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bad grades
I've been a straight A student all my life but have gotten Bs on my social studies report card 3 times. People all talk about my grades and rub it in my face that i got a single B. People have said that I'm a dumb wast of air. Although I'm smart and get good grades most of the time, I'm made fun of for 89s in social studies. I pay attention in class and study but I cant get an A. Help?
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To me it sounds like they are jealous and feel rubbing a B in your face will make them feel better about themselves. B's are still really good grades no matter what the others say. Last year during the school year my teacher was talking about people who do that. He told the class that those people who were made fun of for their knowledge turn out to be the most successful people in the school. As long as your trying thats all that matters. If you want to get an A, try a study group. They always seem to help. Naturally don get the ones who rubs B's in your face. Get some friends together or some who are just willing to join. Best of luck to you!
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Most of the people that are making fun of you most likely have never seen you get this low of a grade. They also rather focus on yours because their grades are probably worse than yours. If you are serious about getting that grade up try to get get from the teacher or get a tutor. My honest opinion is that you shouldn't worry about it, it's only an 89 and its not going to ruin you chances on getting into a good college, unless it continues to drop, but they seems very unlikely. You seem like a very smart girl and you most certainly get very far in life and become very successful. Don't let what other people say bother you, most likely they are just jealous of how smart you really are, and Good Luck!!
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It's a sad fact of life that we will always have some people that try to tear us down. You could literally be the best person that ever lived and some people would make it their mission to find something to insult you about. That seems to be the case with these people who are bashing you for getting any B grades.
One reason for the mean reactions is likely that they are jealous of you.
Historically and still today, in every single school system that uses an A-F scale, B has been considered to be an "above average" grade. As such, you or anyone else who gets Bs is anything but dumb.
I do applaud you for wanting to do better. Perhaps you can use their picking on you as a motivator to put yourself over the top and finally get those illusive As, But, if you don't reach that goal, the important thing is that you are making the effort.
Do the best you can and if it's not good enough for somebody else, that's there problem and not yours.
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Did you learn anything in the class? Most people seem to forget the purpose of university is to learn.
Ask those teasing you their GPA. Is it a 4.0?
I'll agree with the letters above about jealousy.
Those who can, do
Those who can't, teach
Those who can't teach are critics. GB Shaw
Most folks leave off the last line.
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I agree with rainhorse and adviceman. Most likely its due to them feeling jealous of you. I remember even in grade school, all the kids in class picked mercilessly on the straight A guy cus they were maybe not so much as jealous, they didn't care about their grades at that age, it was more that he raised the standard of what teachers expected from the rest of us, seeing it was possible for the few, made the other look bad. When we are young we are so self conscience and concerned about how we look and appeal to others that of course it becomes crucial how our self image is if we feel its hopeless to meet the same grades as the one or two kids in class who outshine the rest of us, no matter a few B's and a C or 2. When overall, the rest of us fall short, it can make us angry that someone else is able to do so well with hardly an effort as it seems to come so easy to them.
