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My column is dedicated to telling it like it is. I will always give you the best information available to me or the best advice I can. I will be upfront and never hide the truth from you.

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I am 18 years and I am in a relationship with a guy for about two years, we love each other a lot . but he yearns for my virginity . but I want to wait but he can't , should I save it ? or its gonna be really wrong?

This is the type of question that in the end only you can answer. As advisors we can give you advice but we cannot make the decision for you.

When it comes to questions like this, especially about having sex. My usual answer is NEVER LET ANYONE FORCE YOU INTO HAVING SEX. When anyone forces you even by wearing you down to the point of giving in or to have you give in to keep him as a boyfriend. This is sexual harassment and rape.

This is because you are not fully consenting you have been coerced into having sex. You have been harassed or threatened in some manner to have sex with him. This is not only illegally and morally wrong. It proves his love for you is not traditional love but that of lustful love.

Your virginity is a wonderful gift for the right man when you are ready. It may be on your wedding night or maybe sometime before then that you chose to give it to someone. When to lose and who to give your virginity to is your decision to make and you should not be forced or coerced into giving it to someone.

Losing your virginity can be painful for you. Though giving it to the right man can also be a beautiful thing for both of you making whatever pain you may feel worth the experience. I know you may love him though if he is begging you or coercing you in anyway to have sex with him; then it is my feeling his love for you is not the same type of love you have for him.

My advice then would be not to give him the most precious gift a woman can give a man. For all he wants is your virginity to put a notch on his man belt with it.

I am a 23 year-old female, who is noticing minor issues with my body. Little problems that I did not notice before, one such issue concerns female problems. Having lived in my body so long, although these problems might seem normal I am a little bit concerned.

Before getting my period on Friday, I started feeling really poorly. I was experiencing stomach problems, and diarrhea. I felt poorly enough where I stayed home from school for two days in a row, thinking that I was getting sick.

Having dealt with my period for 11 years now, I am no stranger to painful periods. Before I started taking naproxen sodium during the first days of my period, I would continuously throw up. This included when I was on dates with my boyfriend (who I have been with for a few years), when I had to work and other bad scenarios.

In my opinion, this time, my period is acting very unusual. While my mother and grandmother say that this is normal, I feel like it’s wonky for my body. I have diarrhea which was cloudy, and I noticed that my period was bright purple.

In the past my period has changed. For example, since I have lost my virginity it has fluctuated by how often I have sex. With my first sexual partner, the time period that I would start my cycle shifted by a week.

Since I only get to have sex with my boyfriend a few times a month, it alternates on different weeks of the month. For example, I will get my period in the first week of one month, and then get it on the second week of the second month.

Although I feel like this is completely unrelated, when I had sex with my boyfriend of three years last month I started experiencing a burning sensation after sex. Admittedly, which might sound stupid, because we are both students (who still live at home and do not have full time jobs), we use the withdrawal method, which somehow works out for us. In spite of experiencing many scares, as a result of my paranoia we have never been pregnant.

Please do not lecture me, I am more than halfway through college, and we are both past our teenaged years (he Is 25) and have been sexually active for a while. He is my third (and most experienced) sexual partner (none of the guys that I had sex with were virgins, but one had only slept with two other girls, and another had only slept with one; besides I only had unprotected sex with one other and we are best friends now, so if he had an STD he would have probably told me), and I am his eighth or ninth (but he has been tested before). We use this method because we like the intimacy, think that the risk is slim enough, and are in an adult, monogamous relationship.

On the other hand, my boyfriend and I have had reservations about our decision. Which means in the past he’s been reluctant to have sex with me (out of fear that I would get pregnant), has urged me to go on the pill, and I did purchase condoms (which we have only used once). Neither one of us would suggest that teenagers use this method.

When I told him about the burning sensation, not realizing the seriousness of the situation and that I was in pain, he said, “That’s good.” When I asked him “Why?” He said, “Because both of us are burning.”

Problems like this have occurred before, which he has been more concerned about, and I don’t know if it’s because sometimes he will penetrate inside of me when I am still a bit dry and wait for me to get wet before doing anything rough, or if it is a feminine problem. Although I have also noticed it when I used to have phone sex with my boyfriend.

Should I be concerned? Are any of these indications of feminine issues? My mom knows about the issues with my period and is yelling at me to see a gynecologist.

Yes you do need to see a GYN. The reason both you and your boyfriend burn is because you or he picked up a very common STD called the Ping-Pong disease. It is an STD only because it can only be transmitted through sexual intercourse. It DOES NOT MEAN ONE OF YOU CHEATED ON THE OTHER. Your GYN can explain it better if she or he diagnoses this disease in you.

