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I'm Johanna. I'll Come and Go. What can I say? I try.

One thing I LOVE to do is to analyze dreams. Just tell me about a dream you had, and I'll help you understand what it means. :)

advice

I have this assignment for my English class (related to Cyrano, if you've ever read it) where I have to somehow obtain 9 insults.

I've come up with one:

If Vogue ever does an ugly issue, you'd be on the front cover.

I am having a really hard time with these. If anyone can help, please do!

Oh, and no "your mom" jokes, and no fat jokes.

Please help; I've actually put in hours of sitting in front of a blank page.

Thank you!

When you were younger, did your mom acidentally put you in the dryer?

Does the makeup artist from Night Of The Living Dead, do your makeup?

I think you need to read "Life For Dummies."

Haha, thats all I can think of. Hope I helped. This was fun.

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alright, well I asked this kid out a few days ago. Last night he said yes, so we're sorta "going out" now.

In the beginning of a relationship everyones just all happy, giddy & stupid. But I want this relationship to be a good one. I don't know where to go from here. It's going to be weird just going into school on Monday and seeing him. We're both really shy people. I abosutely HATE talking on the phone, because (no lie) I sound like a 3 year old.

The question is, where do I go from here? how do I get my relationship going? =/

Best thing you can do, is give it a little time. You don't want to rush into things, so I would give it a little time to get to know each other. You should try going on casual dates together. Not like dinner and a movie, it's way too early and formal for that. Simple, casual things like getting some lunch at a deli, trying sushi at a grocery store, or just grabbing a bite of pizza at te pizza place, is a good place to start. I've found that if it involves food, most guys would just love to go.

You should hang out with him on weekends, but don't become too attached to him. You both need time alone. All people in relationships need time alone, in order to be healthy. So don't overwhelm him with asking him to hang out EVERY weekend. That's just too much. Try for every other weekend.

Also, you definitely want to be talking to him. Sometimes it's easier to talk over the internet, but make sure you guys can talk to each other in real life. Just talk about basic things, you know, when you're first meeting someone, you talk about music, movies, favorites, etc. Try giving your opinion on something, like "I hate when teachers give out too much homework." Then ask him his opinion by saying, "How about you?" or "What bugs you?" This gives him an opportunity to talk and an opportunity for you to find out more about him.

Give it time. it will work out. =}

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i think im not interesting,because i can never make ANYONE laugh! and i dont have any inside jokes,and nothing comes to mind when im talking. how can i make my brain make me think of things? wow,thats confusing,but im so blank now adays,how can i get myself out of my "blank" stage? how can i make inside jokes? it just feels like my semi- friends are never going to become my close friends. there never going to love me as a friend,and we're never going to have inside jokes. how can i change all of this? how can i get into convos. and make people like me? and laugh with them? anything,i have like no friends in my town,and i've been here for 2 years. ;[. thanks,and sorry this is long.

Well, inside jokes have to come from somewhere. They don't just pop into your head. The best way to make inside jokes is to have an actual experience. By this, I mean that you should go places with your friends. Ask them to go to the mall, or the movies. Or something fun like mini golfing! Chances are, that if you go places with your friends, you will create memories together. And from memories, come inside jokes. I was like you a while ago. I never had much to talk about with my friends. But we went to the mall once, and we came back with tons of insiders. For example, my friends and I like to make fun of stuff. So we went into Victoria Secret and made fun of all the underwear in there. Now whenever I see my friends, I sometimes mention, "Remember that time at the mall when we were throwing around Victoria Secret Underwear?"

Basically, just have fun with your friends. Goof off. Don't worry too much about insiders, because if you have fun with your friends and make memories together, the memories will become your insiders.

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how exactly do you do that? i dont want to play TOO hard to get incase the guy gives up but i dont wanna be so easy that he loses interest

-15/f

There are alot of different ways to do it. But here is the best way: You want to make the guy stay interested in you, but know that he can't play with your emotions. You can let him know by, not waiting around for him in the hallways, not waiting for him to call, etc. Go out with your friends and have a life! You don't want him to think that all you're doing is waiting around to see him or talk to him. Also, DON'T talk to him for 3 hours on Instant Messenger/Email/Phone OR in person. If he IMs you or calls you, talk to him for 10 minutes or so and then make up some excuse like, "Well I gotta go. I'm going out with my friends tonight." That way, he knows that you have a life, and that he's not your number one priority.