It isn't right to react in our thinking this way, always comparing ourselves to others and then hating and making life miserable for the ones who do so well. But another point I'd like to make which should apply whether you're in middle school, H.S. or college is that it is entirely possible that the way they tease and treat you is due to them having incomplete development of the pre frontal cortex of the brain. this is the last thing on any human to finish growing to its complete adult form, long after we have already reached our mature body form. So though we may look adult, feel adult, we may not yet have the ability to handle with ease some things this part of the brain is responsible for handling well, like weighing outcomes and differences in the best manner, so not making bad decisions that affect you adversely or the life of others adversely. Often, it's acting without thinking of the consequences, are you hurting anyone by doing what you are doing. This part of the brain doesnt mature until we hit the mid 20s, so the experts have said. Although of late, I have noticed even amoung my own kids and their friends, a certain level of this same immaturity at even later ages, even up to 30 or a little over before a person begins to really become a well rounded mature adult. Be patient with them, eventually they will grow up and behave differently. I know it hurts to hear such degrading things said to your face. What you can do so your brain doesnt take their comments in and dwell on them and actually feel badly because of it is to do a simple trick. When someone share's something hurtful like "you're just a terrible waste of air" your immediate reply with your conscious mind should be, "That may be your opinion and you have a right to it, be I refuse to believe it. Whether you say it to their face, or aloud to yourself after they are out of ear range seems to make no difference. What your conscious mind has done by stating this is help to bolster the feelings of your subconscious mind. Thats where all our emotions are stored and it needs to hear this and it helps weirdly enough so that you won't dwell on it. What ever a person dwells on too much, the subconscious mind assumes must be important to you so it strives to bring into play events by making changes in how you feel and therefore act so that you and your feelings match up with what others have said, in effect actually bringing you as a person into agreement with their opinions of you. This is a downward spiral that can only get worse. The hurt should still be there initially upon hearing such things said but you can cut down on your ability to bounce back from it by doing what I said. I hope this helps. If you do decide to try this, I'd like to hear back how its working for you. Best of luck.
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Like the man said....a B isn't exactly a dismal failure mate, is it? Maybe social studies (I don't actually have a clue what that entails in todays curriculum) just isn't your 'thing'? It's unlikely anyone is going to be top dog at every subject. I reckon there's a big slice of envy here too. You've got a tag as the 'A for everything' student, you've got a B all of a sudden, it's annoyed YOU and they know it. So they're deliberately 'pushing your button' about it to get a reaction and a bit of cheap entertainment. So don't give it to them! What sort of grades is the teasing ringleader getting overall, I wonder? Nothing like yours I bet! Don't be down on yourself. All A's and a single 89 percent B? Waste of air....wouldn't say that. That's bloody amazing! BTW...I was a straight A man at university. Always on line for a 'first' (and did indeed get one). There was one module I could NOT get my head around, despite big effort. Scraped a C- on the end paper, and boy did I get some stick from the rest when that came out!! Sort of "Thought you were me perfect? C-? That's a crap sort of mark. You're on the skids now!" Get the picture? Don't worry about it mate. It's a bit of envy, a bit of natural teasing, a bit of the way we like to see people knocked off their throne. (Not that a B is much of a fall for YOU. You know, I'd have snapped-up 89 percent for that paper the minute I'd read the question and been delighted. It still haunts me mate. I think C- was generous for the twaddle I actually wrote...I though I was destined for a re-take on that one!!). I'm prepared to bet that if you add your grades and take the average it's still A overall anyway. You can drop one amongst many. If you insist on calling 89 percent a 'drop'!
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I don't know why anyone would tease you over getting a "B" in any subject. A "B" is a very acceptable grade. Not wanting to accept that as your final grade for the year is admirable and you should request a meeting with your teacher to see if there is some extra work or special assignment you can do that would bring your grade for the year up to an "A."
I think whoever is teasing you is doing so because receiving this "B" may be upsetting you and some of them may even be jealous of your ability to get high marks in school. Do those who are teasing you get the high grades that you do? Do they have all "A's" on their report cars? Somehow I doubt it.
Don't let their teasing bother you. I know it is hard to do but it is the right thing to do for the more you let it bother you and the more they see it upset you; the more they will tease you.
The next time someone says something to you, say something like this back to them. "You know I have been looking at the "B" and it really lends some balance to the artistic balance of my report card. My parents are not upset so I think I'll just keep it this way."
Sure what I just wrote is not true, but they don't know that and what they will hear is there teasing is not getting the reaction they want. If they don't get the reaction they want they will stop.
You are a smart kid so keep up the good work. Don't let the other kids get you down over 1 "B". If you really want to bring the "B" up to an "A" on your final report card talk to your teacher about some extra credit assignments.
Have a great summer; you've earned it.
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