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I am 20 years old girl.2 years ago I met a boy (23 years) on facebook.He was from the another city of my country.I never add unknown people. Actually I was searching someone from his company. And I sent friend request to him. But after chatting I came to know that he was not the one. I decided to remove him. But from his old status I came to know that he lost his mother last year. I really felt bad. And decided not to remove him. We became friends. We used to chat for long time. He shared a lot of things with me so did I. He was a nice boy. He cared for me. I forgot to take my medicine. He asked me everyday that I took my medicine or not. He asked my opinion about his business card. I mean he gave me priorities. But after 2 months don't know what happened he started to change. He didn't reply me back like before. I didn't ask why. And I started to realize that I like him. I felt bad about it that how I fall in love with someone on internet. I decided to move on and not to talk to him anymore. But that time it seemed very difficult to me. I decided to remove him. One night I knocked him and told him something about my family and then told him that I am going to remove him. He said please tell me the reason. I told him and removed him.but still I used to message him and he replaid me. That time I came to know from other source that he hided things from me. He didn't told me that his father got married few days ago. He told me that he had a girlfriend for one year but he never loved her. But I came to know that after that he also had a girlfriend almost for 3 years. But he didn't tell me anything about it. After one months I added him again. He accepted friend request and talked to me like nothing happened. Everything became normal again. I gave him my number. We started to chat on whatsapp. Almost like before. It was my birthday. I asked for gift. He asked what I want. I told as your wish. He told me to ask for something. I told him that you won't be able to give me. He asked me what. I didn't want to tell him. But he forced me and requested me to tell what I want. I told him that I liked him seriously and I really wanted to spent my life with him. He told me that we didn't meet each other ever so we shouldn't think about it. One night I asked him,won't you ever love me?He said "you are a very silly girl,stop this childish,it will be good for you and relationship are really trouble thing for me". On reply I said I will wait for you because I am unable to love anyone else.He didn't say anything.One day I called him and we talked for the first time. That day he told me about his father marriage. We talked for 20 minutes. And he was nice. After that we used to talk. His birthday was coming I decided to send him a gift. I asked for his address but he refused to give it to me. But I knew his addressed already so I sent the gift. And he accepted it(There was his another female friend. She also liked him. She also send him gift but he didn't accept it.I came to know from someone.) And on his birthday he called me and said that I am crazy. But he was happy.Every thing was going well. One day I knocked him on whatsapp and after sometime he replaid. Like he always does. But I felt something is wrong. Don't know why!!! But my mind telling me that something is wrong. I felt that he was not replying me. Someone else was doing it. And the person talked to me little rudely. I knew that he couldn't talk to me like that. I end the conversation. I was so upset that he allowed someone to reply me by his phone. After 7 days I knocked him and asked about the matter. He told that it wasn't he. I asked who it was. He told it was his colleague. But he didn't tell the name. I got very angry. He tried to explain me that it wasn't intentional. But I didn't pay any heed to his talk. I asked him how could he allowed someone to message me. He said that his colleague borrowed his phone for some work and I knocked that time and she replaid. She also deleted the message but told him what she wrote. And she did it for fun. I was so angry. I shouted at him. And told him not to contact me ever. At last he also got angry and told me that I was just a facebook friend to him nothing else and he never thought about me.
After that I found out the girls name. She is 1 year older than him. She also proposed him. But he said no. I contacted him again almost after 3 months. He also did. One day he called me we talked for so long. And the next day the girl tried to commit suicide and admited into hospital but he didn't even go to see her. When I heard about it I really felt bad.I come to know that the girl is back in his life.They talk to each other.But they are just friend. He never tells me anything about it ever. I found it out from another source. I also ask him that if he has any problem to talk to me he can tell me directly I won't contact him again. But he says he has no problem to talk to me.
We don't talk like before.He never knocks me. I don't knock him much. I still have that feelings for him. I still like him. But it doesn't hurt me anymore. I am doing okay in my life. I call him sometimes(like once in a month/months) . And he talk to me nicely like before we used to talk. I wonder he still remembers little things about me. I talk to him like a friend. I never talk about my feelings and all this. But last time when we talked he asked me,do I have a boyfriend now? I said,no. He asked,why? On my mind I was telling,because I told you that I will wait for you. But i didn't tell him that. I told him that you know the answer but may be you don't remember it.I was a little angry.
Should I move on?Should I cut contact with him?
And yes I always feel that he has some feelings for me. May be its not love,but its special.Did/does he have?I accept the fact that he would never love me. But I still love him. And I am okay with that.