The reason why it is called the Ping Pong disease is because it can be bounced back and forth between partners if both partners are not cured at the same time. If you're diagnosed with this problem your doctor will prescribe medication for both you and your boyfriend or tell you to have your boyfriend see his doctor and refrain from having sex with him until he is medicated for the disease.

As for the problems with your period; they are unusual yes. Do they rise to the realm of abnormal? I don't believe so, though since you do need to see your GYN for the other problem it is something to discuss with the doctor. Taking the birth control pills should stabilize your period so that you have a more regular period and may even help with the problems you experience with painful periods. Her again since you will be with your GYN this is something to discuss with the doctor. At the very least you owe it to yourself to try and see if it does help.

As for the diarrhea and purple blood; my uneducated guess is that has this has a lot to due with the medication you take for the vomiting and pain.

I suffer from chronic pain due to an auto accident. I take pain medication every day. I also have stronger medication I can take when the pain breaks through my daily medication. Fortunately this does not happen very often but when it does this medication is so strong it plays havoc with my system. I can go from have diarrhea to being constipated too watery movements all depending on how long I need to take the breakthrough medication.

From what you have written I believe it is this medication that you take that may play havoc with your system. Here again since you are going to be with your doctor you should talk about this and any other concerns you have.

If you don't believe anything else I or anyone else writes to you please believe this. There is nothing you can say to your doctors that they will embarrass them, cause them to laugh at you, or that they haven't heard before from another patient. You are the only one who can tell the doctor what is going on with your body. You are your own best health advocate. Be your best advocate and tell your doctor everything that may be bothering you no matter how inconsequential you may think it is.

How can I kill myself without pain

The short answer is there is no way to kill oneself without pain. Contrary to how it is portrayed in movies; suicide is painful. In general no one dies instantly and more over many live through the attempt only to be more harmed by the attempt then they were before.

How do I know this? I have been a first responder for many years. I have unfortunately responded to many different types of suicide attempts. They are not pretty and the take their toll on us and the families of the victim.

Regardless of what you may think you will leave behind people who care for you. People who will never understand why and will always be hurt by what you have done.

Committing suicide is not easy as it looks in movies. It is easier to live then die. That is what we do. We help you find reasons to live. You have not given a reason for why you want to die. I can assure you that what ever your reason is we can help you find a solution to the problem so you can live a good life.

Write back to us and share your problem with us. I'm sure we can find a solution for you. Remember you need not give your name or the name of anyone else. You remain totally anonymous to the advisors and anyone else who reads these questions.

Hello there,

I have been having trouble with my weight lately. I'm 14, I'm a female, 5'3, and I think I might be 125 or so. I'm not quite sure. Well, my mom and my best friend say that I'm skinny, but I just think they're trying to make me feel better. I absolutely hate the way I look, and I need a solution.

I barely ever go outside due to my severe depression. I do little exercise, like Jumping Jacks, Kick Ups, all of that. I eat healthy.

However, I recently have been starting to starve myself. I know, it's bad, but I want to lose weight SO bad. I feel like I'm obese and a pig and just gross. I was bullied a lot for being heavy when I was younger, causing me to lose weight.

I take vitamins to help me get the nutrients I need. I probably eat somewhere between 300-700 calories a day. I just feel so freaking fat and I feel like I need to have a thigh gap or else people won't accept me. What should I do?

First: You are absolutely in the right weight range for someone your height with a small or medium frame. If you are a large framed girl you could be anywhere from 10 to 22 pounds underweight. If you are a large framed girl this could be the reason your mom and your friend say you are skinny.

Second: You say you suffer from severe depression. Having suffered from severe depression myself I hope you are receiving medication and therapy from the proper doctors. I can also tell you that part of your problem is the depression talking. When we are depressed we do not see things or perceive things a we would normally without the depression. We look for excuses for why we feel as we do. You have fixated on you weight and this can be just as unhealthy as the depression.

Medically speaking it is actually better for a person to be 10 pounds overweight then 10 pounds underweight. The reason for this is the body needs a certain amount of calories each day to maintain itself. Your 330-700 calories is insufficient for the body to maintain itself.

What happens then is the body starts feeding off itself. It feeds off the fat you have, which a certain amount of body fat is also required for the body to stay in balance. When the body consumes fat you of course lose weight. Lose to much weight and the body has consumed too much fat and there is nothing left to feed off of.

The bodies main objective is to maintain brain function. If it does not get enough to eat to maintain all of its functions it will shut down those it feels it doesn't need in a priority it fees is least important. First the kidneys, then the liver, the lungs are next and finally the heart. This is the problem that people with anorexia have; their bodies have literally consumed themselves to the point there is nothing left to consume and they die.

