No problem! If you wanna IM me on AIM, you can... my screen name is xoxokaylanicole... what's yours?

Awww...

Hun, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I feel like my best friend is replacing me too. Her name is Becka and she has these other two friends, Alyssa and Alix. She's ALWAYS calling them and they are numbers 1 and 2 on her top 4 on her myspace and guess what? I'm #3!!! I was pretty bummed out but hey, I'm sure she's not the ONLY friend you have.

The best thing I can tell you is to be the one to call her! Don't wait around for her to talk to YOU. I'm sure if you started talking to HER more, she would come around and realize, "Hey. This is my BEST FRIEND and I can't just let her go!"

If this doesn't work, try talking to her again. Tell her she's not being herself and frankly, it's really bugging you. Don't be MAD at her ((and tell her that you're not mad at her)) Just clear things up and get EVERYTHING off your chest. Tell her you miss the times with you and her and you feel like those are slipping away.

Tell her it's okay if she has another best friend and tell her you're not jealous or anything but you just don't want her to forget about YOU and to not let this "other" girl take your place because if you truly are her best friend, trust me, NO ONE can take your place because you're in a special slot in her heart that never budges. :-]]

She should understand and if she gets upset, maybe she needs some time to think to herself. Trust me. Everything will work out fine! :-]]

If you need ANY MORE help or if you need me to clarify something that you wonder or need help on, drop a message in my inbox. I'm always here for you if you need help, okay?

♥ Kayla

Put your foot down and tell her exactly every detail of how you feel about her and what's been bothering you. But then you have another tough decision to make... Marrissa, or your other friends. Which one is better? Which one TREATS you better? Which one has been more of [a] friend(s)? Decide... Don't get rid of Marissa but just tell her, "I've been mad at you for a long time but never wanted to tell you because I knew you'd react like this." Tell her the truth and don't beat around the bush. Get straight to the point. Marrissa seems like she has issues with trusting people and telling the whole truth. Help her. Help her find herself and help her be able to tell the whole truth. You guys are friends but yet she's always angering you and that's not how it's supposed to be. So talk to her.
I hope I helped you! I wish you the best of luck, sweety. :-)
-Kayla

Yes, you should "bother" because you don't want to lose touch with her. I remember when I got in a fight with my best friend... I lived in Texas (still do) and she lived in Arizona (still does) and now, I don't know her phone number or anything because I didn't talk to her for a long long time! You have to talk to her about in a letter... telling her that you had a lot of school work and you were so busy that you didn't have time to do anything fun or anything you wanted to do. Just explain to her what was going on and that you didn't mean for anything like this to happen. Also, tell her that it wasn't ALL your fault... I'm sure SHE was busy too. O.K?
You can email me if you wanna talk or need any advice! My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K? I'm always availible. You can also drop a question/comment in my inbox!!!
:-)
♥

♥ Kayla

You shouldn't do either one...
you should talk to her. Tell her that you are Ben's best friend and have been for a while now... you never liked him as more than a friend. Tell her that you want to become her friend, if at all possible and you don't want to figh over something like this. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and how you and "Benny" are just friends and nothing has ever happened between you and him that made you like each other. Just tell her girls and boys can be friends and that's exactly how you and Ben are. You like hanging around him but when she's around, it gets kind of tense. You don't have to stop hanging around for a while because that will show her that she controls you and she doesn't! Your friends are your friends and you have the right to like or hang around any person on this earth. It's not her place to tell YOU to back off because you and Ben were friends before she even came around.

Don't be rude to her about it. Be sincere and friendly. Let her know by your tone and body language that you are a good person and you want to... make peace with her, I guess. You can tell her that you want everything to be "cool" and no tense moments where you feel completely hated and unwanted because no one should feel that way while hanging with their friends!

Best of luck!