To make sure he knows that you ARE interested, flash him a flirty smile in the hall. Also, try to be mysterious to him. Guys like that. Don't feel like you have to answer all of his questions. Answer some of them, but to other questions, simply respond with a mysterious smile. If he asks you things like, "So what are you doing?" give short answers like, "Things.." It's also okay to answer questions with a "Maybe" or a "Who knows.." But by saying it in a flirty voice, he'll know that you're interested.

The most important thing is to act confident of yourself at all times. Don't come out and tell him you like him first. Wait until he fesses up. =]

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okay. it's kind of starting to freak me out ((i'm 18 female)) but i've been having some CRAZY dreams. a couple weeks ago me and my ex where arguing about how i was with this new guy. well that night i had a dream that me and him had sex, it was a detail dream. the thing is i've NEVER had sex with him. well last night i had another dream but it's like i was having sex with someone i didn't even know, it was also in detail. if it helps me and my now boyfriend had sex last night but then i had a dream about some other guy...is this normal? has anyone ever expericed something like this before? does anyone know what it means?

I wouldn't worry too much about it. It probably just means that you're craving sex right now. It probably has something to do with your hormones. Maybe you feel stuck between your ex boyfriend and your new boyfriend. I think that your dreams might mean that you are still not completely over your ex. When you had the dream about having sex with someone you didn't even know, it might mean that deep down, you are feeling kind of confused and lost in your relationship. Maybe you are so distracted by your ex boyfriend, that you feel like you don't really "know" your new boyfriend. My advice to you is to forget about the ex if he's going to be a nosey jerk, and focus on your new boyfriend.

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my mother is like a different person than when i first met her. she's like two different people in one body. this week, i went on a retreat, and i left her a letter telling her about how much i hate my school and how stupid that school makes me feel. she said she really liked my letter and that she would seriously consider letting me transfer schools. then the minute my aunt walks into the room, she starts screaming. she told me i could never go another school, and if i have to stay in the school that i'm in now, i sware, i've literally thought of like driving myself to another school when my mom drops me off at school or like have someone come pick me up. like, this lady is bipolar and this is definatley not my mommy. i think my real mother was like ubducted by aliens or something, what can i do about her?? please please give me some advice about the school issue, because this lady, whoever she is, doesn't care about anything i have to say. im not even kidding about the car thing, i'm like totally serious and i've made like my main goal to get out of that school, and no one is going to change my mind, even if like i get myself kicked out. ive considered talking to the headmistress and having her ask me to leave, ??

To me, it sounds like you have some kinks in the relatonship with your mother. Your mother probably agreed with your letter, but I think that maybe instead of writing a letter, you should talk to her in person. The way she acted might have something to with your aunt being there.

Don't push your mom too hard. Don't yell or lose your temper. Just try to be patient with her. My mom gets like that too. Try spending a little more time with your mom so you can find out what's really going on with her. Sugguest that you two go out for lunch, or go to a movie, or go shopping. (You can even ask just to go to the grocery store with her, or run errands!)Be helpful to her, and offer to help her with errands or chores.

Things like shopping are good times to really talk to your mom. Tell her calmly, what's on your mind. Tell her about how you are struggling at school and tell her that you hate it so much that you think it might affect your grades. Discussing this when walking in the mall or over a cup of coffee is always the best way to do it.

And I don't think your mom is bipolar, because my mom gets like that all the time. It could be possible that she has a tiny bit of biploar disorder but probably not enough to actually get medication for it.

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Hey there.
I'm pretty confused as to what the song
"Welcome to the Black Parade" is supposed
to represent. Someone told me its a religious
song having to do with Hell and sins.
But I'm totally lost as to what its supposed
to mean. Can anyone fill me in?

The whole MCR album is about Cancer. As you noticed, there is a bald child on the cover of the CD, who is supposed to have cancer. All the songs are in some way connected to cancer patients (particularly kids) and other teenage emotions. Welcome to The Black Parade is not about religion, it's about a kid fighting cancer. When they say, "Do or Die, you'll never make me. Cuz the world will never take my heart," it represents the cancer pateient fighting against cancer, death, and other deep issues.

