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My Mother Picks on Me
Hi, I'm from Kenya and I have a painful question.
My mother and I having been having issues for months now and it's only getting worse by the day. She would look for the smallest thing I've done wrong and create a mountain out of that. She has shown me how much she prefers my sister to me and that really hurts me. Whenever she is stressed out, she will ALWAYS look for something to blame me for. She has said some very hurtful things to me, things a mother should never say to a daughter for example, calling me "cheap" infront of my friends. The worst part is no one can talk to my mother except my brother who now is not even talking to her. She scares me and I dread waking up to her everyday. If I had a choice, I would sleep and never wake up. Please help me!
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Quickly overcome this problem. Mothers are the helpers and heros of human life. Your mother rasied you to be beautiful, now you have a man who. Loves you. Fight this problem now. I am also having issues with my mother. But when I was girl of eleven I saw my mother as a queen and my idol because I looke at my self I was natural, reading and cramming fifteen subject books word for word. Simultaneously. Needing only questions to to write on any part. I then remembered my mother lying to her boyfriend that she wanted to kill me and later wanted to take painkillers and both times when alone flushed all down the sink. Prevent issues. Later I stared suffering,lefttmy scool branch for the ordinary site and had amnesia. Also not able to memorise or cram much word for word. I still love my mummy. Love yours.
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I agree, if you cant get her to sit down with you long enough to say "can we talk on a more serious level??" then i would try to find someone else to stay with until she realizes that you are still her daughter and should not be treated like trash. some time away might make her miss you and regret what she said.
No wonder no one wants to deal with her, shes bringing this all on herself by acting the way she does. Sounds like she needs a wake up call. try to just go stay with ANYONE ELSE just temporarily to give her enough time to miss you and ask you to come home. dont tell her how long your leaving for (let her feel the fear a little) just let her know youll be living somewhere else until she decides she'd like to change her attitude, and talk with you like a normal person instead of talking AT you and not listening to anyone.
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Do you have a father to go talk to? What you describe sounds like you are not the cause of any of her behavior. It sounds to me like there may be personal issues inside her causing her to be like this. Perhaps she's simply unhappy with her life and unfairly taking it out on you, or, since I had a bad first marriage with verbal abuse, what you have said reminds me of what a verbally abusive person does. In many cases, the verbally abusive person is so, because there is some mental disabilities driving that behavior as ended up being the case for my ex husband. If mental illness of any kind, when it first shows up, it's subtle enough that people can go through life without anyone suspecting that, at worst, she's just a mean-spirited person. But that kind of behaviour can grow worse over the years. If you are an adult, try to find yourself another living situation rather than staying with mom. If you are not yet an adult, you need to reach out for help to other adults you know. Mom may be needing doctor intervention with counseling and you are not the one to tell her. It will work better if another person would talk to her. Do you have counselors at school you could confide in? Any extended family that live nearby in their own separate home, like aunts and uncles, grandparents. With the way you are feelings, I would guess you are depressed or will be soon and that will affect school too. No person can take the kind of treatment you are getting from mom and come out unaffected. Even you will need some counseling to heal but so does mom. Reach out to some local who can actually help you.
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