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Is it really wrong to save your virginity?
I am 18 years and I am in a relationship with a guy for about two years, we love each other a lot . but he yearns for my virginity . but I want to wait but he can't , should I save it ? or its gonna be really wrong?
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Don't ever let a guy pressure you to do something you don't want or aren't comfortable with. If you want to wait then that's what you should do. Its not that he 'cant' wait, its that he doesn't want to anymore. If he pressures you and doesn't respect that you want to save it then he doesn't seem like the guy you should be with.
In my opinion its not wrong to have sex before marriage nor is it wrong to wait until you are. But whatever you decide just make sure you feel completely comfortable and safe and yourself with that person because the better the connection the more special it is.
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This is the type of question that in the end only you can answer. As advisors we can give you advice but we cannot make the decision for you.
When it comes to questions like this, especially about having sex. My usual answer is NEVER LET ANYONE FORCE YOU INTO HAVING SEX. When anyone forces you even by wearing you down to the point of giving in or to have you give in to keep him as a boyfriend. This is sexual harassment and rape.
This is because you are not fully consenting you have been coerced into having sex. You have been harassed or threatened in some manner to have sex with him. This is not only illegally and morally wrong. It proves his love for you is not traditional love but that of lustful love.
Your virginity is a wonderful gift for the right man when you are ready. It may be on your wedding night or maybe sometime before then that you chose to give it to someone. When to lose and who to give your virginity to is your decision to make and you should not be forced or coerced into giving it to someone.
Losing your virginity can be painful for you. Though giving it to the right man can also be a beautiful thing for both of you making whatever pain you may feel worth the experience. I know you may love him though if he is begging you or coercing you in anyway to have sex with him; then it is my feeling his love for you is not the same type of love you have for him.
My advice then would be not to give him the most precious gift a woman can give a man. For all he wants is your virginity to put a notch on his man belt with it.
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No it's not wrong to save your virginity.
You want to wait and that's fine. Don't go do something that you're not ready to do. When you're ready, you'll know and you'll be 100% confident in your decision. Right now, you're obviously not 100% confident.
If your boyfriend can't wait, then he's not the right guy for you. It doesn't make either of you bad people, but you shouldn't have sex with someone just to keep them around. You won't be happy.
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I agree with the other poster. He might not be ready to wait, you might not be ready to give it up to him.
neither of you are wrong, but sometimes even if two people love each other it doesnt mean that they GO together, in fact some still remain friends or have some level of caring even after they've moved on to someone who WILL wait. its your choice and no one elses.
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It's your body. The only person who can decide what is right or wrong for it is you.
If you want to wait for marriage, then you should do that. If your boyfriend really wants a relationship that includes sex, he might need to be in a relationship with someone other than you.
Sometimes a person we love isn't the right fit for us. It doesn't make either of you bad or wrong, but if you have a fundamental disagreement about what sort of relationship you want to have then there isn't always a compromise that can work. He is not wrong or bad for wanting to have a sexual relationship, and you aren't wrong or bad for wanting to wait, but you might be wrong for each other.
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