You can email me if you want to talk... my email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com ... you can email me anytime... I check it every day so that's a way to contact me. Or you can drop a question, comment, or "Hi, yall" in my inbox!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Hey!
Well, there was a time where your reputation started in your old school. Now that you moved, you have to start it all over. I have been to 32 different schools and I'm only 14. It sucks but you have to make the best of it. Make a bad situation into a good one.
In my oppinion, I think the depression from moving is still with you and it's jusr\t hard for you to focus on things that you normally focus on. I think that's stopping you from making friends. No matter who they are, everyone has friends. Just don't be so negative. You have to think that you can do it and you can. I know it's hard. I understand exactly where you're coming from and what you're situation is so I can really relate. I'm really sorry! There are possibilities though! Just talk to people... you still miss you're old friends and your old school but you have to eventually come out and start making new friends. Start your reputation all over. It's hard and will take a lot of time but you can do it.
Email me if you wanna talk (x_pink_x109@yahoo.com)
I'm always here!
♥ Kayla
Best of luck!

To fall for someone, you just "fall inlove". It means the same exact thing. To fall for someone, you know everything about that person, or want to get to know him/her.
I hope I gave you a better idea of what it means!

♥ Kayla

Friends are people you can trust and if you can't trust any of them because you know that your deepest darkest secrets will get out to everyone, they shouldn't be your friends. Y\First of all, you shouldn't be talking about any of your friends, especially if you're in a clique. You know that the person you're talking about is going to know so just don't do it. Now, if you and your best friend are mad at someone else, yes, you can but be careful because girls these days are backstabbers. It's O.K to still be their friends but just be careful what you say because one way or another, the word WILL get out.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

O.K
It sounds like Kathy doesn't know at all what she's in for. She needs to know a few things and you are JUST the person to tell her. You need to tell her that TJ and his little "friend" are bad news. They lie, they cheat, and they're not good people at all. Maybe she might want to be their friends but she doesn't know what she's in for and it's your job to tell her. You have to tell her that she's making a huge mistake. Say, "Kathy, who are you going to believe? Me that you've known for three years or this jerk and his friend?" she should choose you. Tell her that you should mean a lot more to her than those two jerks! Tell her she doesn't even know and you do. Also, this might hurt but tell her that if she can't be your friend, so be it. Tell her either she starts acting like your best friend or she gets out of your life. Because whether you like it or not, people like that will seriously hurt you in the end if you don't tell her right there that she needs to be your friend or she doesn't. BUT... tell her that you want her to be her friend but if she is too caught up in TJ's life, she doesn't need you and you don't her. I know in the end it'll work out and you and Kathy will go back to being best friends again. I just have that 6th sense that you and her will work out your problems and talk about whatever needs to be talked about. Talk to her about how you feel. If she was EVER your friend, she'll know and understand. I hope to God that you'll be fine with all this in your head. I pray that you'll be friends with the one that you care about the most! I give you the best of luck and if you want, you can even email me tell how it went. Then, I can help more. I'm sorry if this doesn't help but I really hope it does! Bye, sweetie! :-)

