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My self harm is upsetting my parents
So I am 16 f and I have been self harming for about a year, yesterday my friend noticed some cuts on my arm and called my parents, they were so upset as they had no idea that it had been happening. I think that they are angry at me and at themselves and they keep asking me questions about it. the problem is that is why i didn't tell them in the first place, I didn't want to hurt them or make them disappointed in me. When they ask me things like why do you do it and are you happy I don't know what to tell them, I do feel happy and I don't know why I do it. I guess it's just hard to know what to say to them to let them know it's not their fault and that I am just weird.
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You are not weird at all! Ive been on your boat. I started self harming at age 12, and it got really bad at one point. A teacher at school called my parents and they reacted exactly how your parents did. It wasn't until I was your age that I attempted suicide and decided to tell my parents that I needed to see someone. I'm 20 now and I still see the same psychologist that I started seeing at 16.
I know no one wants to be looked at as 'crazy' for seeing a psychologist but I think what you need to do is sit down with your parents and let them know they've done nothing wrong and that you love them but theres just a problem you have with yourself and ask to talk to a psychologist. Seeing one will help you out so much, way more than anti-depressants ever will.
Good luck to you.
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Awww my heart goes out to you. My advice to you find something constructive to do, if you not in a good church home, i suggest you.find one, prayer is what help me overcome my disorder of manic depression. I pray that you will find comfort within yourself. please learn to love yourself. Learn to open up to your parents and it dont help to own a diary, because a diary is a book that records your thoughts and every hidden detail of your mind. Stop hurting your parents, and last mot least stop harming yourself.
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You are not weird but have a mental compulsion driving what you are doing. You don't know why the constant desire to harm but have to get out in front of it and stop it from going on further.
It really has nothing to do with happiness or your parents doing anything "wrong" for it to exist. It's a mental health issue. What you need to do is tell a doctor about it. You're not crazy nor do you need to be to be referred to a psychiatrist.
This individual can help treat what is at the root of the problem, empower you and help you end doing this. You need the counseling, possibly medication and the assistance of a mental health professional to succeed.
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You're not weird you just have something going on that makes you hurt yourself. As a parent myself it hurts more when our children aren't honest or won't open up with what's going on with them. They want to help you but it's hard to help without knowing the details. Please go talk with them and I'm sure they will get you some help to figure out what is causing this problem. Maybe you're just bored and need to get involved in some fun activities since you say you're happy I hope that's all there is too it. If that's not the problem perhaps a doctor can get to the root of the issue. Maybe you are hurting or perhaps you have repressed memories. But your parents are definitely hurting feeling hopeless. They just want to help you. They aren't mad at you or disappointed. They are worried and afraid. So help yourself by opening up with your parents.
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