Third: A normal teenager needs almost three the amount of calories per day then you are consuming times, depending on how active they are. While you are not very active just getting up going to school and doing everything you do each day requires around 1,600 to 1,000 calories a day.

While I am not a doctor, if I were and I knew you were eating somewhere between 300 to 700 calories a day I would diagnose you with an eating disorder. Probably anorexia and most likely would hospitalize you to correct the disorder and any damage you may have already done to your body.

If you want a thigh gap start exercising to tone your thighs. You are 14 years old in the beginning of puberty. Your body is only beginning to change. You have 4 more years for your body to redesign itself. You can help this through exercise and a proper diet.

My best advice is to get proper treatment for your depression if you are not receiving any. Eat properly at least 1,000 calories a day. Exercise to get the thigh gap you want. An excellent exercise for this would be a brisk 30 minute walk a day.

If you have a dog; take the dog for a walk each afternoon. It will be good exercise for both you and the dog and it will make the walk more fun/

So I masturbate by just watching videos and squeezing my legs together and I told myself it would be the last time I do it. So after I went to the bathroom and when I wiped there was blood on the toilet paper! I am 12 and I have never got my period. Is this my period?

It could be you are just about the right age to be entering puberty. If you continue to see blood on the toilet paper or in your panties it probably is your period starting, since you did not say anything about putting fingers in your vagina while masturbating.

There are two other things I would like to discuss with you based on what you wrote.

You wrote; "I told myself it would be the last time I do it." There is nothing wrong with masturbation or masturbating. It is entirely normal for a normal healthy teenager to do to relieve the sexual tension brought on by puberty. As long as masturbating does not became an all-encompassing object of your time it is perfectly normal to do in the privacy of your bedroom.

Contrary to what you may have been told or believe masturbation is not a Mortal Sin. Most all religions do not condone it as they believe it will lead to wanting full sexual relations before marriage, though it is not sinful according to any of the religious texts. This is the same reasons your parents tell you not to masturbate which is hypocritical of them for according to surveys done 85% of the population masturbates. Mutual masturbation is part of foreplay prior to sex. Many healthy parent still have active healthy sex lives which include oral sex, fingering and hand jobs. All of this comes under the heading of Mutual Masturbation. Many parents even indulge in singular masturbation especially those whose partners travel for work a lot.

While masturbation is not something you would probably want to discus with mom unless you have a really good open relationship with her. You do not need a geed open relationship with mom to discuss this net item.

You really should tell mom about the blood you are seeing. Mom knows you better than any of us and would know if this is your period. Your period has nothing to do with sex; it is a normal bodily function of a mature or maturing woman. Just the same as urinating is. If you were sick with the flu or had a bad cold you would go to mom for help. Your period is no different other than it is a new bodily function that you need to get use too.

Mom can help you with the selection of proper sanitary products as well as answer any questions you might have. Remember you and mom are built exactly alike in this way. She will remember what it was like for her when her period first arrived and how scared she may have been. Mom is waiting for you to come to her so she can help you with the right information. This is not sex. Picking the right products is just as important as picking the right bra so please go talk to mom. Getting your period is nothing to be embarrassed about.

My boyfriend's mom wasn't supposed to be home for another hour yesterday and she walked in on us having sex. She was so mad she couldn't talk at first and then she yelled at me to get out of her house and never come back and she watched me get dressed and didn't leave until I left. Obviously I deeply regret what we did and we shouldn't have been that stupid and I just don't know what to do now. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 23. His mom is unpredictable and emotionally unstable and she said she wants to tell my parents about this. I am so humiliated and ashamed and I haven't decided if I should tell my mom yet i don't know if I can handle that right now. Should I? What am I supposed to do now? I can't apologize to his mom or talk to her at all because she hates me now but I want to do all I can to make this situation better. Please help me!!!

First and above all else you did nothing wrong. You and her son are adults and you are entitled to a sex life if you so desire one. His mother was wrong to have walked in on you without knocking and waiting to be invited in; after all her son is 23 and entitled to his privacy even if he is living in her home.

His mother was also wrong in not leaving while you dressed. Here again you are an adult entitled to your privacy and certainly your dignity. You do not owe her anything she owes you an apology and as someone old enough to be your grandfather, I would say you have every right to demand one from her. Not only did she walk in on you two but she humiliated you by standing there and watching you get dressed. I can't begin to describe how humiliating I think this was or how you must have felt.

As for telling your parents. My advice is to tell them before she does. Remember the best defense is a good offense. I know having this conversation with your parents or just mom may be hard for you but trust me it will be a lot easier if you get to them or her before your boyfriends mother does. Just remember you are an adult now entitled to all the freedoms of an adult which includes a sex life if you want one.

