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My boyfriend is an addict... I need advice
my boyfriend is an addict. He is acting strange and relizes on me for all his personal needs except he leaves as soon as he"s showered, shit, shaved. We hang out but its not for long.
2 minutes
we end up loitering, while he pursues his phone. He wont go places I want to go to or seek help from someone who can. My mother just said after using her vehicle that she'd report it stolen. Shes threatened me before with filing a false police report to say I was hitting her if I got mad.
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Adviceman is right. Although it's right to cut off your support of enabling him, that may not cause him to want to seek help in rehab yet. That won't happen until he is ready. If not ready to kick the habit, he will find someone else to support and enable him for now. Just know that that situation is also very possible. And that support might come from another female who really hasn't given a thought as to what she's getting into.
You may have feelings for him but while he is in this state, he's not going to be optimum relationship material. But don't let your feelings get in the way of doing the right thing both for him and for you.
As for Mom, threatening false police reports is wrong. IT means she isn't thinking straight. I can guess that as your mom, she loves you so much and is so worried about you being in relationship with a drug addict, that she is willing to do just about anything to spoil it or cause it not to happen. That doesn't justify her, only explains why she might be doing this. If you have decided to let the boyfriend go, have a good talk with Mom. Let her know you do realize what was going on and wasn't blind to it. yoU'
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I can't really comment on your mothers comments other than you should remind her that filing a false police report to control you or get back at you is a crime. Depending on the severity of the crime she reports and the amount of effort port forth by the police to find and arrest you would determine if she would be charged with a felony or a misdemeanor charge. Both charges carry jail or prison time.
As for your boyfriend you really need to get away from him and find someone else. He is using you. By allowing him to do so you are enabling his drug use. By cutting the strings of support that you provide you may just save his life by forcing him into a rehab program. As long as he can rely upon you for all his personal needs he has no reason to seek help for his addiction. The reason he won't go any place with you is all addicts are interested in is their next fix.
Tell him that until he is clean and sober for six months to a year you want no part of him. He also needs to be holding down a good paying job and have a place of his own. Then and only then will you consider getting back together with him. He will make all sorts of promises to do so if you will stay with him. Don't buy into them. This has to be a clean break or he will never get sober. Once he has been clean and sober for a year it will be easier for you to help him stay that way.
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