Good luck!

~~~Kayla~~~

O.K...

Guys ARE shy sometimes. If the guy you are talking to is shy around you, you have to be outgoing with him. This helps him know that you are confortable with talking to him and he should be comfortable talking with you. Try that...

Also, about you aproaching him about liking him, you should IM him, call him, write him a note/letter, ANYTHING, and say, "I like to be your friend but I think I'm staring to have feelings for you..." This might seems weird and stupid but you have to be straight up and honest with him.He won't do anything, trust me. From the way you make it sound, he really likes you too. I mean, come ON! You guys slept on the couch together! That's sweet! I don't he would've just done that to any other girl! NO! Out of ALL the girls in the world, he picked YOU and you should feel special. I think he likes you. I think you can trust him with your true feelings. If you keep this in, it's going to EXPLODE and TRUST ME, that is NOT pretty! You need to tell him. You'll feel better and you MIGHT JUST GET A BOYFRIEND! YAY~! :-P

You have the potential. You are obviously very pretty, sweet, and a GUY MAGNET so you should have no problem with this.

Don't worry! You'll do fine...
I believe in you and if you do the same thing, you can do anything, even asking a guy to be your boyfriend!

I really hope I helped!

I'm sorry if I didn't. I tried my best to answer your question and I HAVE been in this situation before. This "strategy" helped me get a boyfriend! I just told him I liked him and he said he liked me too.

Don't be scared to do this...
Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥Kayla♣♠

P.S. ♥♥♥ you can email me ANYTIME YOU WANT! Don't be afraid to ask me ABOUT ANYTHING! My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com for you to email me at. You can ask me about any topic. You can also email me in my advicenators inbox if you like. Really, you can ask ANYONE here at advicenators, they're all great!

I really hope I helped!


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LOL
This is kind of confusing with all the numbers but I think I got it after reading it 3 or 4 times. LOL.

I think you should tell "99" that you WANT to be her friend but you are STILL trying to build up your trust for her. Tell her she always lied to you and you want to KNOW that she won't do that to you and your friends again! Tell her she made you feel bad because you are not her friend and she made you go back on your word, which isn't fair to you. It isn't fair that she did that. Personally, I don't think you should even be friends with 99. You should keep your other friends and leave her alone by herself. You have lots of friends and you should just stick with friends. 99 is not a friend because friends don't lie.

If she does, than she is not a very good friend, after all. It may seem like I don't know what I'm talking about but trust me... this advice will help you. I will try my best to satisfy you in answering this question as wisely and truthfully as I can.

I think you and 87 should have with 99 and tell her she lied to you NUMEROUS times and you KNOW for a fact she will do this again and you don't want that to happen. Tell her to lose your number and get on with her life! She shouldn't lie to friends. That's wrong! Friends don't do that to friends!

Tell 45 that you are still her friend BUT she needs to know what 99 did and know that this is not O.K and she can never believe anything 99 says because there is no telling what she will do next!

I really hope I helped you somehow...

I tried to put myself in your shoes the most. I want to help you and if you have ANY questions, please email me here or I have a seperate email address that is CURRENTLY not working but will be up soon. Anyways, it is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com You can still send me stuff there but I cannot get into it right now because my computer is doing some kind of freakish thing and I have no idea what so email me if you like! Give me your email address and I will surely email you!

About your situation, don't worry! It'll all work out fine...
just tell them that they need to get it straight!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥♥ Double love!

♥ Kayla

I think you should explain to your boyfriend that you love him but you need to spend a day with your friends. Alternate days like that and that will be equal time between them. Spend one day with your friends, and the next day with your boyfriend. This may seem weird but it works. Nobody feels jealous and everyone is happy.

I know it's tough to be in the middle like this but there are easy solutions to this. Like I said, take turns with them. And there may be some days where you can't do anything with EITHER of them or you may want to just spend a few days with your family or relatives. This is PERFECTLY O.K. Just take it where you left off. For example, if you spend Monday with your friends and you want to spend Tueday, Wednesday, and Thursday with your family, just spend time with your boyfriend on Friday.

Another easy solution is to spend time with BOTH of them at the same time. There may be some times where you want to spend time with your boyfriend alone and talk or whatever. There may ALSO be days where you would like to chill with your friends and just have a girls night out or something. Do the same thing.

Work it out to where you can spend equal time with your friends and your boyfriend. It'll work out great. I know it seems like it won't but it will. Trust me on this. I used to be in the middle of these two girls who DID NOT like each other at all and if I hung out with one, the other got jealous and when I hung out with the other one, SHE got jealous! I really hated it but I spent some days with one of them and some days with the other and it all worked out. Then, I started telling them that I can't keep doing this. I told them that I wanted to spend time with BOTH of them because I felt bad for spending time with one and not the other, even though I was spending equal days. I started hanging out with BOTH of them at the same time and guess what? They became friends, so we all three hang out now. My point is that works. If you want more ideas on how you can work it out, email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K? I can help you with anything you need help on. Don't be embarassed or worried to ask me a question about ANY topic.