Last, if I were you I would have a talk with your boyfriend about how he needs to explain to his mother that he is an adult entitled to his privacy. She can no longer just waltz into his room as she please. As for what she saw with you, she was so very wrong for how she reacted for there was nothing wrong going on. Two consenting adults were indulging in a mutually consenting adult activity and she needs to apologize to you.

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I have personally been very unlucky in the love department. But I feel that I'm not the only one. All around me I see people falling out of love,pretending to be in love,cheating,marrying out of interest,only going after sex and what not. Seeing all these things done by both men and women (although being a woman I often feel men are the emotionless ones) I wonder if love has become a thing of the past. It's like,if you're a guy,you only get the girl if you're rich. If you're a girl,you only get a guy if you look like a model. Personally I don't care what a guy owns because I'm a woman who is taking care of herself very well and I need no man to support me. But I don't look like a model,really. I'm good looking but not that much. And it seems like no one is willing to overlook physical flaws or a lesser financial status and love is non-existent in that case. I would really love to meet a guy who appreciates me for who I am-not for superficial things that can change any day. Are there no more men or women who can love? Has it only become a matter of some sort of interest?

I tend to agree with Rainhourse68. Most of us today tend to look for the perfect fit in what is still an off the rack world. That does not mean there is not someone out there for you. You just have to work harder to find him.

I do not believe you will find your soulmate at the booty calls at Bars that cater to singles. The best way I know to make friends is to find places where there is some type of compatibility in the organization and you or the activity and you. Joining clubs or activities that you have an interest in is a start towards finding someone who will be interested in you.

Why, because in these groups it is the activity or commonality of interest that brings you together. It is a conversation starter. You get to know a person that transcends outer appearance. The activity is the introduction that allows for a friendship. From a friendship a relationship can grow.

Another route to go is one a guy at the fire station I volunteer at went. He is obese by any standard you use tipping the scales well over 300 pounds. A nice kid but no one ever thought he would find a girls to marry. His peer group at the station teased him unmercifully about his weight and how he would be a virgin his whole life. As it turned out he was among the first of that group to marry.

How did he manage it? He went on match.com. His wife is a very nice person. Very pretty in her own way but she too is overweight. They are extremely compatible in ways other than just their weight. She has also been very good for him in making him a better man. My only concern is that neither of them have any desire to lose weight and I worry every time the bell rings and he responds to a call. I fear he will keel over and his partner will be unable to get him out of the building.

That of course is not your concern. My point is if he found a totally compatible mate so can you. It all depends on which way you wish to go about it. Not all the men out there are as vain as the picture you painted. You just need to go hunting in a different forest.

Hello...i need sum advise.I get attracted to girls physically.and on the other hand i feel it abnormal.i even get attracted to boys...but not as much as towards girls.I really dont want to be a lesbian.i want to spend my life with a man.But again the attractions towards girls is really making me confused.please help me !!

Since you didn't give your age and by the nature of your question; which is the type we get from many teenagers. I am going to assume you are a young female in her early teen just startling to explore her sexuality.

First thing you need to know is you are not a lesbian. If you were a lesbian you would have been born that way and would have had lesbian feelings long before puberty hit. This is something doctors and scientists have come to understand about homosexuality. Homosexuality is as they believe something that happens at conception and is in the DNA string. As for being Bi they are not sure on that. The thinking there is that this is a learned experience.

In the early years of puberty both girls and boys have a tendency to learn about their sexuality by experimenting with their same sex. They do so because it is both safer and easier to do so with someone of the same sex. Parents have a tendency to trust two teenagers of the same sex in a room alone together with the door closed or to sleep together on a sleepover.

What happens at these times when you experiment with your sexuality or learn about your sexuality can be as simple as just looking at the other person's body to touching or masturbating one another. As a parent I will tell you there is truly nothing wrong with this though most parents would literally climb a wall if they walked in on you fingering each other. Fact is they probably did so at your age.

From the limited amount you have written; my advice to you is to relax you're normal. Don't be in a hurry to put a label on your sexuality. You have plenty of time to do so when you finish your education.

So here's the basics, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost 5 years, we are both in college and love and care for one another quite a bit. We've had ups and downs and always supported each other and of course to make it this far, we've worked hard.

So things drive me insane about him... He is so dense in his way of thinking. Now I'm stubborn and I will argue (whether I'm right or wrong) till I die, always have and always will. What frustrates me is that he can only see it his way and he has no life experience. I may be stubborn but I'm not blind. I just feel so frustrated with his one sided views. I've also been really frustrated with him lately. I feel like he's starting to take me for granted. I love him very much and cannot say I've been as grateful as I should be, but I feel like sometimes he forgets to call or text for a day and I get sad or he forgets big things in my life like how tests go or how my doctor appt went. I just feel sad that he can't remember things like that. If he ever asked me how something in specific went, I could die.

