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I used to have bright blonde hair, just lately thanks to the hairspray I use my hair is more brown than blonde. I'm going to start using sheer blonde hairspray since it sprays on clear without changing the color more, but I'm wondering how I could get my blonde hair back? I heard sunlight was good for it, so is there any hair product I could use that would attract sunlight? It doesn't even have to be a hair products as long as t doesn't damage my hair. (link)
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Use lemon shampoo for a good length of time.
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Hi, I'm from Kenya and I have a painful question.
My mother and I having been having issues for months now and it's only getting worse by the day. She would look for the smallest thing I've done wrong and create a mountain out of that. She has shown me how much she prefers my sister to me and that really hurts me. Whenever she is stressed out, she will ALWAYS look for something to blame me for. She has said some very hurtful things to me, things a mother should never say to a daughter for example, calling me "cheap" infront of my friends. The worst part is no one can talk to my mother except my brother who now is not even talking to her. She scares me and I dread waking up to her everyday. If I had a choice, I would sleep and never wake up. Please help me! (link)
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Quickly overcome this problem. Mothers are the helpers and heros of human life. Your mother rasied you to be beautiful, now you have a man who. Loves you. Fight this problem now. I am also having issues with my mother. But when I was girl of eleven I saw my mother as a queen and my idol because I looke at my self I was natural, reading and cramming fifteen subject books word for word. Simultaneously. Needing only questions to to write on any part. I then remembered my mother lying to her boyfriend that she wanted to kill me and later wanted to take painkillers and both times when alone flushed all down the sink. Prevent issues. Later I stared suffering,lefttmy scool branch for the ordinary site and had amnesia. Also not able to memorise or cram much word for word. I still love my mummy. Love yours.
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I am 24/f. I recently moved out of my house and moved to graduate housing at my university. before i begin, i just want to give a brief description of my family. they are extremely controlling. my mother is absolutely nuts. she is a narcissist and i can tell you that she has ruined my life. both my parents are the most irresponsible people i have ever met in my life and how someone gave them a child is beyond me. i was adopted at birth. all of the paperwork and everything was set up before i was even born. she confessed to me that the reason the adoption finally went through is because she called continuously and harassed them until they gave her the child. i would like to meet the social worker who ruined my life. at this point in my life, i love them because hey are my parents. but, i don't LIKE them as people. i know it's hard for some people to understand. some of you have already read some of the things that i've written, but i will write it again for those who didn't. i need to add a couple more things that happened this weekend.
basically, my mom plays a great actress when she pretends that she wants what is best for me. she doesn't. she wants whatever makes her look good or has money. i am a person of great faith (i am just angry right now). i always thought that the reason that she didn't like my current boyfriend is because we don't share that same faith (we were already together before my conversion) and because she thinks that he didn't have money. She said that he "lacks drive" and just isn't her type. I get that she doesn't like him, but she threatened me several times. She said that if I stayed with him, I could just think of her as dead. You think that might solve the problem if she was just out of the picture, but that isn't true. her threat is just that... a threat... what it really means is that she will make my life miserable. she doesn't mean that she will stay out of my life... but rather, that she will stalk, harass, show up at my door. she even threatened that she was going to beat him up. everyone says to call the police. but, seriously, the police isn't going to do anything about a verbal threat. he has also threatened her because he got angry. so, both of them would be in trouble. i basically told my mom that we broke up, which isn't true. but, it got her off my case. she has been harassing me and harassing me about finding a new boyfriend. she says that she wants to live to see her grandchildren. so, i basically told her that there was a guy from class that i thought was cute, just to get her off my back. at first, she saw a picture of him and she said he was ugly and "forbid" me from seeing him. Then, a few weeks later, she was pretty much telling me that i better knock on his door and throw myself at him. I told her my "concerns" about him were that we didn't share the same strong beliefs and that he was poor ( i just wanted to see what she would say, since that was her gripe about my bf). She said it didn't matter because he was "hot."
The other day, I came back from church and told her I had seen a friend. She asked me if he was cute (the only thing she thinks about is hooking me up with a guy). I told her who it was. I'm here thinking that she would think that this was the perfect guy. The reason I am doing this, by the way is because I'm trying to test what it is she would want from me. what is her ideal vision for my life that I could have for her to leave me alone. this guy is a little bit older, makes a lot of money, we met at church. i was like... she's has to give a positive review. She threw everything on the floor and almost started punching me. she said she forbids me to ever see him and that he's not allowed in the house ever. so, i got in my car, and drove an hour back to my dorm because i said that this is not home if i can't even bring a friend here. additionally, i would like to add that this person has been a great friend. like, he has gone above and beyond what it means to be a friend and if i were a mother and witnessed that, i would be writing thank you notes instead of forbidding the person in the house. i told her that i wasn't angry about her not liking him. i really could not care less. what I'm angry about is the way that she treated me with a lack of respect. till today, she continues to call me to tell me that i am wrong and try to get me to see things from her point of view.