Best of luck! *

Hope I helped! **

♥ Kay ♥

Hey!
♥

I'm going to tell you now...
DON'T call and apoligize if SHE did something to YOU. If you did something first, you may want to do that or if you did something really bad back, you can also. But if you apoligize to her for something SHE did, she's going to start fighting with you even more because she knows you'll come back to her, no matter what. I really think you should CALL her, but DO NOT apoligize.

This was not your fault so you shouldn't have to take the blame. She should call you if she haas any conscience at all. Call her and say that what she did was wrong but you, finding a place in your heart for her, want to be her friend again! Tell her that you WILL not apoligize for something SHE did and if she chooses, she may apoligize. Tell her sorry but ONLY if YOU did something to her too like yell at her or say something really mean that may have hurt her feelings. Tell her how much you care about her and how much you miss her and you hate living every day without your best friend calling every second. :-) Tell her that you want to be her friend but if she does anything like this again, SHE'LL have to call if you wants YOU back... There is an old saying (you've probably heard it) that goes like "Burn me once, shame on you. Burn me twice, shame on me." What this means is that if someone stabs you in the back ONCE, you weren't expecting it so you don't know. But if you accept that person and basically forgive him/her and trust him/her again, and they do it again, it's YOUR fault because you didn't see it coming when you should have. Don't let her burn you twice. This is the last straw and if she does it again, you may forgive her but you will NOT call her. You have to be straight with her. You have to tell her these things, only if she agrees to be your friend.

I really hope this advice helps. I HAVE been in your shoes, except MY best friend stabbed me in the back countless times and I kept going to HER BEGGING for forgiveness. Me and her are currently not speaking and will never talk to each other again. Don't let that happen to you. You have to be tough and know that I am here for you to answer any questions you may have... any updates, as well. I would LOVE to get an email from you, saying everything went well and you rae speaking to her again. Email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or drop one in my inbox.. I would love to hear from you. I want to know how this goes and if I helped even the least bit. I would feel relived if you emailed me with good news about your friend. You can email me ANY time of the day. I check it every day so you WILL definitly get a reply within 24 hours, probably even within 16 or 17 hours.

I'm here to answer any of your questions! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped! *

♥ Kayla

The best thing I can tell you to do is for YOU to talk to her mom. Tell her that Rachel is your best friend and you would like to see her more than you do already... Tell her that some of the times or days that she suggests for you to SEE Rachel are inconvient to you and you would like to see her more on weekends and hang out and stuff. I'm sorry but in a situation like this, I don't know what you could do, but that! If Rachel has already talked to her mom and she won't listen, then maybe if YOU tell her, she'll listen more and understand that what she is doing is affecting not only her DAUGHTER'S social life but yours as well. Sure, you have other friends but Rachel is the one you REALLY want to hang out with. Tell her that. You and Rachel both. Next time you see her, sit her mom down at a table or on the couch or on a bed or somwhere! and explain to her the things that are on yours and Rachel's minds.

I'm sorry I couln't help you further than what I did. I wish there was more that you could do but this is the only thing you could do in this situation...

Best of luck! :-)

Hope I helped! ♥


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That is VERY good idea! That is thoughtful, sweet, and he will charish and remember the memories you had with him and he had with you. What you can also do is dig through your things and find a picture of you and him when you first met or your favorite picture, put it in a frame and write him a goodbye note, framed in too.
If you need anymore ideas, drop one in my inbox or email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K?

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla ♥

I think you should confront him face to face. Tell him what's on your mind. Ask him why he is acting the way that he is acting.

Tell him that you want to be his friend but if he is just finding reasons to gight with you, you guys HAVE to talk about this. Tell him that you want him to be your friend and as a friend, you're asking him to tell you what is bothering him.

At times, kids your age go through some things that devastate them. Like parents divorcing, relative/family member passing away, or fights with their parents or siblings. These things can possibly cause them to take their anger out on people that they aren't even angry AT! This COULD be a possibility.

Most of the time, kids are going through a lot at your age and need someone to be there for them. That's where YOU come in. Ask him what's bothering him. Ask him if it's you that's bothering him. If it is, ask him what you did wrong to make him so angry.

This should get you through to him.

You know you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com if you need any help with advice or JUST want to talk! You can also drop one in my inbox!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla ♥

I am in the same situation with MY best friend. She thinks she's fat when she has a body that all the guys LOVE!