I love MCR too=]

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13/f. when i babysit in the evening from like 6 to 12 or so i get really nervous when it turns dark after i put all of the kids to bed. even though the people i abysit for arre right across the street from my house i still get nervous. im parenoid that a burgular is going to come or something. im scared that i want be able to defend myself. how can i get not so parenoid?

This is a totally normal thing. I get creeped out even in the day when I have to stay alone. But luckily I have my pets to keep me company.

You can't exactly make yourself "stop" being paranoid. But you can feel better by calling your parents or a friend, just to chat. You'll feel better just hearing their voices.

And it's always good to play with the kids you're babysitting. Play with them to distract yourself from feeling so paranoid. And when they go to bed, call your parents or a friend, and then just try watching a movie or a show you like. Eat some good snacks. If it's okay with the people you're babysitting for, ask if you can go on their computer to sign on IM or Myspace to talk to people. Or hey! You can always come on Advicenators and talk to us!

Here are some little things you can do to help you be and feel safer:

-Lock the doors AND windows
-Close all the drapes
-Turn on as many lights as you can
-Turn on the radio and DANCE! Don't be afraid to dance and have a little fun.
-Don't answer the phone, or if you have to, don't tell the caller tha you're alone. tell them the parents are busy and can't come to the phone.
-Do not stand near the windows
-Keep the phone near you at all times. It will help you to feel safer, to know that if something happens (which it probably won't) you can quickly call 911.
-Bring some good snacks & movies, but don;t watch scary movies.

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15/f. I have a conflict with my best friend, who is 14/f. First of all, I am not your average teenage girl: I'm artsy, I would like to become a professional musician, I've never had a boyfriend, and I don't consider shopping a hobby. My best friend is the typical prep. I don't have a problem with this at all. My problem is that she is always telling me that I need to get a boyfriend or a date to whatever formal, or that I need to be more like the average teenage girl. But this isn't what I want at all, and I am completely happy with myself at this point in my life because instead of concentrating on boys, I concentrate on what I love to do: music. So it seems as if my best friend is trying to control me. Lately, she's obsessed with having a boyfriend, no matter who it is. And that's her business, but she drags me into crap like that. I never give in to her controlling manner, but it gets freaking annoying to the point where I don't even want to be around her anymore. How can I tell her to not be so controlling, yet still keep our friendship? Thank you!

You're living my life! Haha just kidding, but I went through pretty much the exact thing. So I'll tell you what I did about this and you can decide for yourself what would be the best thing to do in your situation.

First attempt to talk to her. Don't be mean, but you have to be strong & firm about this. Try saying a serious tone, "Look, I don't want or need a boyfriend right now, so just drop it." or if she brings it up again, say, "Can we please talk about something else?"

If she's your best friend, she should understand. If she won't let the subject of a boyfriend go, the next step is to try to distract her from it. By distracting her, I mean taking her mind off of it by going somewhere with her. If you both have fun together, and remember how much fun you used to have, it might make things a little better. Try going to the movies, mini golfing, laser tag, anything like that is good. By doing a phsyical activity like mini golfing or laser tag, it will probably distract her from talking about boyfriends.

The next thing you should try is limiting your time with her. The more you see her, the more she is going to bug you. So its very simple, just don't spend every waking minute with her. Sign up for a sport or a club, or just take up a new hobby so that you have less time for her. Sounds harsh, but everybody, including you needs a little time alone. Focus on schoolwork, exercising, or writing a story or poetry. You said you liked music, so why not write some of your own? Make a collage, do some crazy art. But all of this should be done WITHOUT her. This way you get a break from her.

If things STILL do not get better, and talking to her isn't working, you have to consider ending the friendship. Maybe not totally ending it, but slowly pulling away from her. When I had a controlling friend, I eventually got so sick of her that I cut her off completely. Took her off my Myspace Top 8, switched lunch tables, and gradually stopped talking to her because I realized she was not good for me. She was making me become unhealthy and unhappy. If that's the case, find someone better! Usually around this time, friends split up because of differences. That's exactly what happened to me and a friend of mine who, well, wore G-Unit and listened to rap.