there is nothing to see. she doesn't want what is best for me. her judgement is clouded. however, she continues to control me because i'm living on campus, not in my own apartment. realistically, no matter how much is say i won't speak to her again, she weaves her way into my life. my entire family takes her side because she is "unwell" and i should "know better." they will come to my door and call the police if i chose not to answer. my mom will put herself in an institution just to make it more dramatic. and everyone will say i'm evil. they already do. apparently, i'm the cause of everyone's misfortune.
when my mom has been out of money... since she decided not to work for 20 years. the solution was to steal my identity. even before i turned 18, i had a ton of debt because she used it up. that debt was deleted, but no legal action was taken and no apology was issued. before i came to the faith, my family was involved in the occult. when my 17 year old boyfriend broke up with me, my mom's idea of making me feel so much better was taking me to a warlock who sexually abused me. when i have brought it up to her, she said that she was just trying to make me feel better. i told her that a mother is suppose to build up a child's self esteem, not make them want back a guy that did so much harm to them. she told my cousin about the incident and then they both laughed about it.... i don't think it's funny. and i hate when people say "it could be worse." Everything could be worse. try telling that to a child who was sitting there afraid, being sexually abused and people laughing about. i finally told my dad about it and he said he was angry at both of us. I was just a child and I made that very clear to him. he said my mom has always been very smart and he doesn't know what happened. by the way, my parents are divorced.
most of all, i feel like my dad is a coward who left me with this lady so that he could get away from her. then, everyone just tells me that she is my mom and wants what is best for me because she loves me. she does not love me. she is obsessed with me and thinks that i'm her little barbie doll. if she really did care about me, she would be trying to direct me towards a guy like the third one I mentioned. She would treat me with respect and not throw things at me and people have to stop her from punching me in the face. if she cared about me, she wouldn't steal my identity to buy clothes and then think it's justified because some of the clothes were for me. she wouldn't be laughing about happened to me. i was a victim. i'm so angry at both of them. they could take them to jail, fine them, put a restraining order on them... but honestly, they don't see what they have done wrong. that is what gets me angry. i feel like i am owed an apology. if i can't get that, i feel like i need validation from a jury... someone. i feel so alone. please help.
now, about her being irresponsible (link)
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Don't worry often, same sittuation here. My dad sent me here.you are not alone. Make friends.
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Hey! I am a 16 year old girl who is having some difficulty with relationships. I am currently talking to a 15 year old boy (the age difference isn't an issue for me) but he seems to like taking things fast. I feel entirely comfortable with him and I have no problem talking to him about most things but I'm afraid he'll use me for sex and then take off. I don't want to stereotype every high school boy by saying they only want sex but I'm afraid of getting myself into that situation when I'm not ready for it. I'm not looking for a commitment that leads to marriage but I also don't want to play games. I really like this guy and don't want to lose him but I also don't want to do anything I'm uncomfortable with. Any advice is appreciated greatly! (link)
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Nothing good comes easy, in fact am a believer in no pain no gain. Even though these days I am having problems that meant to ruin me but I knoww it would have been worse if I did not face life as I did from beginning with these principles. Today I am beautiful like a doll and gain merits for that. Its never too late to get a guy. Be bold, ddo it. I wish to find a steady serious one myself.
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I had been married for 28 years. I have two grown-up kids. I leave with my husband under the same roof, but we are no husband and wife for almost 10 years. I never been happy in my marriage and when it comes to sex, I always went through the motions as it is my duty. My husband never satisfied me sexually.
I always been a woman that men liked and wanted to be regardless I was married. I never cheated on my husband.
Recently there are three men who are attracted to me (colleagues). One was asking me, if I’m still with my husband, second one was talking to me and making sexual comments during the party and asking if I’m married and the 3rd one is calling me his girlfriend, every time he sees me, he hugs and kiss). All these men are married.
Every time they see me they have a long eye contact and smile and enjoy talking with me, but none was making a move or asking me out. O believe it because I’m married.
I don’t know what these signs mean from those men, but I think If I meet the right men who will give me all the things I missed in my married life, I’ll say yes.
Can anyone explain to me the signs and tell me what you will do in my position.
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Yes its not enough. Coming from me love and respect should always come together. Men treat many women me for example like pets. Are you that kind of woman? They enjoy talking to me, are extra nice but act to me as if am senseless or a baby. Some women are treated like this. If they look attractive to men but would they make you a good husband if they bother to date you. Please be understanding. The world is on your husband's neck. It is not easy to find love and happiness.
Give in more love. Bring out the woman in you like I did. Though am not encouraging hard drugs because they destroy your mind but find the best ones for you.
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