Tell me what to do now? (link)
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I think it is time to move on. It doesn't seem as though be loves you the way you want or deserve to be loved. He seems confused with what he wants. It seems like you guys are just meant to be friends and nothing more. Don't be in such a rush to fall in love. Soon enough you'll find someone who wants you and only you and won't see any other girl other than you - and that will be worth the wait, I promise.
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So there's this guy I've been crushing on so hard for the past while now. I'm in the US and he's in... Australia (fml). I really like him. Don't know if he sees me the same way. People think I'm crazy. But I was gonna like take it REALLY slow, get to know him a lot then tell him if I still like him as much or even more. Because if you truly like someone and want to be with them, it doesn't matter the distance, how much time you have with them, or how long it'll take to meet them, right? Btw, he said he's going to move to the UK or US when he graduates university. So there's a good chance with that, right? (link)
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Its not stupid at all to feel a connection with someone whether you've met them in person or not, or whether they live in a different country or not. If they are someone you trust, feel comfortable with, can talk to and can't atop thinking about then it can all be worth it.
I'm not sure if you have met him or not but I'm just going to assume you haven't. You have to think about the whole 'catfish' thing. Make sure this guy is real before you let your feelings or anything else go too farm- webcams him!
Also take in to consideration that it IS long distance and long distance relationships are very hard to deal with. Don't hold off dating guys just for this one (if you aren't official) because you could meet someone you dont expect who you like even more and who lives like 20 minutes away. Don't be in such a rush to fall in love.
As for telling this guy though, just make sure you have webcamed before. And remember that you ARENT crazy for feeling a connection with someone. There is a possibility that you guys could work out if you both put in the effort.
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I've had suicidal thoughts for a large portion of my life but recently it's been getting worse. Due to recent events, I really hate myself and I can't shake this feeling of hopelessness.
I told my boyfriend this last night and he got really angry at me and called me a coward and pathetic. I get where he's coming from and I realise now that I can't kill myself because it's selfish and would hurt my mom. But now I can't stop feeling completely worthless and depressed.
How do I get rid of this feeling? I feel so alone, but I'm scared if I tell any of my other friends they'll react the same way and end up hating me.
Also, he said he was once depressed and his best friends started getting angry and shouting at him too and he got better. So now he's doing the same to me. Why isn't it working?
I'm also really confused because he said I need to look within myself and ask myself the hard questions in life. But I don't know what that means and he won't tell me. What do I do?
Also, should I try and get him to stop hating me and apologise to him? I feel like he's the only person I really trust to tell all this to but at the same time I don't know if he still cares..
UPDATE: today I had a talk with him and he wanted to break up because I was a coward, emotionally unstable, weak and unreliable to him. He said I was holding him back from his career in comic books but he still loves me and that we should break up to make ourselves better people.
What does this all mean? And what should I do? (link)
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Ive been dealing with depression since I was 12 and I'm now 20. It may seem unbearable and like a better choice to just kill yourself and be gone forever - I've been there, I've even attempted it. I didn't think it would get better but trust me when I say that it does. I don't know if you'll ever be cured, because I'm not. I still feel self hate, and disgust with myself but I dont feel the want or need to die. All those feelings don't feel as strong as they once did. Ive been seeing a psychologist since I was about 16 and it has helped so much. She has saved my life. I think that's the next step you need to take is to start seeing someone who can help you cope with these feelings.
As for your boyfriend, please get him out of your life. I know you may love him and feel a connection but you dont need that kind of negativity in your life. That's not how a boyfriend who 'loves' you should treat you or respond when you tell him you're feeling this way. It doesn't sound like he "got better" it sounds like he still has problems with himself and is just taking it out on you. You deserve so much better and WILL find someone better. I promise.
You're stronger then you think. Please, no matter how hard things get just hold on because its always darkest before dawn.
Good luck to you.
Please dont hesitate or feel like a bother to message me if you ever want to talk or just need someone to listen. I'll be here.
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I am 18 years and I am in a relationship with a guy for about two years, we love each other a lot . but he yearns for my virginity . but I want to wait but he can't , should I save it ? or its gonna be really wrong?
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Don't ever let a guy pressure you to do something you don't want or aren't comfortable with. If you want to wait then that's what you should do. Its not that he 'cant' wait, its that he doesn't want to anymore. If he pressures you and doesn't respect that you want to save it then he doesn't seem like the guy you should be with.
In my opinion its not wrong to have sex before marriage nor is it wrong to wait until you are. But whatever you decide just make sure you feel completely comfortable and safe and yourself with that person because the better the connection the more special it is.