There are lots of people out there who share your interests. Friends will never last forever, so if you need a change, find some new friends. Sorry this was so long!

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15/f

I can only count on myself for happiness. I have ONE friend and that's it. I used to be one of the stuck up, bitchy, ultra-popular girls but I decided I would rather be nice to people than look down on them.

Ever since I left them and tried to make friends, people have been looking down on ME and treating me horribly. I sit at home every weekend doing nothing.

I have exhausted my "new friend" options and am too involved with a select few sports and clubs to get any new hobbies.

Does this ever end? Any last advice? I know the easiest advice to give is "just be yourself", "make new friends" or "join a club" but really, it hasn't worked or is no longer possible at the this time. I am really looking for some deeper, more complex ideas.

Thanks! =)

I understand you completely. I'm around your age, and I have the same problem. The truth is, you CAN'T rely on friends for happiness. People always emphasize the importance of having friends, but I think that it's perfectly normal to not have many friends. Alot of times, friends let you down and weigh you down. So there's really nothing wrong with you at all. There's just not much of a "friend selection" at your school. Same as me.

But you don't have to feel so lonely all the time. You should do what makes you happy. If being happy to you, means watching movies all day and basically doing nothing, then do it! You get my point. There is nothing I can tell you that will make your life perfect & happy. All I can say is, do what makes you happy even if you have noone to do it with. Try getting more physical exercise, because exercising releases endorphins (chemicals) in your body that help you to feel happier.

Also keep a journal because it really helps relieve stress. Write about everything you're feeling, it sounds corny but it really can help.

Keep doing the activities that you like to do. Be friendly to everyone. That doesn't mean that you have to be best friends with every single person, just being nice/friendly to people at school will let them know that you're a good person and I'm sure more people will want to be your friend. Just give it a little time. Until then, have confidence in yourself. If others see you have confidence, they will think, "Wow what a confident girl! I want to be friends with her!"

And remember, friends aren't everything in life. I know that they do not hold a great significance in my life. I try to focus on my schoolwork instead of friends, exercising and staying healthy, and when I need to talk to someone or hang out with someone, I talk to my mom or I play with one of my pets.

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its okay to cut the hair 'down there' right with just like a siccors once a month or so because i'm scared to shave "there"

Sure, its fine! Don't worry about it so much. Alot of people trim and then shave because it makes shaving easier. It doesn't matter if you have your period or not either.

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I am 15 years old and I have a wonderful boyfriend just that my parents do not know. The reason why I can't tell them is because me being Nigerian I must date Africans only, but he is white and I am so confused because he thinks that I'm do not trust him because I never introduced him to my parents but he has introduced his parents to me. The problem is that I know my Dad will not approve and my Mom just agrees with him and I have to lie to them that I'm meeting my friends at the mall to go out wit him and I hate lying to them. I have no reason for them not to trust me because I am really smart and always been good so I really need help.

First try talking to your boyfriend about this. He may be even more confused than you are right now. If he really loves you, he will understand the situation.

Next you should try talking to your mom about it first. Start out being very general, say something like, "Would you be disappointed in me if I dated a white guy?" Try to sound all sad, it usually works with moms.

If your mom or dad does get mad at you, you need to tell them about how love is not about race. Love is about two people who connect emotionally. Tell them that it's wrong for people to discriminate against blacks, but it's also wrong for people to discriminate against whites too.

You're probably old enough to make your own decision about this. So just be honest, go with your instinct, and do what you think will be the best thing for YOU.

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Okay, so I'm a 14 year old female. There's this guy in one of my classes, and he's a junior. Since the beginning of the year, he has always paid "special attention" to me, like teasing me and stuff. I even recall a while back in October-ish, I was walking in the hallway afterschool, l and he was with his friend, and he stopped to talk to me.
Now, he's always like looking at me in class, especially when I talk to any guys. But I don't know if I'm just imagining the signs or if he teases me just to look cool in front of his friends. Or maybe he's just a friendly guy.

