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why is my boyfriend suddenly becoming clingy?
last night, we were up late together in person.
we started a small argument about wanting and not wanting to do sexual things with each other. then he began to cry (which he rarely does) and said that he was sorry for forcing me to do something i didn't want to. i told him it was alright, but he didn't believe me.
so today, he didn't answer my text for about 20 minutes and i was like, alright that's fine. then he texted me - "baby, i'm so sorry i didn't text you back quicker. i'm such an asshole, i should have paid more attention." i was like, what? o.O because i didn't care that he didn't reply ASAP. i can live without him texting me within 20 minutes.
it's just pretty recent.. and i don't know why he's suddenly so clingy to me. sometimes he jokes around like, "ohh you can't get out of the car until you kiss me :)".
i love him to death and i like my space. any ideas why its so sudden?
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Maybe if you guys have been going out a while he's starting to feel like you're losing interest, or maybe he thinks your becoming interested in other guys. I think if that is the case all you need to do is make sure he knows that you're only interested in him or that you're not getting bored or that you're just happy with the relationship. Although I would advise doing it in a more subtle way that just bluntly saying it to him. If it isn't the case that he is feeling this way then by saying these things you're not gonna look stupid or anything like that and if it is the case there should be a very obvious difference in the way he is acting. Therefore it is definately worth trying this approach, you can't lose =)
Hope your situation improves =)
Mike
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I dont see the problem... you say you want to keep your space but all he's doing is telling you stuff. Clingy would be always asking to do something, maybe asking you to drop plans you already had for him. Like i said i don't see the problem and this being more attentive should end soon, when he see's it doesn't make a difference to you. If you want him to stop being that way then all you have to do is not say the same type of things back.
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I think it's just that he's a nice guy. Yes, sometimes when guys see that they need to change, they become more nice and sensitive and attention giving/wanting because the stereotypical idea of a female is she wants romance, attention, lovey dovey, etc. If you don't like it, ask him whats up with the sudden change? I doubt anything fishy is going on, considering a lot of guys go through the clingy phase lol. good luck!
Uniq
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Well, that "not wanting to do certain sexual things" talk made him feel guilty because, as he said, he's sorry for forcing you to do something you didn't want to. You also said he didn't believe your apology..well, being clingy is his way of gettting forgivness from you. Talk to him about it, ask him why he's being like this all the sudden. I'm not certain..but I believe the whole forcing thing is a reason for this. But, I don't know him. So, your best bet would be to ask him yourself!
Good luck! :)
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