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Problems with my weight
Hello there,
I have been having trouble with my weight lately. I'm 14, I'm a female, 5'3, and I think I might be 125 or so. I'm not quite sure. Well, my mom and my best friend say that I'm skinny, but I just think they're trying to make me feel better. I absolutely hate the way I look, and I need a solution.
I barely ever go outside due to my severe depression. I do little exercise, like Jumping Jacks, Kick Ups, all of that. I eat healthy.
However, I recently have been starting to starve myself. I know, it's bad, but I want to lose weight SO bad. I feel like I'm obese and a pig and just gross. I was bullied a lot for being heavy when I was younger, causing me to lose weight.
I take vitamins to help me get the nutrients I need. I probably eat somewhere between 300-700 calories a day. I just feel so freaking fat and I feel like I need to have a thigh gap or else people won't accept me. What should I do?
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It really depends on your body frame.
But your depression seems to be holding you back. That's what you need to fix first. I don't know if you're getting help for that, but if you aren't, that is your first step.
You already know starving yourself is not good for you. You need to seek help for this. This could turn out so much worse. I mean you might end up skinny, but you'll end up sick as well and your bones will be weak.
I knew a girl in high school who was starving herself and she fell and ended up breaking bones. One girl got hit by a car and passed away.
Besides that, you can look up many other things that happen when you starve yourself. A lot of your body functions will shut down.
Vitamins won't give you all your nutrients.
People with good looking bodies work for them. That's the kind of body you want. Not some frail thing who can't hold herself up.
Society sucks, the media sucks. They all expect you to look a certain way. But what everyone should aim for is to be healthy.
If you want something, work for it. Go get help for your depression and your eating disorder. Eat healthy, drink water, and go exercise. The results won't happen over night but it will happen. Exercise also helps depression.
The pills you take for depression usually take a couple weeks to kick in, exercise takes a bit longer but it will help you.
So start taking care of yourself.
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First: You are absolutely in the right weight range for someone your height with a small or medium frame. If you are a large framed girl you could be anywhere from 10 to 22 pounds underweight. If you are a large framed girl this could be the reason your mom and your friend say you are skinny.
Second: You say you suffer from severe depression. Having suffered from severe depression myself I hope you are receiving medication and therapy from the proper doctors. I can also tell you that part of your problem is the depression talking. When we are depressed we do not see things or perceive things a we would normally without the depression. We look for excuses for why we feel as we do. You have fixated on you weight and this can be just as unhealthy as the depression.
Medically speaking it is actually better for a person to be 10 pounds overweight then 10 pounds underweight. The reason for this is the body needs a certain amount of calories each day to maintain itself. Your 330-700 calories is insufficient for the body to maintain itself.
What happens then is the body starts feeding off itself. It feeds off the fat you have, which a certain amount of body fat is also required for the body to stay in balance. When the body consumes fat you of course lose weight. Lose to much weight and the body has consumed too much fat and there is nothing left to feed off of.
The bodies main objective is to maintain brain function. If it does not get enough to eat to maintain all of its functions it will shut down those it feels it doesn't need in a priority it fees is least important. First the kidneys, then the liver, the lungs are next and finally the heart. This is the problem that people with anorexia have; their bodies have literally consumed themselves to the point there is nothing left to consume and they die.
Third: A normal teenager needs almost three the amount of calories per day then you are consuming times, depending on how active they are. While you are not very active just getting up going to school and doing everything you do each day requires around 1,600 to 1,000 calories a day.
While I am not a doctor, if I were and I knew you were eating somewhere between 300 to 700 calories a day I would diagnose you with an eating disorder. Probably anorexia and most likely would hospitalize you to correct the disorder and any damage you may have already done to your body.
If you want a thigh gap start exercising to tone your thighs. You are 14 years old in the beginning of puberty. Your body is only beginning to change. You have 4 more years for your body to redesign itself. You can help this through exercise and a proper diet.
My best advice is to get proper treatment for your depression if you are not receiving any. Eat properly at least 1,000 calories a day. Exercise to get the thigh gap you want. An excellent exercise for this would be a brisk 30 minute walk a day.
If you have a dog; take the dog for a walk each afternoon. It will be good exercise for both you and the dog and it will make the walk more fun/
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