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My wife and I have been married for 20+ years. We are both in our mid-40's and have two teenage boys. Both my wife and I were in multiple failed relationships before we met. So, we both had other sexual partners before our marriage. Since our marriage, I can't speak for my wife, but I believe our relationship has been monogamous; at least I have been monogamous. My wife even after kids, still has the figure of a 20 year old. I am still in good shape only 15 pounds heavier than when we married, but I am not chiseled anymore and have a slight muffin top form with a receding hairline. I think that our sex life is great! We still go at it like rabbits 4 sometimes 5 nights a week. Although, I must admit that I am not the man I was 20 years ago. I used to be able to maintain an erection all night and hammer away at the wife time and time again. The past 10 years or so it seems that after the first shot, I am ready to go to sleep; one and done. Even those little blue pills don't seem to help. Recently, my wife tells me that I don't satisfy her sexually anymore. My wife tells me that she still loves me. She claims that her love for me will never change since she has 2 kids and 20 years invested in me. But, my wife says she wants to sleep with other men. Not only that, but black men as well. My wife tells me that she dreams of screwing a black guy at work. She tells me that her girlfriend at work, another married woman has had an affair with this same black guy. Her girlfriend's husband knows nothing about the affair which my wife thinks is absolutely wrong! She says it is one thing to sleep with other men with your husband's approval and just plain down right dirty to sneak around behind your spouse's back. Her girlfriend tells her that this black guy has a 13 or 14 inch cock and thick as her arm. Now, I am fairly well endowed; I am about 10 or 11 inches and pretty thick but I am not quite as big as him. Although it has been more that 20 years since I had another woman, I don't ever remember a woman complaining about my cock. If they said anything at all about my cock, they said it was the biggest they ever had! My wife soaked her panties last night telling me about this black guy's huge cock. It made for some damn good sex while she was telling me about him, but afterwards it made me feel puny. I am worried. Is it lust?, infatuation?, or am I losing her? I told her I would have to think about it. I must confess that I feel like a pervert, but I have been checking my wife's panties in the laundry for some time now and have not found any unusually soiled panties. Therefore, I don't think that she has cheated. At least not yet. But I am afraid that if I say "NO", she will cheat. Her cheating girlfriend wants her to do a 3some. For your information; I am not a cuckold and have no desire to be dominated or submissive in my marriage. To me marriage is a shared responsibility and the husband and wife are equal partners. Personally, I have no desire to be with another woman, but I wonder what she would say if I had asked her for permission first? What do you think I should do? (link)
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Every couple I know who does this successfully, the husband picks and approaches the men his wife likes. This way they man does not think he has some relationship with your wife, but with her through you.
Many men find when their wife is sexually attractive to others, she becomes more attractive to him again.
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I've been a straight A student all my life but have gotten Bs on my social studies report card 3 times. People all talk about my grades and rub it in my face that i got a single B. People have said that I'm a dumb wast of air. Although I'm smart and get good grades most of the time, I'm made fun of for 89s in social studies. I pay attention in class and study but I cant get an A. Help? (link)
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Did you learn anything in the class? Most people seem to forget the purpose of university is to learn.
Ask those teasing you their GPA. Is it a 4.0?
I'll agree with the letters above about jealousy.
Those who can, do
Those who can't, teach
Those who can't teach are critics. GB Shaw
Most folks leave off the last line.
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Ive been staying at work later than usual some nights, drinking with my boss. We've always talked about hooking up but bever did so. Last week, we had a little too much and actually went through with it and had sex. The thing is, I thought I'd feel a lot worse about it than I do. I don't feel guilty or ashamed at all. Is that weird? I'm not sure if something has to be wrong with me to not care that I slept with not only my boss, but a married man at that. I need opinions. I know there will be negative comments towards me, but that's ok. I want your honest opinion on what you think about this situation. So maybe i can understand why I'm ok with this. Thanks (link)
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First read Sex at Dawn: prehistoric orgins of modern sexuality.
The negative comments are from people filled with self doubt and fear. It is unfortunate we live in societies where our religions spread fear while lying about love. Our governments and other social institutions do the same. Our brains are wired to avoid fear, so we respond strongly to these fear messages.
Stats: 80% of men and 60% of women have extramarital affairs. Only a 50% divorce rate, likely lead by those who answered you before.
We are sexually designed to be promiscuous and told this is wrong. This is like the fools who tell you humans are not designed to walk on only two legs. Wrong again.
I was forced to be a sex slave (nonconsensual ) and had hundreds, perhaps thousands of married partners. I have seen many couples who are in a deep emotional pair bond who are able to have sex with others and never have a problem. It is when you have an insecure partner or a weak emotional bond that the trouble starts.
Is this sex? Is this love? Could you submit to his wife as the alpha female, should this relationship get deep and long term?
Yes, there is something wrong with you, you are thinking for yourself. Society wants you to follow its rules and no independent thinking. By not being properly upset you are disturbing the well ordered society; feeling neurotically insecure, taking drugs, paying psych counsellors and helping divorce lawyers buy a new car.
I hope you didn't enjoy the sex as well, didn't you get the memo? Sex is bad, wrong, dirty and disgusting and only bad women like it. Oh my.
I'll need to consult my husband and ten lovers to see if they have anything to add. Now if you'll excuse me, I seem to have misplaced my own guilt.
I find the older leader types make better lovers, in general. How was yours?
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