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I am 19.I try to ignore the attraction towards girls but I can't help.I don't want to be a lesbian.what do I do.??please help! (link)
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Being attracted to girls doesn't make you a lesbian. I find girls attractive but the idea of me personally having sex with them grosses me out but guys don't - therefor I'm not a lesbian.
If you feel confused and aren't sure then just see what its like and how it makes you feel to be with a girl. There is nothing to be ashamed of in being gay though I agree with the other person, I dont think you are.
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21/f.
Right so Ive dated and everything, but I've never fallen hard enough until now to really get jealous in my relationship. My boyfriend always "likes" this girls pictures on facebook and instagram. I trust him, and he's the type that tends to go "like-crazy" in general. But I"m insecure/self conscious and its really messing with me.
Is that normal or am I just being a crazy gf? & is there any way I could kind of bring it up to him withoutt sounding controlling or overly jealous? (link)
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I think its pretty normal to feel that way.
You just have to remember and accept that though committed he will still find other girls attractive just like I'm sure you find other guys attractive. Its human nature and It doesn't mean anything. You shouldn't have anything to worry about, unless he has messages and texts from her that he's hiding from you. But that's a different scenario.
Just try to let it go.
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okay so i and my bf are about to complete 2yrs. he doesnt have time for me. he is with his friends. he is not romantic and mostly he is very immature. and i expect a lot from him. i want him to spend some time with me, talk to me,go out with me. but thats not the case. we stay far away. he does take a day out for me in a month. but otherwise we get only 7 hrs together and in that 7 hours also we get only 1 hr to be together. he does feel insecure when i tok to some other guy. i just sometimes feel that its me only putting all the efforts in this relationship. and its no use tokn to him. bcz it wont change anything. he just has so many important things in his life than me. (link)
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Sounds just like my last relationship. He was always with his friends, and lying about where he'd be. And when we did go out I always had to be the one to pay. We made it to two years before I finally got fed up and said eff you.
I think you need to speak your mind and if he doesn't change and give you more of his time then move on. You deserve so much better, you deserve someone who wants to spend all his time with you if he could. It just sounds like this guys doesn't even care. Even though its hard to leave, you'll be happier in the long run when you meet someone else who will give you the world instead of just an hour of his time a week.
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So I am 16 f and I have been self harming for about a year, yesterday my friend noticed some cuts on my arm and called my parents, they were so upset as they had no idea that it had been happening. I think that they are angry at me and at themselves and they keep asking me questions about it. the problem is that is why i didn't tell them in the first place, I didn't want to hurt them or make them disappointed in me. When they ask me things like why do you do it and are you happy I don't know what to tell them, I do feel happy and I don't know why I do it. I guess it's just hard to know what to say to them to let them know it's not their fault and that I am just weird. (link)
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You are not weird at all! Ive been on your boat. I started self harming at age 12, and it got really bad at one point. A teacher at school called my parents and they reacted exactly how your parents did. It wasn't until I was your age that I attempted suicide and decided to tell my parents that I needed to see someone. I'm 20 now and I still see the same psychologist that I started seeing at 16.
I know no one wants to be looked at as 'crazy' for seeing a psychologist but I think what you need to do is sit down with your parents and let them know they've done nothing wrong and that you love them but theres just a problem you have with yourself and ask to talk to a psychologist. Seeing one will help you out so much, way more than anti-depressants ever will.
Good luck to you.
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my girl friend feels pain in her vagina, but she want me to break her virginity .what should i do (link)
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Either way it will most likely hurt her when you first start intercourse. You just have to start slow and be gentle and make sure she feels comfortable.
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So we had a breakup after 10months and I wanted to stay friends with him because I still have feelings for him.But just one week after our breakup he started dating this other chick.
It hurts so much.
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Ive found that its always easier to get over someone you love by being with someone else who keeps your mind off that other person and that might be what he's doing.
You've just got to cut all contact with him even though it'll be super hard. Don't watch him with her, don't text him. Start hanging out with someone else who makes you laugh and not think.
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Okay so I feel myself a lesbian because I like the girl in school....I think it's okay to like her but then I feel weird and not normal when I getting to like her.I REALLY WANT TO STOP!!! I DONT WANT TO HAVE A BAD FUTURE....Thank You (link)
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Just to be clear, being a lesbian would not mean you'd have a bad future - that all depends on your actions and choices.
As for your actually question, are you a lesbian? Based off this, I wouldn't say so. You could just feel a strong connection with her. Even if you're attracted to her it doesn't necessarily mean you're a lesbian.
I hate girl parts but I still find girls attractive, and even been really into one before but I am definitely not lesbian.
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