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i like a guy who may be a player
so i like a guy in my school i think there may be some flirting ongoing but i most likely would be totally oblivious to that since i am stupid.i may have also totally blew it cause of being the master of the weird convo
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Do you ace every test you take in school the first time? Learning in school is a process, you make mistakes and learn by them, don't you?
Well dating and relationships or the learning process about how to be successful with a guy is not going to be an instant success, like a perfect test score. Dating is it's own learning process, but too many don't pay attention and just enjoy the feelings and never really learn anything and make the same mistakes over and over and over. If you did that in a class, you'd flunk it.
So just because you feel you didn't make a good impression or did something awkward, it doesn't mean you blew it. Start researching whatever you can on flirting, body language when someone is interested, do's and don't of dating. There is much to be found on the internet. If you cant get it with iphone, use a computer. If you dont have a computer, go use one at the library cus honestly, there's lots there. I keep studying that sort of thing myself to keep current on what to pass on to folks like you. There's great stuff on you tube videos too. How a guy shows interest is as simple as looking at you often or staring lots. Smiling and saying hi and greeting you by name is also a sign...especially if your the ony girl he's doing that with. If he greets every single girl he passes in the halls with her name and with smiles, then he's just a friendly type who treats every one the same.
Other signs are finding excuses to be standing near you, an arms length away (or closer) so that if you or he raised your arm you could tap the others shoulder without taking a step closer. Sanme thing trying to sit close to you. Then finding natural seeming reasons to touch you, pretending to accidentally bumping your arm, giving a pat on the shoulder for acing a test, tucking a strand of hair behind your ear, pretending to brush an eyelash off the cheek, or lint off your clothes. It can be the real thing but why wait for that when one can pretend. Girls do all the same stuff. If he is always trying to engage you in conversation, yes he finds you interesting. Leaning in towards the person when they are talking to you is another subconscious move we make that we aren't aware of unless we're looking for it that shows interest in the other person and something called mirroring. If you change position to cross your legs while sitting and he shifts his legs to a new position also, just not the same one, its still mirroring, another subconscious move we make when interested in someone. I have noticed all of these when I went out on dates and was looking for them.
During our school days we dont have previous experience with relating to the opposite sex so it's going to be awkward. What works for me is any time I feel like I just did or something awkward or dumb, cus I was nervous or in a weird mood and regret it immediately, I say something about it. You dont have to apologize for what you said/did. Bring attention to it in a self realizing way. Example: "Wow, did I really just say that. Thats kinda awkward. I guess I just want to make a good impression and lacking any experience in talking to guys makes me a bit nervous. Can't promise I won't do it again, but I sure as heck hope you won't hold it against me."
If he really is a sweet considerate guy, he will surely say something to put you at ease and tell you either he found nothing awkward about what you said, or that he didnt really mind and understands. He might even confess a thing or two himself. Once you can confess your awkward moments, that takes all the fear and worrying out of the event and no more worry about future events because you've just learned that he's very understanding, encouraging person. So don't give up yet girl!
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