I guess I'm just wondering how to work on these issues because they weren't always deal breakers but as we grow they're becoming them.

You say, “they weren't always deal breakers but as we grow they're becoming them." When I hear something like this my first thought is to ask why, what has changed to make them deal breakers? From what you have written he has always been this way as you say; "he has no life experience."

No one likes being taken for granted, that I understand. What happens when this comes to pass and it does in every relationship is that we become comfortable with one another to the point that they are like a comfortable slipper, robe or nightgown. These things give us comfort because they are there and they wrap us in a sense of security. So in one sense being taken for granted should be a bit of an honor that someone sees you as a form of security that you will always be there for them. It is not the way any of truly want to be see but in an abstract way it is a bit flattering.

You say you have always worked through problems together if so you should be able to work through this problem as well unless you are getting cold feet and looking for an escape route. The key to any relationship is good communication skills. You two must have those skills to stay together this long and work through other problems you have had. You need to use those skills to work through this problem.

A question just came to mind. Do you two attend the same college? If not is it possible that this problem is nothing more than a case of missing him and maybe just a bit a miss trust?

If you do go to the same college sit down with him and tell him how you feel when he fails to text you or follow up on an important event. Part of being a couple is teaching one another about their short comings. Sit him down and tell him how it makes you feel when he takes you for granted like this. Use a preverbal 2x4 if need be but make him understand.

If you’re at separate colleges you can either wait until you are home together, say at Thanksgiving, or you can call him if you want and talk to him. What I would think is best if you can't wait for Thanksgiving is to sit down and write him a letter. A letter is different than a text message as it has a different impact. It is more thought full then a text or at least it should be.

Most important before you do any of the above; Sit down and think about why you are suddenly feeling as you do. For as I see it; from what you have written you are the one that has changed not him. Make sure you know why your feelings have changed before you speak to him about this.

I have cystic acne & I was wondering how much the treatment & medication costs

Like everything else in this world cost vary from State to State and City to City. The reason for this is the relative cost of living in different areas of the country. For instance someone living close to Washington, DC or New York City has a higher cost of living then someone in say Cedar Rapids, Iowa. So whatever cost I would give you would only be relevant to where I live.

What I suggest you do is call the State Medical Register and get the names of a few Board Certified Dermatologists who practice in your area. Call their office and speak with the office manager. Ask if they have any programs by which someone without Insurance can be treated.

Processing insurance paperwork is very costly to the practice. This cost is passed on to the patient. I know of a few doctors and dentists who when dealing with the uninsured will discount their fee by what it costs to process the paperwork and deal with the insurance companies. Some doctors will even set up a payment plan to help with the cost of the treatment. While you are talking to the office manager ask him/her if they are aware of any government programs you may qualify for. There are many out there.

As for the medication; if the medication is administered by the doctor then it will be included in the cost of the treatment. If it is oral medication or medication you apply at home there is only two ways I know of to keep the cost down. The first is to ask the doctor to use only medication that is available in generic form. Generic medication is usually very inexpensive, particularly antibiotics. Many pharmacies supply the popular generic antibiotics for $10.00 or less, at least they do where I live. Walmart charges $4.00 for many of these drugs.

The other way is to go on the WEB to the manufacturer of each drug supplied to see what programs they may have to assist you in getting these drugs to you. Most manufactures have these programs for those who are not insured and cannot afford these medications. There is a lot of paperwork to fill out and it takes time.

The only other alternative you have is in November open enrolment for Obama care begins again. It is supposedly based on what you can afford. You can enroll over the web or call the 800 number for assistance. Then on January second you can start using your insurance to see participating doctors in your plan and get the medications you need at reasonable prices.

My fiancé and I are planning on moving in together so, that's plan A. My grandparents say that I need a backup plan in case things don't work out, like if we break up, where would I go? What should I/we do.

I'm not sure why your grandparents would give you such advice. Is it possible they see something that you are not? In general when two people get engaged they have known each other long enough to know almost everything about each other.

Today most engagements happen after a period of living together. Though there are some that the engagement happens and then they live together and get married or marry and then move in together as man and wife. There is something missing here and that has to be something that your grandparents either see or perceive that you are not seeing. I would suggest you ask them or this question is going to haunt your relationship.

As for a plan B that depends on what your living arrangements are now. Who is moving in with who. If you're moving in with him or you are jointly getting an apartment then you need a place to go should you decide to leave the relationship.

If you can afford to you can keep your present apartment for a short period of time until you are sure the relationship will work out. This is assuming you do not live at home. If you are presently living at home would your parents or even your grandparent allow you to stay with them while you find a place to live.

