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:.Hey x3
My name is Emily and blah blah blah.


:.I have a lot of personal, family, and friend issues of my own so a lot of times, I can probably relate to you a lot of times if you have personal, family, and/or friend issues.


:.I can offer a lot of information, help, and advice on family and friend relationships, love lives, depression, stretching/flexibility, weight loss, violin, being organized, dog training, forensics (public speaking), keeping up with school/extracurricular activities, eating disorders, writing (stories and poems), and probably a lot of other random stuff like what to drink when you eat something spicy and why.


:.Although I can help a lot of you guys on the above subjects, I don't tend to take my own advice so it can become quite an awkward/ironic/contradicting situation for me or make myself sound like a complete and utter hypocrite.


:.Hannah Whitall Smith once said, "The true secret of giving advice is, after you have honestly given it, to be perfectly indifferent whether it is taken or not, and never persist in trying to set people right." I agree 100% of it. Advice is advice and it is given when asked for. I give it and I leave it at that. It's up to the questioner/advice seeker to take it.


:.That point leads onto my philosophies in advice giving:
1. Advice is given when asked and no time else, unless your friend is about to irritate a black bear, then you should definitely advice your friend to back away and run for his or her life.
2. Advice is not critical, not judgmental, and definitely not biased. Advice is advice and should remain neutral.
3. Advice is to help, not to get 5s on every answer. As a result, my advice ends up being quite blunt and frank with a hint of rambling mixed in.

If you have general questions on the topics I can be a lot of help in (as listed above), most likely, they will be in my FORUM

If it is not, you can inbox me to request me to put it up.

:.If you want to ask me a question directly...
a)if it is not urgent and can wait a week or so, inbox me.
b)if it is an urgent question such as "I'm being eaten by a shark! What do I do???" first of all, I'm quite amazed that you can type while being eaten and second of all, e-mail me at cancel.life@gmail.com. I will answer you by midnight of that day (or if it's 11:55PM, probably by 3PM the following day).

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how can i lews a few pounds before school starts?

Sorry to burst your bubble but you cannot lose weight fast and keep it off. Maybe you'll lose a large amount of weight in a short time, but you'll gain all that back as soon as you get off what I assume to be a "unhealthy diet" doubly as fast. You should only lose 1-1.5 lbs per week and that way, you can continue to keep it off.

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415

There's my forum. I have topics on losing weight, exercise, and a list of good foods you should stick with [the food list is under the topic "Fats, Carbs, and Protein, wtf???" or something like that. Note that those are not the only foods, but a very short version of the long list of good foods.]

Good luck and be safe

~Emily
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i have really bad acne and me and my friedns went to egt our eye brows done and there was this lady trhere they said that they do acne facials for 50.00 so i wanna know are they good? do they help? i just done wana pay 50 bucks for nothing. i tried evrything every cream out there for acne. it doesnt help ive tried from the most expensive brands and the cheaper ones but still nothing. so are facials good? have you eevr gotten them? did they help? thanks

I can't tell you if they're good or not because I personally have never tried them. But it's either good or bad results. But I do have a topic abut acne in my forum. The link to it is in my page [forum (clickidy click) and also typd forum at the end]

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depending on your face shape does the color of makeup you wear affect how you look? that was kindof confusing but i cant think of how to word it?
example: would a square face shape be ok with blue eyeshadow?
or does it not matter?

Make up usually depends on:
Skin tone [Olive, peach, etc]
Skin shade [light, fair, dark, etc]
Eye color
Hair color
And sometimes can be effected by your clothes color

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okay , so im fourteen . and i want to start using a tampon , because well pad's are nasty . and well , i tryed a small tampon and i put it in halfway before i took it out and when i took it out it hurt . my hymen isnt broken yet , thats why . idk what to do . because i wanna use one , but like ahhhh it hurts :/ and feels funny .

help ?

You're probably putting it in ay the wrong angle. Your hymen won't have much to do with it [tampons are rarely big enough to break it].

So, sit down or put one of your feet up on the toilet seat. And put the tampon at a 45 degree angle leaning towards the back and put it in slowly. And if that didn't make sense, read the instructions on the box. It should feel funny at first. But you'll get use to them. If they're really uncomfortable, that means it's not fully in as it should be. And you should take that one out and start with a new one.

~Emily
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hey i was hoping you could help me with this question.

Im 14/f, 5'3 and 140 pounds. All my fat goes to my love handles. My stomach is pretty flat but my love handles make my body look unproporational.
I can not wear tight clothes because of it, and that is the kind of style i like best! I am willing to take the time and effort to lose my love handles and i have tried to look for ways to do it, but i am always getting different answers and i am confused about what to do!

Thank you very much. I really appreciate if you can help me with this issue.