Oh, let me add some more details about us, I guess. I gave him a present over christmas break (it was just a card lol) and he seemed to really like it, he had this big smile on his face. And he's always telling me how nice I look. Also, I'm the girl he talks most to in class (this isn't much though, because there arent a lot of other girls in the class and all the girls are freshmen) I expect HIM to tell ME if he likes me or not, because he's a junior, and if I say no to him (which I wouldnt), it shouldnt be a big blow to his ego. But he keeps on dropping hints that he likes me as something..more. That's where I'm getting confused. Luckily there's a winter formal coming up on the 9th that he can ask me to AND valentine's day 5 days later. Think I should ask him to the dance? (sorry, that turned out much longer than I planned it to).

oh and there was also this time in December, when we had free time in class and him and his friends were talking about THE basketball game of the season, and suddenly the guy turned to me and asked me if I was going. I told him I wasn't, and he asked, "why not?" Of course, me being STUPID and MISSING the hint, I said "i'm kinda busy," when I really wasn't (i was completely and totally free!!), because I was embarassed at being singled out like that. If i were smart i would've said "no, because I can't get a ride". and he mightve invited me to come. sorry it's so long T_T

It's alright. It was defnitely worth reading.

Well, this guy definitely has SOME feelings for you. Now I'm not saying that he's absolutely in LOVE with you, but he definitely likes you to some extent.

Older guys are known to like younger girls. They flirt with them, and eventually, the girl asks the guy, "Do you like me?" But I just want to make sure that you know this guy well, and you know about his past. (Example: If he has hooked up with alot of girls.) Just because sometimes older guys have sexual-based intentions, but I'm sure that is not the case with him.

Paying attention to you is definitely a sign that he has feelings for you. (Especially if he smiles or laughs alot around you!) He probably wants you to flirt right back with him. But if you really want to turn this into a relationship, you have to play it cool. Try acting mysterious, and secretive toward him. You can even try acting a little "hard-to-get." By doing this, it lets him know that you are strong and your emotions are not to be fooled around with.

Before rushing into things, casually ask him, on the phone, computer or in person, something like, "Why do you flirt with me so much?" This will break the ice. It provides an opportunity for him to confess his feelings about you. But it's also not obvious that you like him, when you ask that. If he says that he likes you, thats great! Tell him you like him too. If he says.."I don't know..." simply reply, "Well I hope you'll know soon...." Adds a little mystery to it!

Wait out on the dance thing. He'll probably ask you to it, but if it doesn't seem like he's going to ask you, try saying, "Hey, me and my friends are going to the dance. You wanna come with us?" That way, it doesn't sound obvious.

Don't worry too much about it. Just be yourself and I'm sure this guy will soon be eating out of the palm of your hand. XD

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kay so at school people say stuff that im a lesbian and trust me i am NOT. i don't know why they think it because i never really do anything that would show i am. people mostly say it behind my back but then people say it to my face too (mainly guys). this seriously gets me upset- i don't show it in school, i'll just say something like "oh yeah totally" in a sarcastic way. its pretty upsetting because firstly people are saying stuff that isn't true. i never had a boyfriend before (by choice its not that i have never been asked). like if i ever get asked out by a guy i turn them down because a) i don't like them b) i just couldn't get out with them because there like my best friends c) because im kinda picky =\. and theres this one guy who asked me out three times and has liked me so many times before, but problem is hes African American. and its not like im racists because im NOT and neither is my family. its just that, that so wouldn't be excepted in my family (even though my parents like him). so maybe thats one reason why people think im a lezbain because i wont go out with people. its not like people make fun of me all the time, just every once in a while like, something a wise ass would say =|. i really want this to stop. please help.

I totally agree. For a while, people called me a lesbian just because I started wearing a bra in 5th grade! People can be so stupid.

I am really picky about boys too. Noone ever seems good enough for me. I'm kind of the same way, because I'm not racist, but I just think it'd feel awkward for me to date out of my race.

Sounds like these people at school need to get their facts straight. What you should do is stand up to them. Not by being sarcastic. By straight up telling them how it is. If you let this go on, it may escalate into worse things. That's why you have to stop it right now.

The next time a guy calls you a lesbian, say, "I'm sorry that no guys are good enough to meet my standards." or "I'm sorry, but boys like YOU are too ugly for me to date."

