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Cultural Differences
I am 15 years old and I have a wonderful boyfriend just that my parents do not know. The reason why I can't tell them is because me being Nigerian I must date Africans only, but he is white and I am so confused because he thinks that I'm do not trust him because I never introduced him to my parents but he has introduced his parents to me. The problem is that I know my Dad will not approve and my Mom just agrees with him and I have to lie to them that I'm meeting my friends at the mall to go out wit him and I hate lying to them. I have no reason for them not to trust me because I am really smart and always been good so I really need help.
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try to tell your boyfriend exactly what you told this site. hell understand.
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First try talking to your boyfriend about this. He may be even more confused than you are right now. If he really loves you, he will understand the situation.
Next you should try talking to your mom about it first. Start out being very general, say something like, "Would you be disappointed in me if I dated a white guy?" Try to sound all sad, it usually works with moms.
If your mom or dad does get mad at you, you need to tell them about how love is not about race. Love is about two people who connect emotionally. Tell them that it's wrong for people to discriminate against blacks, but it's also wrong for people to discriminate against whites too.
You're probably old enough to make your own decision about this. So just be honest, go with your instinct, and do what you think will be the best thing for YOU.
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Well, sadly, we can't change how others think.
Have you explained to your boyfriend how your parents are, so that he understands the real reason why you haven't introduced them? If you haven't, you should. I'm quite sure he will understand.
Don't let him feel mistrust for you over the way your parents think. That isn't fair to you or him.
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