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boyfriend&drugs
My boyfriend and I have been together for about two years. When we first met he was a "trouble maker" and occasionally did drugs. He has completely changed his life around and no longer is a part of that scene because he knows that I do not approve of anything like that. We went to a party last week with some of his old friends and I got a bad vibe. I asked him to be honest with me and he told me that he did cocaine. What do I do? I don't want to instantly be mad at him because at least he told me the truth when he could have just lied and said he didn't do anything, but I do not want to be with someone who is okay with using drugs. I don't want to say ill leave him if he does it again or anything because then he will never admit to it if it happens again and I want him to be truthful. Help!
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It doesn't sound like he's an addict. It sounds like he was peer pressured into doing something he'd done before.
I would talk to him. Ask him why he did it. Tell him you aren't mad, but just that you want to understand. Ask him why he wants to snort lines, what about it does he not want to give up.
To be honest, its kinda his choice. It doesn't sound like he's a loser addict, or that its affecting anything other than you not liking it, so talk to him about it from a "I want to understand" perspective and see what you can work out together.
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Addictions are hard to overcome but it is possible and hes going to have to choose between you and drugs. You will leave him right? if he decides to keep doing drugs? Talk to him about it find out if he wants to quite so he can stay with you. He probably will say yes give him a chance and keep an eye on him. He might make SOME mistakes. When i say some mistakes i don't mean once a month or every other month he does it. I mean give him 1 or 2 more chances to prove himself. Good Luck
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Just sit him down and tell him how you feel tell him that when he does drugs and deosnt tell you it makes you feel scared for him and i agree with you when you said you wouldnt tell him you would leave him if he does it again or something but tell him you really care about him and if he truly cares for you he will stop and if he stops then thats great if not then i think you should just not date him but you could just be friends with him that way you can still help him out or my last suggestion stay with him and help him stop and although it will be hard seeing him do drugs just remember one day he will stop and things will work out. good luck :D
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