If you go to my column, you should see a link titled "forum [clickidy click!] and another one below at the very end titled "forum" or something like that. and they both lead to my, well, forum =) There, you should get tips on weight lose, toning exercises, stretching, etc.

You should be around 115lbs right now, and you can't lose those love handles until you shed the excess fat. Therefore, you need to work on that first: Lose Weight topic should help you with that. Along with that, I suggest you do the Toning Exercises [topic]. Read about Stretches [topic] too. And read about the "Fats, Carbs, Proteins, wtf???" Topic and try to stay with healthy foods listed on there. Now, that doesn't mean that those are the ONLY healthy foods. That was just a small list. The "Lose Weight" topic is NOT a diet in any way, shape, or form. It just helps lead you into a healthy and active LIFESTYLE.

As for the love handles, do the exercises for obliques, outer thighs, and lower abs. It should really help. Love handles are stubborn and not very much liked by anyone. Unfortunately, most everybody's genes are made so that they gain fat in their stomachs first and makes that spot the hardest to lose fat from. Great, huh?

Good luck!

~Emily
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What is the fastest way of getting rid of a pimple, like within 3 days, or atleast the redness. Dont say proactive or something like that, becuase i need to start tonight and that doesnt come fast sinse its mail order. Anyways any suggestions are appriciated

Go to my page and click the forum. In there, you should find a topic I posted up about acne. Yeah, I'm too lazy to go get the link...sorry =/

~Emily
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hi i am a 14/f who weighs about 200 i am about 5'5
what should my appropriate weight be for my height?
also what exercises would be good
running isn't the best for me because my neighborhood isn't so safe :)
thank you!!
-keisha lynn

You should be around 125lbs =/

http://www.advicenators.com/talkaboutme.php?userboard_id=35415

There's my forum. It has lots of tips and how to's for losing weight!

Good luck!

P.S. Do not be too vigorous on the first few weeks. You'll end up hurting yourself so take it slow and don't feel overwhelmed by thinking you have to do everything I mentioned in my forum =)

~Emily
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I need to buy 5 college textbooks. Where can I find the cheapest ones? Either online, or in stores? Also, where can i find out the exact texbook i need for the courses I am taking?

Thank You

Well, my sister goes to college and she's found that buying used testbooks online are much cheaper than at the college stores. So go on eBay or Amazone to browse for books. And the books will be listed in the course you're taking or if it isn't, e-mail your professor. I'm sure he/she will be glad to tell you

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how long does it usually take for a lip piercing to heal ? like how long do you have to keep it in after you pierce it before you can take it out ?

Well, for me...it took...*thinks*

About 2 months to completely heal. As in I could take it out for an hour or more without it FULLY closing up. I mean, sure I had to struggle a little to get it back in, but no biggie.

It really depends on each person and how they treat it. Like me, I got it without my parents' knowledge & I had to constantly take it in and out. They found out, but I think it was worth it. Anywhos if you keep it in and rinse with salt water to make it heal faster, who knows. It may heal faster =) If you have to take it out and when you try and put the stud/retainer back in and it won't go in smoothly, don't give up. Just push as hard as you can. It might hurt a little but it will work =) If you have anymore questions, just inbox me =)

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ok so im going vegetarian and i need some recipes or like product suggestions from all you veggie advicenators.like tofu recipes and such.

thanks.

Well, to start off, make sure you're getting all your nutrients, especially proteins. You should go to my forum [link's on my page] and click the topic "Fats, carbs, proteins, wtf???" Topic...or something like that. In there should be a list of good, healthy foods. You can choose to buy stuff from there.

As for recipes, go to www.allrecipes.com
On the orange bar on the top of the page, you should find "More Searches" Roll your mouse over on top and a list should drop down. Click Advanced search, put in the ingredients you want and check the box for Vegetarian on the right column. There should be a lot of recipes you can find on there. My favorite tofu recipes is probably a wrap. Get firm tofu, cut it up into 1/4" thick, small squares. Put some oil in a pan, salt the tofu, and fry it on both sides [5min on each about]. Take them out and set it aside. Get a flour tortilla [or whichever flavor you prefer] and heat it up on both sides. Put the tofu in the middle, put on some ranch, and spinach [optional], roll it up and eat =) Oh, you can put some cheese on there, too. But anywhos, that is really versatile [sp?] so don't be afraid to experiment. Tofu itself..you can do whatever you want to do with it =)

Um, you should definitely get lentils and make lentil soup, lasagna, etc. They're delicious and awesome source of protein =) Also, try Morning Star or Boca brand [Fake meat] Morning Star has Veggie Bites [Vegetarian nuggest], veggie patties, etc. Boca, I like more than Morning Star because it's cheaper and I think it's mroe delicious. Boca is vegan product, actually. lol.

