, or else you will continue to get hurt. good luck and if guys dont work out you can always go lesbian
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I agree with Matt. You can't date somebody because of where they stand socially. Would you like someone doing that to you? That's hurtful and offensive. You need to be accepting, not particular. I mean, the way you make him sound seems like the typical jock who's popular and rude. Why would you like him anyway? Because he's athletic? And that's it?
He didn't stay with you long until his ex came back into his life. And you've said all the guys you've dated have cheated or were about to cheat. Well, if they're anything like the guy we're talking about now, why does this surprise you!?
You're a huuuuge part of the problem! You make it seem like you only date SOME guys; only the guys who LOOK GOOD NEXT TO YOU! You can't do that, because I can guarentee that you will never find the perfect guy, someone who won't cheat, be disrespectful in any way, and so on.
You can fix this problem by yourself, you need to be genuine and accepting of people. If you're going to be one of those girls who thinks their boyfriend has to be some perfect, athetic, handsome and popular guy, you will never find someone.
I'm sorry if this isn't what you wanted, but I'd want the honest truth if this was my problem.
Good luck, and I hope I helped.
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"i was soooo happy because he was an athelete."
That this matters to you shows you just want status. You just want something you can show off. You just want something that will make you feel better about yourself. You're dating shitty guys because you accept shitty guys. You're not dating based off of your feelings, you're dating based off of how big their social cocks are. That's why you're getting fucked. If you don't like getting pounded, stop it. You're letting it happen, you're inviting it to happen, and if you keep at it, it just shows you want it to happen.
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I know this may sound stupid..but it's honestly not you, it's them. Guy's, especially when they're young, can't seem to control themselves. You dated an athlete? Yeah not a good idea! They're usually the one's who flirt with many girls all the time. Maybe you should try finding a different type of guy? Someone who's different from everyone else you dated. Wouldn't hurt to try. That's the whole part of growing older..you have to find out things about yourself, that's something that you should find out. Going for older guys doesn't hurt either..they're usually more mature than the high school/early college years one's. Don't let a few guy's discourage your from dating again. However, maybe there may be something you're doing wrong? Think about all your relationships and evaluate how you acted, treated, and talked to the men you dated. Remember: don't ever settle for less than what you want!
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