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Ok well my bestfriend, she was like my bestfriend ever & like now I just feel like shes replacing me with one of her other friends. cause she used to be like a sister to me and now like we barley talk & i tried to talk to her about it & ask her if she was trying to replace me and she even said i dont know. it really hurts and i was like crying for a while trying to think everything over & i just dont know what to do cause i love her shes like my sister & i deffently dont wanna stop being friends with her. I dont know what to do to make her understand cause talking to her wont work? any other sugjestions? =/
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ive been in this situation. okk generally the less you try to be friends with her the more she wants to be. Just ask her once in a while if she wants to hang out. Maybe she just wants to hang out with this person for a little bit. so what you should do is hang out with other people too. but always make sure that you keep in touch and still invite her to hang out so that you wont completly loose touch. i hope everything goes well. and dont get stressed over it. shes not supposed to make you sad =
hope i helped
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thats tough. ive been there. she probably just needs a break from you for a little while. just give her some space & yall can both take some time apart. in the end it could bring yall even closer. just dont try to cling on to her too much because it could drive her away even more. if the friendship does end up not working out anymore, then theres not much you can do. just try to hang out with some other people for a little while, and maybe with time everything will be back to normal. as long as you make sure she knows you love her and love having her as a friend, yall should be ok. hope this helps!
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oh my god
i tottally know how you feel
and i honestly Dont know what to tell you expecpt for the EXACT THING happened to me so i know how you are feeling and i know that it hurts but honestly i couldnt do anything about it either all i did was move on casue thats all i felt like i could do
and im sorry this happened to you
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maybe she is nicely letting you know that she doesn't want to be "REALLY tight" anymore. I mean being her friend was way cool but maybe she's moved on. Im not trying to be mean but I'm just giving you the brutal honest truth. You should ask her if she wants to stay friends but not bestiies. If she says yes start finding other friends. Sometimes these things happen for a reason. Maybe somebody out there needs a good friend and that could be you. So if she's decided to move on there's no need to cry about it. Yes, it's sad but you should move on too. Find another best friend. I'm not saying you should completely replace her. You guys should still try to hang out or talk online. But make other friends. :) Hope you find lots of friends!
<3Marissa xox
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Well I kinda know how you feel. Just dont let the other girl get in the way. Kepp talkng to your friends hang out more. Dont wait for her to ask you and all that stuff. You take controll.
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When that was happening to me(but i was the one replace the other girl) I had us all hang out so we could all be friends. People can have more than 1 best friend. So get to know the other girl to and become a 3some!
Jess
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ok i have the same problem talk to her on the phone or even in person if she has any friends around talk to her later but if she doesnt then take the time to talk with her tell how much her friendship means to you and that she is the one person you dont want to lose friendship with if she doesnt understand then leave her allown at least you trie.
abercrombie13
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i know what you mean. sometimes i get jealous when my best friend who is like a sister to me chooses to hang out with her other close friend over me and i feel hurt. but the thing is, if a best friend is TRULY your best friend, she would never replace you. if she's not going to treat you with more respect, then she's not a very good friend. if talking to her won't work, then don't talk to her. why should you waste your time? if she really loves you she will appologize and work it out, if not then she's fake and you deserve a better girl to be your best friend.
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this sort of happened to me... ive had this bestfriend since second grade.. but a couple years ago she started to hang out w/ another girl more... and was kinda rude to me... well i think it is just a phase because she got over it... and my advice is dont freak her out.. if you have already said something to her.. dont keep calling her and asking her to do stuff... let her go on her own w/ this other girl for a while.. and wait... if you have any classes together or play sports become friends through that again.. but u should hit the bestfriend stage really fast.. and after you do.. wait a while... and then talk to her about it... be like yeah u hurt my feelings blah blah balh.. then shed probably be like really im sorry... she could also just be on her period.... but just give her some space
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You can't replace a true best friend. If she doesn't want to be your friend anymore she should say it. Maybe she wants to try new things. Maybe you guys should try somthing you've never tried before. If you get tickets to a concert or play she really likes invite her. Bring money for t-shirts or something. That was just an example. Try Something new. - gilmorecrazy
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Awww...
Hun, I know EXACTLY how you feel. I feel like my best friend is replacing me too. Her name is Becka and she has these other two friends, Alyssa and Alix. She's ALWAYS calling them and they are numbers 1 and 2 on her top 4 on her myspace and guess what? I'm #3!!! I was pretty bummed out but hey, I'm sure she's not the ONLY friend you have.
The best thing I can tell you is to be the one to call her! Don't wait around for her to talk to YOU. I'm sure if you started talking to HER more, she would come around and realize, "Hey. This is my BEST FRIEND and I can't just let her go!"
If this doesn't work, try talking to her again. Tell her she's not being herself and frankly, it's really bugging you. Don't be MAD at her ((and tell her that you're not mad at her)) Just clear things up and get EVERYTHING off your chest. Tell her you miss the times with you and her and you feel like those are slipping away.
Tell her it's okay if she has another best friend and tell her you're not jealous or anything but you just don't want her to forget about YOU and to not let this "other" girl take your place because if you truly are her best friend, trust me, NO ONE can take your place because you're in a special slot in her heart that never budges. :-]]
She should understand and if she gets upset, maybe she needs some time to think to herself. Trust me. Everything will work out fine! :-]]
If you need ANY MORE help or if you need me to clarify something that you wonder or need help on, drop a message in my inbox. I'm always here for you if you need help, okay?
♥ Kayla
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aw well I can tell you from experience, invite her to sleepover, and I meando whateve ris good for her for a day for her to sleepover. Than talk to her about it in person.
Try getting to know her other friend, maybe you could all be friends?
Best of luck<3
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