Ummm, read ingredients carefully before you buy stuff because you never know when these people will slip in gelatin [fat form animals] or animal products in. Apparently, Coke Original has products dervied from animal products. That's just plain disgusting. Also, if you're going to eat at fast foods, McD's might not be too veg friednly with the oil they fry the fries in. BK I'm not too sure about...but I love their veggie burgers. Ramen from Top Ramen [or something like taht] is okay as long as it's Oriental Flavor or Vegetable Cup noodles. Those two only are veg friendly. Gelatin containing foods include but are not limited to: jell-o, gummies, jelly like food [except twizzlers], marshmellows, some yogurt, some marshmallows, and the frosting of a pop tart. Just make sure you don't eat gelatin...

I think I'll make a topic for vegetarianism in my forum so come back and check some time =)

~Emily
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why are people always like "oh you shouldnt have sex you're too young, wait for marriage." just because one person believes you should wait til marriage doesnt mean everyone else does and has to abide by that. people shouldnt be judged on what age they want to have sex at. it is THEIR opinion. and if they regret it, at least they learned from it. everyone makes mistakes. it is their OWN lives and people shouldnt tell them how to live or what to do.
i know I HATE when people tell me what to do.
i can make my own decisions.

Well, dear. Not everyone says to wait until marriage. And really, if a person got replies of someone's opinions on when someone should have sex, that implies that the person asked some people, thus people in return gave them their opinions. Nothing to get mad about.

And some people may be speaking from their own experience and they know that they were like the questionaer when they were young or thought the way you did. and they would just like to inform. It's not like they're saying "You're too young. Don't have sex orI'll shoot you." They're simply expression their opinions on the age for sex because someone asked for them.

Also, it may just be they grew up old school and they're set in their own ways.

~Emily
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ok well for a long time when i have became close to girls like become there friends, i thought i have had feelings for them. I am really not sure if it just like a friend thing or if i actually have feelings for them. I have never had it for two people at the same time.

Would you rahter hug them or kiss them?
If it's hug, you wanna be their friends.
It it's a kiss, you wanna be more.

Do you feel nervouse around them nowadays or not?
If you answered yes to the first one, you wanna be more.

There's not really any quizzes or tests out there that can tell you whether or not you like them as a friend or more. If you continue to think about them nonstop, you're crushing on her =)

Take a chance and ask one out when you feel 75% certain that you like her.

~Emily
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I want to create a MySpace layout site but I have no idea where I can create GOOD layouts.

Any Generator sites that are good?

P.S.- I'm just a beginner, any tips or suggestions I can use to make my first MySpace Layout sit.

Thanks!

Mygen.co.uk

Makesure that you make an account on there before you start creating. Or else you wn't be able to use the codes!!!

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I want to create a Quote site, where I can post up quotes, But I want something else, other than Xanga.com.

Any ideas?
Thanks! :)

Myspace
Facebook
Livejournal
Blogspot
Myyearbook
Tripod

=)

Ahhh, you must add these quotes:
"Be yourself. don't take anyone's shit and never let them get you alive" Gerard Way

"No one can make you feel inferior without your permission" Eleanor Roosevelt

"First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight with you, then you win." Ghandi

"It's better to walk in the dark with a friend than to walk alone in the light" Helen Keller

I think I got the last two wrong in some places. lol

Good luck! ~Emily
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does anybody have any tips on writing a good song?

As Jack said--write something that you've experienced in person & it had a big impact or a forever lasting mark on you. Not one of those petty "My mom yelled at me!" or "M dad made me take out the trash" type things.

I guess writing songs and poems are 50/50 except for the musical part. I've always found it easier to write a poem about something I've experienced/something that I'm really hurt/have gotten hurt about.

Also, pleeeaaassseee don't make it cheesy. lol

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ok im not annorexic so dont get any ideas, im totally just curious. do you get used to the feeling of being hungry? do you always feel hungry .. or does it go away eventually? and do they not eat AT ALL, or do they just eat like a couple hundred calories a day .. again im only just curious.

You never get used to the feeling of being hungry. You're basically hungry 24/7 and it sucks ass. It may go away for a minute or two if you use a few tricks, but the hunger always comes back.

Fasting can last a few days but you do eat something, very low in calories. Sometimes less than 100 and sometimes less than 500. It all varies but you end up burning the caloric intake, if not more.

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okay, so i've had a second hole peirced twice before, and both times they've closed up. I really want it again, but i dont know if it's worth getting it because i'm scared that it might close up again, so what are the chances it will close up? ..thanks.