You should also make sure to have at least two months worth of rent and utilities in the bank to cover the deposit on the utilities and the first and last months rent that most apartments ask for. If you have furniture put it in storage and use his furniture if you can. In this way you have furniture you can get to without having to seek a court order and a Sheriff to take what is yours from the apartment you shared with him.

Most important though, since I am in the same age group as your grandparents, is you speak with them before you move in with your fiancé. I have to believe this advice they have given you is based on something they see and are not truly sufficient alarm to say something to you though they are alarmed enough to suggest this back up plan.

Hi! I am 5"0 and 135 pounds can I get liposuction would a doctor do it? How much would it cost?

Once again you are too young you are still in puberty no plastic surgeon is going to attempt the cosmetic surgery on someone still in puberty. Puberty lasts from the time you enter which is somewhere at the start of your teenage years and can last as long as into your early 20s but generally ends around your 18th birthday.

Please relax and give your body a chance to change as it is supposed to do during puberty. You were in the very early stages of puberty your body will continue to change over the course of the next few years. This is the reason plastic surgeons refuse to do any type of body sculpting plastic surgery unless it is medically necessary.

By medically necessary it is generally meant to be that you have a birth defect or you've been injured in an accident or some other trauma has happened to you. For plastic surgeon to interfere with the many changes in your body at this time is wrong and it is also wrong for you to be this concerned with your body at age.

I understand that you want to look pretty and you have that right. You need to give your body a chance to make the changes that of been preprogrammed since conception. You can assist your buddy with the changes by eating properly exercising and getting the proper amount of sleep. Plastic surgery is not the answer not at this time.

Please trust what I'm telling you I've gone through this with two nieces and a son that I have raised. The old adage that good things come to those who wait is very true and very appropriate for your concerns give yourself time to grow.

Hi! I am 13 and my boobs are saggy, my bra size is 36B can a plastic surgeon do it or am I too young? How much would it cost

At 13 years old I find it hard to believe that you would need a breast lift. There must be some sort of exercises you can do to strengthen the muscles of your breasts. What I would suggest is you talk to A Doctor possibly a plastic surgeon to see if that's what you need to do.

Once again a breast lift is plastic surgery. Plastic surgeons are very reluctant to do any type of body sculpting or plastic surgery on someone under 18 years of age. Again this is an elective surgery not covered by insurance. A good breast lift done by a certified plastic surgeon starts at about $10,000 so when you were 18 and if you really need this that's the amount of money you will need to get this type of surgery.

In the meantime what I would suggest is you go to department store such as Macy's and get fitted for a proper bra. Most women have never been properly fitted for their the bra they wear. Call the store and find out when their fitter is going to be there make an appointment go in and get fitted for a bra that properly fits you. The fitter will show you how to adjust the bra properly so that it wears right and gives you propper support. Properly fitting bra and exercise may correct this problem without surgery.

My life is a living hell always says always will be. When i was 4 or 5 my sister took me into a room and offered me candy to say that my dad had 'touched me' which he did not. Being the five year old i was i did it, and that was the start of it all. My dad went to jail and at the time i did not know what i did. The only thing i wanted was to give my daddy a hug. I waited in the same spot for a week waiting him to come back, then i realized he was not coming back.

I was about 13 when these one words triggered me 'everything that ever happened in your life was all your fault' my sister said to me. those little words made me feel terrible about myself. Because i thought it was all my fault. After that every time i would make a mistake i would start crying because i thought i messed everything up.

One time when me and my sister where sitting on the couch i saw a bug and i started to freak out. She told me to kill it but i couldn't i was too scared then when she went to get a shoe she came back and it was gone. She started screaming and yelling at me "Do you know how much of a f*ck up you are, I wish you where never born"

I started crying and shaking and i couldn't breath, but she just kept yelling at me, I went to get up and i started getting blurry vision. I stumbled into my room and started crying even more.

I cant leave mt sister because she lives with her dad and i live with my mom and we live together because my mom can afford her own place.

I guess the question I'm trying to ask is how can i get over my fear of making mistakes. I'm 15 now and this has been happening straight for the past two years. Its taken over my life and i need help. I need to get over this fear.

What you need is psychological counseling to help you deal with this. If you cannot talk with your mom about getting this type of help then I suggest you talk to a trusted teacher or your school principal. They will know who to call to get you this type of help. Your sister is the one responsible for all this and she is mentally abusing you and has been. She too needs psychologically counseling to find out why she is doing this and getting her to stop.

If your dad is still in prison; you also need help in recanting what you said and hopefully getting him out of jail. Your therapist would be a good person to ask for help with this.

What is the fee to appear for pmp exam?