Or if thats not working, you should just tell them off. Say, "Listen, I'm not a Lesbian. I'm just not boy crazy like all of you, because I'm not a baby. So shut up and find something better to talk about in your PATHETIC little lives."

Sorry this is so long, but I have another thing you could say if a girl calls you a lesbian. You could say something like, "I think you're just jealous of me." Then when the girl says, "No I'm not," you can be like, "Yeah. I think you are since you spend all your free time talking about me. Loser." It totally worked for me.

Bottom line is, don't feel pressured to go out with anyone. If you don't like the guy, don't go out with him. I know exactly how you feel, but getting into a relationship with someone you don't really like, is a bad idea. You don't need a boyfriend to be happy. You're probably fairly young, so just enjoy life for now, and someday, a great guy WILL come into your life.

P.S.-- When people were calling me a Lesbian just because I didn't have a boyfriend, I made up a fake one on Myspace! I even printed out his picture and put it in my school binder! Haha!

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Would masturbating me considered a sin? I guess this question would be for Christians or something, but it doesn't have to be...

I don't think so. I mean, if having sex is a sin AND mastubating is a sin, then what are you supposed to do?! So I don't think that either one is a sin. I'm agnostic, with a strong belief in God, but I think that it does not hurt anyone, so its not a sin.

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I’ve been brought up by a religious family. This October, I had this epiphany where I realized that I don’t believe in god.
Now, I’m a little obsessed with death. Not my own death, but the death of people I love. I function normally but when I think about someone close to me dying, I get really depressed because I realize that once they’ll die, I’ll –never- see them again.
It’s come to the point that every day, I think about death at least once and every time I hug my mother (who I love more than anyone in the world), I feel so scared because I know that at some point she’ll die and I won’t ever be able to look at her again. I keep trying to add up how old she is and compare it to the average life expectancy and count how many years she has left and I keep hoping I’ll die before her. It isn’t just her either, I’m really afraid of my sister dying or my close friends dying too.
At first, I thought it was a phase and that I would come to accept it but it’s been four months and it doesn’t seem to be going away. I also a little OCDesque, I’m obsessed with germs and I rinse a lot. Do you think I should go to counseling or will it fade? I don’t know how I’m ever going to be able to go through a week without thinking about people dying.
Also, please don’t try to recruit me to your religion. That’s not what I’m looking for and I don’t want any of those messages. I will rate you very low for them.

We sound alot alike! When I was, about 9 or 10, my family was pretty screwed up. So T started to get really bad stomachaches & headaches because of the stress. For that reason, I thought I was going to die. But the more I thought I was going to die, I thought about how my parents and sister might die. So one night I told my dad about how I was afraid he was going to die and how I would never see him again. (Pretty weird for a 9 year old, since my dad wasn't sick or anything, but hey, I'm really not average.) My dad told me we should start spending more time and keeping a journal together to remember the good times. So I have about 3 journals filled up with things that my dad & I did together.

Sadly, my father and I no longer have that special relationship. We try to pretend to be nice to each other but thats it. Sorry that I'm talking about something you probably don't care about but here's my point: You should start keeping a journal. Seeing a therapist might help you, and I know it would help me too, but sometimes under certain circumstances, you just can't go through with it. So I keep a journal and I write down exactly how I feel. Anything you write in your journal will be a weight off your chest. Sometimes I write letters to my parents, and sometimes they're not so nice. But then there's times when I make lists about all the good things my parents have done for me. I also made a scrapbook of my family, which will serve as a lifetime reminder of how special they are to me.

What else you need, is some self reflection time each day. I know it sounds totally corny, but it sounds like you have tons of anxiety building up in you. This "reflection time" I'm talking about is just taking maybe an hour each day for yourself. Watch a Lifetime Movie. Read a tragic true story. Learning to cry or to grieve over a sad movie or story, will help you to better cope with your emotions in real life. Also write down any thoughts or questions that you have. This is basically just some time to think about deep issues in the world and your life, but after you finish, do not dwell on these thoughts. Move on. Distract yourself with something you love to do.

Of course spending time with your mother is good also. But that doesn't mean you have to spend every single minute with her. This is something my mom told me. My mom says, "When it comes to family, its quality, not quantity." This means that its much better to spend time occasionally with your family doing something very meaningful, rather than seeing them every second and doing nothing.

