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Friend Trouble
I don't have much time in my crazy schedule and my boyfriend and have gotten really close lately and hang out all the time... my friends are getting annoyed and are saying that i don't spend enough time with them. i try really hard to do things with them, but it seems that i can never fit everyone in.. i want to stay close to my boyfriend but i don't want to lose my friends either.. comment please!
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There is this thing called Group Date. Yea it is very common. lol you can try that. You can also try telling your bf that your friends want to see you more and you can see your friends at the mall one day, go to the movies with your boy the next. Your bf will probably understand. Or as I said there is group dating where you can all go with your bf, your friends and your friends bfs to the mall or whatever.
Give it a try.. hope i helped =)
*emster*
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i know how you feel. my friends started getting pissed cuz i wuz starting to put guys before them.but thats one thing you have to learn. that friends ALWAYS come before guys.think about it liek this.....if your bff and your boyfriend both jumped off a cliff who would you save?? you would prolly say your bff and if not then thts ridiculous because guys should never get inbetween friends.so just tell your boyfriend that yuo need to spend some time with your girls. im sure he will understand.
hope i helped XoXo
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try to tell your boyfriend that you want to hang out with your buds a while and he will understand why. you and him are probably in a deep love right now and can't get out of it. try to tell him that you need some time away with your girlfriends. he will understand
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Hey,
Atleast you admit that you really are trying to fit them into your scheduel. But if you're friends know that you're blowing them off to be with some boy they have all the right to get pissed off. i mean, if my friend was doing that to me i'd get pretty mad.
Anyways, i think you shouldn't spend all of your time with your boyfriend...you need to spend some more time with your friends. explain that to him and im sure he will understand.
Get together with a bunch of your friends and you wont have to worry about "fitting everyone in".
i hope i helped!
<33 kayla
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well, talk to them about it. just tell them how you feel and that you dont want to lose them but you dont have a lot of time on your hands to please everyone. and if they dont understand after that, then they're not real friends. i was in the same situation and i found out that a lot of my friends werent real. i hope you're friends are. good luck.
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You should invite your friends to hang out with you and your boyfriend and if not than work out a scedule like tues. friends wed. boyfriend or w/e works for your
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I think you should explain to your boyfriend that you love him but you need to spend a day with your friends. Alternate days like that and that will be equal time between them. Spend one day with your friends, and the next day with your boyfriend. This may seem weird but it works. Nobody feels jealous and everyone is happy.
I know it's tough to be in the middle like this but there are easy solutions to this. Like I said, take turns with them. And there may be some days where you can't do anything with EITHER of them or you may want to just spend a few days with your family or relatives. This is PERFECTLY O.K. Just take it where you left off. For example, if you spend Monday with your friends and you want to spend Tueday, Wednesday, and Thursday with your family, just spend time with your boyfriend on Friday.
Another easy solution is to spend time with BOTH of them at the same time. There may be some times where you want to spend time with your boyfriend alone and talk or whatever. There may ALSO be days where you would like to chill with your friends and just have a girls night out or something. Do the same thing.
Work it out to where you can spend equal time with your friends and your boyfriend. It'll work out great. I know it seems like it won't but it will. Trust me on this. I used to be in the middle of these two girls who DID NOT like each other at all and if I hung out with one, the other got jealous and when I hung out with the other one, SHE got jealous! I really hated it but I spent some days with one of them and some days with the other and it all worked out. Then, I started telling them that I can't keep doing this. I told them that I wanted to spend time with BOTH of them because I felt bad for spending time with one and not the other, even though I was spending equal days. I started hanging out with BOTH of them at the same time and guess what? They became friends, so we all three hang out now. My point is that works. If you want more ideas on how you can work it out, email me at x_pink_x109@yahoo.com O.K? I can help you with anything you need help on. Don't be embarassed or worried to ask me a question about ANY topic.
Best of luck! *
Hope I helped! **
♥ Kay ♥
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I went throug the same thing and you know what i chose my boyfriend and i was ruined... all my friends stopped liking me and all i did was hang out with my boyfriend and then my boyfriend and i broke up and i was left with no friends.... boyfriends come and go but your friends will always be there for you.. i mean that is just what happend to me you do what you think but i hope i helped a lil bit!!
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welll it looks like a comprimise needs to be made.
ok lets say you can hang with your bf 2 times a week. instead, hang with him once a week and hang with friends once a week. alternate it like that.
ive seen my friends go through this with a close friend of theirs, it wasnt good and friends shouldnt be lost over a relationship. if you really try, you can balance both your bf and your friends.just even out times you spend with your bf and friends
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Just tell your boyfriend that you can hang out with him, but not all the time. Your life isn't only devoted to one person. You have friends that you love to hang out with, but you still want to hang out with him as much as possible. Hope i helped!
Thanks,
Jenna
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