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I am a lesbian,bi or hetro?
I am 19.I try to ignore the attraction towards girls but I can't help.I don't want to be a lesbian.what do I do.??please help!
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Being attracted to girls doesn't make you a lesbian. I find girls attractive but the idea of me personally having sex with them grosses me out but guys don't - therefor I'm not a lesbian.
If you feel confused and aren't sure then just see what its like and how it makes you feel to be with a girl. There is nothing to be ashamed of in being gay though I agree with the other person, I dont think you are.
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The one thing I can tell you for certain, at least based on what little you have written is; you are not a Lesbian. Scientist have taught us that Homosexuality is not a learned action it is the way some people are born. If you were a lesbian you would have seen signs of this long before puberty.
As for being Bi or Bi curious scientists are not so certain. They believe this is a lifestyle that a person may be able to adapt to and live a heterosexual lifestyle as well.
While I do not believe you are a Lesbian there is nothing wrong with being Gay, Bi or a Lesbian. Two of the three are how you are born, embrace it and enjoy the sexuality you were born with. The third is as we feel today a chosen lifestyle. This too is something to be embraced.
It is not unusual to be attracted to the same sex and be heterosexual. Something about a person does something to us. It does not mean we are gay or we want to have sex with that person. If you do have attraction to girls as well as boys there is nothing wrong with this. Enjoy your sexuality. You may want to try a bi sexual relationship. You might find that while you find girls attractive a sexual relationship is not something you want.
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I have no idea what kind of attraction you have towards females so I want to be clear on this. If you look at females and can appreciate their form and be able to like the shape of their breast, hips, from an artistic standpoint, or lets say more like enjoying beautiful scenery like mountains, a sunset... that does not make you gay or bi. If you have a desire to want to make love to and to also be sexually pleasured by a female, that would make you either lesbian or bi sexual.
Bi means attracted sexually to both females and males. You did not mention if you feel attraction sexually to males.
How you get aroused or attracted sexually isn't something you get to choose, it's how you are born. It is not something learned because if it were, then all the adopted children of same sex couples would grow up to be gay and that is not so. They don't learn to become that just because their parents were.
You must have some reason for not wanting to be bi or gay? Unless I know more about what stories and beliefs or biases or where you got them, it may help for me to give you further advice. I await further info from you.
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