The one Academy I found runs a 4-day Boot Camp in most every State. The Cost for the Camp and the Exam is advertised at $2,900. though it is discounted to just under $1,900 if you register ahead.

what are the best positions to make a girl Finnish. Also I would like to know how to make her legs feel like jello. Plus I would like her to come to me all the time with anything. but it seems like recently that I cant get any girl it really hurts. but I seem to have my ex on my ass all the time but I would like to know how to I get rid of my physic ex.

Positions are not always the best way to orgasm for women. Much of whether you can be brought to orgasm depends on whether you are clitoral or vaginal in in how you are pleasured. Most women are pleasured vaginally and this is how most men learn to please a women especially during foreplay with fingering.

There are a great amount of women who do not receive a great amount of pleasure through vaginal stimulation but do get great pleasure and stimulation from clitoral stimulation. The best way to find out if you are clitoral or vaginal is through masturbation. See if you can finger yourself to orgasm. If you find it hard or impossible to orgasm through vaginal stimulation by fingering or use of a vibrator or dildo then you should try clitoral stimulation. Most likely you will orgasm this way.

If you are one of the women who are clitorally stimulated the you need to train your lover how to bake your excited and how to bring you to orgasm. This starts with communication. Communication is key to everything we do in life and sex is no different. Sex is a learned experience. The basics is inherent so that we can procreate. For greater pleasure we need to teach each other what gives us pleasure.

As I stated earlier men learn how to make love by watching porno. Most of the movies show very little stimulation of the clitoris so men need to be taught how to please clitoral women. Once you have explained you need more clitoral stimulation and more foreplay. Then you can look for positions that allow for greater contact with your clitoris. The missionary position with you grinding against each other is a good one. So is the women above for you can stimulate your clitoris yourself while riding him.

There are other positions you can search the web for but first you need to know what to search for and that starts with what I said in the beginning. Are you vaginal or clitoral in sensitivity?

my boyfriend is an addict. He is acting strange and relizes on me for all his personal needs except he leaves as soon as he"s showered, shit, shaved. We hang out but its not for long.
2 minutes
we end up loitering, while he pursues his phone. He wont go places I want to go to or seek help from someone who can. My mother just said after using her vehicle that she'd report it stolen. Shes threatened me before with filing a false police report to say I was hitting her if I got mad.

I can't really comment on your mothers comments other than you should remind her that filing a false police report to control you or get back at you is a crime. Depending on the severity of the crime she reports and the amount of effort port forth by the police to find and arrest you would determine if she would be charged with a felony or a misdemeanor charge. Both charges carry jail or prison time.

As for your boyfriend you really need to get away from him and find someone else. He is using you. By allowing him to do so you are enabling his drug use. By cutting the strings of support that you provide you may just save his life by forcing him into a rehab program. As long as he can rely upon you for all his personal needs he has no reason to seek help for his addiction. The reason he won't go any place with you is all addicts are interested in is their next fix.

Tell him that until he is clean and sober for six months to a year you want no part of him. He also needs to be holding down a good paying job and have a place of his own. Then and only then will you consider getting back together with him. He will make all sorts of promises to do so if you will stay with him. Don't buy into them. This has to be a clean break or he will never get sober. Once he has been clean and sober for a year it will be easier for you to help him stay that way.

I have always cut not for attention but for the thing I've went through and are going through I haven't done it in like 10 months but still want to its an addiction I fight every day hundreds of time daily. I've been been molested by three adults. Two of them were when I was young and one which it was my eighteenth birthday of all days. I have nightmares, trust issues and more. I cry multiple times a day I have been abused physically by my mother and an ex. And all it takes to break me is a rude comment from my husband or anyone. I think I'm the ugliest human. But everyone says I'm beautiful. I'm a little overweight. I have no confidace. I'm on medicine for my depression. But anything and everything kills my heart. A raising of the voice = panic attack/ asthma. I'm sensitive and don't leave my house unless Dr. Appt. My husband tells me its because I live in the past but I can't forget getting raped and the abuse sexual or physical. I have a therapist but one hour every two weeks feels like not enough to discuss past and present issues. Any advice and please don't tell me I'm stupid for cutting because I've quite its just most of the time I'll see a knife and want to or look at My meds and want to take them all to end it over everything. I have seen many therapists from age 4 up to 22 current. So please give me anything you think would help. Thanks!

Having been an advisor on this sight for many years; I have been granted a status of moderator which allows me certain privileges. One of the privileges is to see previous posts by a registered user. You have written 4 posts today with 3 of them having the same basic theme; your battle with depression and your husband.

Having fought depression myself I know what it is like. I know that the depression clouds and distorts our perception. Which in turn causes anxiety which causes hurt, which causes more depression. It is called the circle of depression.