I "pepped" her up by giving her the old fashioned "Pep talk". Bring up all the times that guy has hit on her because of her looks. Bring up times when people have said she is pretty. Tell her that she is beautiful to you, no matter what. Beauty is within and looks don't really matter. Sometimes, they do but in her case, they don't. I'm sure she IS physically beautiful. Just because ONE guy says, "Ew. You're ugly," doesn't mean that she has to be depressed. That's his oppinion and you know what? He should go to Hell because he is both physically and mentally ugly!

If he is telling beautiful girls with good self esteems and high heads that their not pretty, he doesn't even deserve to live because he is RUINING the way people think of themselves. Now, whenever your friend looks in the mirror, she's not going to see anything but ugly. But she is pretty and you have to let her know that. I'm not all that pretty either... I have people tell me I'm ugly all the time. My own GRNDMOTHER tells me I'm ugly. I don't care because I have friends that love me and know me and respect me for ME. Not for my looks. As long as she has you, nothing can go wrong. She needs to know that. She has you and you will be with her 100% of the way. All my friends think their fat but I know they're not even CLOSE.

She has to know that physical beauty is important but not as much as the beauty inside of each and every individual.

As long as you let her know this, she will think better and cheer up. Try to make her laugh and take her somewhere fun like the movies, to get her mind off of wht she looks like!

You can email me if you want to tell me updates on this at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K? You can also drop one in my inbox. I'm here for you and I'm here for your friend, too. If you need more help, you can email me in any of these two places... or BOTH! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Hey!

I'm not a guy and I'm not attracted to women but I know... Guys ARE attracted to large hips. That's a VERY good thing. You have a great body and should be very happy with it!

You know you can email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or drop one in my inbox if you need advice or want to talk!

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

Hey!

I really don't think you should just STOP being friends in all because you have been close and have known each other since KINDERGARTEN! You can't just throw friendships like that away! That just doesn't happen! You are in tenth grade and have known this girl since kindergarten!

It may be that you and her are drifting apart. You need to try to be her friend again, without telling her what's on your mind. See if, maybe, she can take a hint that you want to be closer to her. Ask her if she can do things on the weekend and hang out with you, more. Ask if she can go to the movies, double-date, go to an amusement park, ANYTHING! Act like you were never her friend and you are trying to start a BRAND NEW friendship. Don't throw it away over this!

She is going to get new firends and it is PERFECTLY normal for YOU to get jealous. That's life! It's happened in my life, it's happened in my sister's life, it happens in EVERYONE'S life at some point. There is nothing to worry about, though. This is normal for a person to make new friends and drift away from their old ones but you have to remind her that you guys are close and you love her, as a friend and you want that closness back.

You need to talk to her if she still pushes you away. Tell her that you guys have been in each other's lives forever, been through fights but survived, and have been close through the ups and downs. Tell her that you are not JEALOUS but you want to be close and you feel like she is not wanting that to happen. Tell her that you want the friendship that you had with her a long time ago to still go on and you don't want to throw this away because you have a VERY GOOD chance of being firneds with her until the day you die and that DOES happen to people.

You shouldn't give up on the people that you care about and love dearly. You should keep trying and not feel jealous every time she gets (a) new friend(s). It IS O.K to get insecure when you feel like she doesn't care about you but she does. She HAS to because you have been a part of her when she is sad, happy, excited, and everything else. You are now in high school and have been through a lot with her.

Yes, friends fight and have insecurities but you know what? You can do it if you try. Try to be close with her again, like I said.

You know you can email me anytime you want! My email address is x_pink_x109@yahoo.com or you can drop one in my inbox if you have any more questions!

I'm here to take in ANY questions and ANY private questions, I do not delete. I answer ALL of them! I'm on every day so you can email me in my inbox anytime you like! :-)

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

People like her usually turn into little brats and they think that JUST because they get anything they want, they can ACT anyway they want. But you know what? If it makes you feel any better, you will have a LOT more friends than her because you were raised right and she wasn't! She is SPOILED which causes her to treat people like CRAP and think she can do ANYTHING or get ANYTHING they want!

The answer to your question is...

there are more things you can do other than things around the house but here are a few things you can do around the house!
1. Washing dishes
2. Doing laundry (for the entire family)
3. Dusting
4. Washing any family cars/trucks
5. Mopping floors
6. Cleaning your own room
7. Cleaning sibling (if any) room
8. Cleaning parent(s) room
9. Washing windows
10. Emptying dishwasher/loading dishwasher

There are some more things you can do. If you know a lot of people with children under 11 or 12, you can babysit. Charge $2 an hour, PER child.

You can also do yards, if you don't mind being outside mowing lawns.

I don't know what type of person you are but some people LIKE to be outside, some people like to be inside, and some people like to be ANYWHERE but their own house. Those are some ideas for ALL three types of people! LOL.

Best of luck!

Hope I helped!

♥ Kayla

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