Ear piercings are notorious for closing up really quickly. well, all piercings are. Lip piercings don't close up that easily, though. Anywhos, you need to properly maintain cleaning your ears [1 to 2 times a day] Give it a salt bath [Mix water with iodine free salt and soak it up with a cotton ball or something. Then damped your piercing with it once a day ot make the healing process speed up] Don't take it out or mess with it too much [closing problems along with scarring and rejecting] And keep it in for 6-8 weeks this time.

If you take those steps, you should be fine.
~Emily15/f

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My puppy is sick =[
Shes had her prvo. shot, so its not that. Shes been puking since saturday. We thought bc of the heat and she was outside bc we were having a party. But shes still puking. She ate yesterday, some hot dog. And her puke was like hard, you know like regular dog puke. And today its watery, Meaning she doesnt have anything in her tummy. Anyone have an idea of whats wrong?.. Dont say go to a vet, bc we dont have the money right now.. and I just want an idea of what might be wrong.. Thanks

I would strongly suggest your take your puppy to the vet, no matter how much money you're lacking.

As for her puking, do NOT give her hot dogs! Just let her rest for a day. Don't feed her anything and just put out a bowl of water. After that, feed her stuff that will go easy on her stomach that is also good for dogs like apples [cut into small pieces or pureed [sp?]] or carroes [prepared in the same manner as apples. shredded, not cut into small pieces, though]

What you give your dog is extremely importnat. Your puppy needs to eat dogs for PUPPIES. Not for adults or seniors or what not. Buy Blue products or USDA certified organic dog foods. Do not give her meat or poultry or fish! If you have to give her meat or poultry, boil it to cook it in PLAIN water. No salt, No flavoring. BOiL it and shred it into small pieces. Don't over feed your dog. Do not under any circumstances give your dog onions either. It will kill them. Don't give them cheese, grapes, and anything like that. Only fresh veggies and fruits [minus onions and grapes and relatives of grapes. Note that not all fruits and veggies are okay for dogs. Before you give your dog something, check it up online to see if it's okay] But seriously, do noy igve her hot dogs, greasy stuff, etc. Dogs are not humans and needs to eat healthy, fresh foods only!

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Well, I am not sure what to do about my sister. Ummmm, lets call her RAT, I love her to bits, but lately she has really been getting on my nerves, its just the things that she does and the fact that she cires over anything, its not like she is really little, shes older than me, she's 22 and a PICES. I know that RAT has her own problems but I think she uses me as an excuse to cry about her other problems, so its like everyone thinks that I have done something wrong to her when I really haven't.

I don't mean to hurt her and I hate it when she's angry, with me. Right now RAT isn't talking to me, what should I do, I feel like I haven't done anything wrong, but she doesn't understand that the things she does and the way she behaves hurts and annoys me - what should I do?

Ahhh! Your sister sounds like mine, except for a few differences here and there.

Mine's 19 and I'm 15. I swear, she acts like a 7 year old! She doesn't cook, she doesn't clean, she doesn't do anything! Okay, so when she's over from college and my parents are out, I end up doing all the cooking and clening up because she's too lazy. If no one cooks, she won't eat anything until someone brings her food. Not kidding. And she won't clean for her life. And she whines and pouts and complains and acts like a 5yr old if she doesn't get her own way one things.

What I found was to just let her have her fit and let her get over it. Until then, move on with what you're doing. And the next time RAT cries and blames it on you, ask her what's wrong and what you have done. Get through it, find the main reason, and point it out. Tell her that you're only trying to help and if she just dumps everything on you every single time, you just don't know what to do anymore. And then you start crying =P

~Emily
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Sorry if this is long, but i need to explain some things before i ask the question...

So, here's the story. Me and my boyfriend, now ex, were going out for 4 months. Yet, he was just a real jerk to me sometimes. He treated me like i was just his normal friend. He wouldn't come pick me up or ask me if i needed rides to places. He asked me a couple of times to pay for things, and he would never start conversations. He would do things just to annoy me and at times, he was just plain mean. At first i wanted things to work so i told him a few times he had to change the way he acted, and the first time he said he couldn't change, and the rest he said he'd try but i never really saw a change. I was just fed up and gave up. Anyway, we're not together anymore, but he was my first boyfriend and I'm just scared that this relationship hurt me because now i don't have a great outlook on guys. I want to date again, but i want a good boy who treats me like the center of his world.

Is how my ex acted how all guys act? Or are there some out there that are better? Can anyone give me any hope for the future?!

Thanks! and sorry this was soo long =)

Hmmm, that sounds like my ex!!! Minus the pervertedness. Haha.

Trust me, there are a whole lot of guys out there that are much better than your ex. I have the best guys friends ever. One, we have so much in common that it's not even funny. Another one is like my teddy bear...that's gay. And another is here for me no matter what. There are a lot of sweet guys out there!!!

So forget about your ex and look at other guys. there are much better ones. I promise you with my life and banana pancakes =)

~Emily
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