Life is what you make it. make your own rules. Make your own religion. But just remember to live day by day. Don't constantly worry about the future. Take it one day at a time.

P.S.- I totally understand about the germ thing! I am so afraid of even catching a normal cold! I wear a bandanna over my nose & mouth every day to school. I also occasionally skip some of my classes, or stay home from school because I want to avoid getting sick. It's very hard to deal with.

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this question is for girls...
i was wondering what girls look for in guys. like how do you like a guy? because i really like this girl and i want her to like me back. help please!

Hey, I'm glad if I can find a boy who is not a pervert, not a drug addict, not obsessed with sex, not a cheater, and not a dumbass who fails his classes. Those things are KEY when looking for a guy. Because no girl wants to date a loser. You don't sound like a loser, you sound like a very nice, genuine person. To be totally honest with you, girls generally want a cute guy. A guy who cares somewhat about his looks, like he brushes & cuts his hair, and wears nice/decent clothes. Girls also like guys who can, make them laugh. But in a good way. No dirty jokes, no prejeduced comments, and no cheesy knock knock jokes you got on a popsicle stick. Girls like to be flattered, they like to be told that they're pretty. I would use the word pretty or nice, because it really ticks me off when guys call be beautiful for some reason. But at the same time, we don't want you obsessing over us and calling us every 5 minutes. Bottom line, be yourself, but make some phsyical and emotional improvements if you feel they are necessary. ;]

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Hi im 14 male,i was wondering,how old would most parents say you should be before your girlfriend could sleep over,like in the same room/same bed.I know some parents are strict, but what would most parents say is old enough?
Thanks,
Please Anwser

and its not to have sex...its just to cuddle with eachother and to kiss eachother goodnight..

Depends on your parents.
I know mine would not allow it until I move out of the house. (around 18.)Haha...even if you say you are just "cuddling", it doesn't matter to parents. Anything and everything is about sex when you're 14. Which is probably also way too young to be getting into a real exclusive relationship, if you don't mind me saying so. Because sometimes you think you'll just cuddle and kiss, but believe me, sometimes it goes too far and gets blown out of proportion.

P.S. Enjoy being 14. You only get to be a teen once.

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I'm a female, size 11 shoe, and about 5 foot 8 inches tall. I need some low dress shoes in my size for the winter formal. I am going with a guy who is about 2 inches shorter than I am, and he is scared to death that i'll tower over him. I need to find shoes fast!

Try a pair of ballet flats. They are the flattest type of shoe you can get.

Lots of internet sites have good flats.
I buy shoes from Zappos all the time.
Here is a page with tons of different flat shoe styles:
http://www.zappos.com/n/bs?q=ballet+flats

If you want to buy shoes at a store, the quickest way, try some of these stores.

JC Penney:
http://www2.jcpenney.com/jcp/SearchDepartment.aspx?SearchString=flats&submit+search.x=0&submit+search.y=0&JSEnabled=false&mscssid=&cmResetCat=true

Target:
http://www.target.com/gp/search.html/ref=sr_bx_1/601-1064369-2409757?field-keywords=ballet+flats&url=index%3Dtarget&x=0&y=0

Macy's:
http://www1.macys.com/search/index.ognc?SearchTarget=*&Keyword=flats&KEYWORD_GO_BUTTON.x=0&KEYWORD_GO_BUTTON.y=0&KEYWORD_GO_BUTTON=KEYWORD_GO_BUTTON

Steve Madden:
http://www.stevemadden.com/category.asp?id=134

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is it normal for part of your tongue to feel numb after getting it pierced? the tip and part of the left side of my tongue have felt slightly numb for about 4 days now.

16/f

This is normal. When you get your tongue pierced, there is some numbness, swelling, and you usually get a red bubble or bumps around the piercing. That goes for any piercing, other than ears. You may get a "blood bubble" which will be annoying, but all of this is just part of the healing process. Make sure you keep rinsing your mouth out with anti-septic mouthwash 3 times a day, or doing whatever cleaning routine the piercer told you to do. Give it a week, and if it doesn't go away, see a doctor or go back to the place where you got it pierced and ask them.

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