While I am not a doctor I would say your depression is based in the sexual abuse and rapes you have had perpetrated upon you. If your therapist is aware of the sexual abuse and rape I am surprised that more has not been done to help you with closure of these events.

Of all the trauma a woman can go through in her life Rape is probably the highest of them. Without proper closure she cannot move forward with her life. It is not something a woman can push to the back of her mind and expect to have a normal sex life. As a normal sex life is a big part of married life, especially in the early years of marriage. It is not surprising to me you and your husband are having problems and until you have closure it will continue. One question for you. How much of your past sexual abuse and rape does your husband know about?

I'm going to make several suggestions and my reasons or justifications for them.

1. The rape and molestations need to be dealt with. As we have seen in the news child molestation has no statue of limitation it still may be possible for you to report this to the police.

You were last molested on your eighteen birthday and you are now twenty-two. That is four years. As an adult which you are at 18 most states have a statue of limitation on how long this crime can be reported and adjudicated. But only for what happened on your 18th birthday. Generally it is five years. You still have one more year to report your rapist to the police.

I'm going to guess that your molester/rapist is a family member; brother, father or Uncle. It matters not what their relationship to you may be. They have broken the law and they have harmed you. They deserve to be punished. You cannot have closure until they are punished.

2. There is an organization called RAINN which stands for Rape, Abuse, Incest, National Network. They have a hotline that operates 24/7. They are far more qualified then I am to talk to you and to help you with this. The call is free and totally confidential. They can also help you with the next item. Their number is 1-800-656-HELP.

3. After 18 years in therapy and you are still depressed, if you are still seeing the same therapist then it is time for a change. What you need is a Board Certified psychiatrist to properly diagnose the type of depression you suffer with and change medications. You also need a psychologist who is trained in the area of sexual abuse. You must first put the sexual abuse in its proper place and bring closure before you can move forward and put the depression in remission.

Please call RAINN and find new doctors to help you. Also please give serious consideration to reporting those who have harmed you to the police. It is the right thing to do. They broke the law in doing so but more importantly they harmed you in the worst possible way. Let the law you the retribution you deserve.

Well me and my husband got into an argument over him telling his sister that I don't do anything and don't want to go anywhere. Well then he says at least you've got some one to vent to.(talking about me to his sister). After she left he said it wasn't fair that he can't vent/ talk shit about me. So I said you have friends. And he was like I don't want to talk to guys about it. He said he wants to hit up one of his exs so that he can complain about me to her. I said no and he practically begs to talk to them. Just girls and he has either had sex or sex acts with them am I wrong for telling him no?

I think your husband is being childish. Yes everyone needs someone to vent to but not in a manner that would hurt someone else. In this case that would be you. Going to an Ex to vent about his wife sends singles that can be misinterpreted by the Ex which can open up other problems between you and your husband; as unintended as he may intended them to be.

Tell him you have no problem with him finding someone to want to. You are just fortunate enough to have a sister; he does not have a sister or brother to vent to so he needs to find a friend he can trust.

Under no circumstances should you be or will you be comfortable with him going to an Ex and tell him why. Tell him it sends the wrong message to the ex which is not fair to you or her. Ask him if that what he really wants? That is what you say to him.

A good friend is more than someone to drink beer with and watch ball games with. A really good friend can be a brother by another mother. Someone you can trust with your wife and your life in that order. This is the person you can confide in.

My bother moved to Spain with his girlfriend. He lived with her perants. Him & his girlfriend have been kicked out and now have no were to go and can't get back to the uk. Wot can they do or were can they go for help ???

DangerNerd is correct. Going to or contacting the British Embassy for assistance will get them home. This is one of a primary function of the embassy.

Most likely what will happen is they will be interviewed, fill out a number of forms among them being a promise to repay the government the cost of the airfare home for the tickets the embassy will arrange for. Most likely the repayment will be in small amounts over a period of months.

The Embassy will also see to it that they have money for food and a place to stay until their plane leaves. The cost of this will be added to the plane fare and must be repaid to the Crown.

If for some reason your brother can not get to Madrid or cannot contact the Embassy you can start this process for him. You should call; I believe it is the Ministry of Affairs, In London. In the US it would be our State Department which I believe the British Ministry of Affairs is the opposite off. Ask for the Spain Desk or person responsible for Spain. Then tell them of the problem and just where in Spain your brother is.

They should be able to take the problem on from there. Just remember you are dealing with the government. Nothing happens quickly so is patient. If you need to you can call Ten Downing Street for help. If I thought I needed help from the White House I would not hesitate to call. I would not expect to speak with the president though there are people within the White House that are there to assist with these types of problems if they can. I would thing 10 Downing Street operates the same way.

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