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15/f
I can only count on myself for happiness. I have ONE friend and that's it. I used to be one of the stuck up, bitchy, ultra-popular girls but I decided I would rather be nice to people than look down on them.
Ever since I left them and tried to make friends, people have been looking down on ME and treating me horribly. I sit at home every weekend doing nothing.
I have exhausted my "new friend" options and am too involved with a select few sports and clubs to get any new hobbies.
Does this ever end? Any last advice? I know the easiest advice to give is "just be yourself", "make new friends" or "join a club" but really, it hasn't worked or is no longer possible at the this time. I am really looking for some deeper, more complex ideas.
Thanks! =)
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I understand you completely. I'm around your age, and I have the same problem. The truth is, you CAN'T rely on friends for happiness. People always emphasize the importance of having friends, but I think that it's perfectly normal to not have many friends. Alot of times, friends let you down and weigh you down. So there's really nothing wrong with you at all. There's just not much of a "friend selection" at your school. Same as me.
But you don't have to feel so lonely all the time. You should do what makes you happy. If being happy to you, means watching movies all day and basically doing nothing, then do it! You get my point. There is nothing I can tell you that will make your life perfect & happy. All I can say is, do what makes you happy even if you have noone to do it with. Try getting more physical exercise, because exercising releases endorphins (chemicals) in your body that help you to feel happier.
Also keep a journal because it really helps relieve stress. Write about everything you're feeling, it sounds corny but it really can help.
Keep doing the activities that you like to do. Be friendly to everyone. That doesn't mean that you have to be best friends with every single person, just being nice/friendly to people at school will let them know that you're a good person and I'm sure more people will want to be your friend. Just give it a little time. Until then, have confidence in yourself. If others see you have confidence, they will think, "Wow what a confident girl! I want to be friends with her!"
And remember, friends aren't everything in life. I know that they do not hold a great significance in my life. I try to focus on my schoolwork instead of friends, exercising and staying healthy, and when I need to talk to someone or hang out with someone, I talk to my mom or I play with one of my pets.
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Hey. I knew a girl where a similair situation happened, only she didn't try to be nice... they ditched her for being so mean. Anyways, maybe you said some things to hurt these new people and they still can't fully forgive you or trust you. You have to gain their trust by showing them that you really have changed. Even talk about it and maybe they'll understand. If your old friends don't like you for being nice than I definitely wouldn't go back to them (as I'm sure you know). I'm sure that once people know the new you you'll have many friends. Otherwise, don't join a club through your school (you may not have) but join one out of school so that you can start of new. Be friendly and nice and you're sure to make a lot of new friends. I really hope this helped and good luck! =)
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Hmm... since your involoved in a few clubs as a few of the girls/boys your closer with to hang out sometime or do something with you. Sometimes when you wanna make new friends you have to make the first move. Or in class talk to new people and ask them if the want to hang out and thats how i know alot of people make new friends is just going to the mall with a classmate and getting to know eachoter.
Hope I Helped
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