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I think my best friend has major jelousy issues and I don't know how to help her out. Example: If someone has one of her favorite songs on their myspace or something she gets mad. She acts like she's the only one who can like it. Same with layouts and colors for A.I.M. She's really spoiled but her family isn't even rich. Her parent's can't make her understand that they need important things for the family besides Abercrombie clothes.
There is a guy she likes and he has a girlfriend. She was talking all trash on her saying how she was fat and ugly.. and seriosyly, she's not. If I hang out with other friends, she gets mad at me. She didn't make a volleyball team and soccer team and she threw the biggest fit!! She kept yelling at her mom like it was her fault and was being really bitchy towards me. She also gets upset if she isn't first in someones profile or something. If she's last or something, she gets upset.
Anyways, she's my best friend and I would never justt blow her off and I've sat down with her and talked to her about it but she gets mad and then forgets about it. I mean, there are good things about her but it just drives me insane and I don't know what to do.
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Hey,
I know exactly what you are talking about and what you are going through, i had a friend who was so so jealous. She wouldn't let me go anywhere with out her, or hang out with anyone except her, or meet new friends. And if she found out that i was talking to another friend on the phone, she'd get so mad.
I tried once to just take a step back in our friendship, and let her cool down a bit and change her attitude, but she just ended up getting so mad and wouldn't talk to me for days and days to come.
But let me tell you something, sometimes people don't notice what they do or attitudes, or notice that they are wrong, except when someone points it out to them. I know that you already talked to her about it, but try again, tell her that you really really love her and you like hanging out with her, and that she's loads of fun and stuff, but that sometimes you need to hang out with other people and talk to other people, but this doesn't mean that you hate her or don't like spending time with her, but that a person has to have many friends and hang out with different people. yOu will still be there for her and do things with her, but you have to have a social life with others.
So try to tell her this, and draw her attention to how she gets jealous quickly for simple reasons. But act cool and natural ,so that she wouldn't get mad, and if she tries to change the subject ,tell her not to, and tell her that she is a very sweet and nice person and is characterized with alot of good stuff, but only if she tries to change this jealousy issue ,she could be much better.
So make it as a normal conversation, and don't be hard on her, and give her sometime to consider this. And i hope it works.
But just so you wouldn't be disappointed if things don't work, there are some things about people that we just can't change, its hard, but not impossible, if she tries hard to change herself, she will do it. And i am saying this all from past experience with the whole jealousy issue.
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If you don't want to give up on her friendship, that's good because it shows you have dedication to your friend...but also...there's nothing else you can do but talk to her about it. Try to get it to stick.
Tell her that you have tried to explain things to her many times alread, but it never sticks. Truth is...this is a quality many people dislike in friends and it can make her lose friends. Also, to be considerate of her parents needs. And as much as it sucks, she can't get everything she wants. She needs to stop throwing hissy fits for everything and just deal with it...it's life. She's not the center of the universe...and that is a horrible attitude to take on.
Good luck,
Teacup
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