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shes getting mad.
alright so i have this friend named ben. ben is dating this girl named jenny. me and ben havent been known each other for too long, but we both feel like we've become the best of friends. well, jenny is starting to really really hate me cause she thinks im trying to steal ben away cause im always hanging out with him and walking with him and stuff. i kinda understand how she feels but i dont wanna lose benny because of her. should i just lay off of ben for a while? or tell jenny to get lost?
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You shouldn't do either one...
you should talk to her. Tell her that you are Ben's best friend and have been for a while now... you never liked him as more than a friend. Tell her that you want to become her friend, if at all possible and you don't want to figh over something like this. Just talk to her and tell her how you feel about her and how you and "Benny" are just friends and nothing has ever happened between you and him that made you like each other. Just tell her girls and boys can be friends and that's exactly how you and Ben are. You like hanging around him but when she's around, it gets kind of tense. You don't have to stop hanging around for a while because that will show her that she controls you and she doesn't! Your friends are your friends and you have the right to like or hang around any person on this earth. It's not her place to tell YOU to back off because you and Ben were friends before she even came around.
Don't be rude to her about it. Be sincere and friendly. Let her know by your tone and body language that you are a good person and you want to... make peace with her, I guess. You can tell her that you want everything to be "cool" and no tense moments where you feel completely hated and unwanted because no one should feel that way while hanging with their friends!
Best of luck!
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Hope I helped!
♥ Kayla
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Just don't do anything that might send of the signal that you want to be more than friends with him. Like hugging and stuff. That might be making her think you two like eachother or something. But she shouldn't even be worrying about that. I mean she must have guy friends and does Ben think they're gonna go off and steal his girlfriend? What I might want to try is talking to her ( or if not write a note or something ) and just explain that you and Ben are best friends, and nothing more and that you apologize for making her think that they were anything more. Explain that maybe it might seem like it's more because you might hug or something, but really it's just two friends say bye/hello or whatever. And explain to her that Ben really really likes her and doesn't want to lose her. That might make her understand a bit more. That's good that you understand from her point of view. I mean, some girls would just tell the other one to probably just back off. I hope I helped!
Love,
MELii
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Hey,
This always happens with my guy friends. If Ben wants you to lay off a little bit, then do so. Don't flirt with him or hug him. Be friends but don't touch him or act like you want anything more than your friendship. If Ben wants to loose a good friend over a girlfriend, he's got something coming. First of all, if this girl is self conscience enough to hate you because your friends with her guy, she needs to grow up. And second of all, just know that if Ben decides that you shouldn't be as close as you are now, he'll come back to you and things will proceed as they did before Jenny came along.
Good Luck <3
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Hey sweetie,
Yea, this may be a problem. I really don't think you should lay off ben at all. What I think you should do though is sit down with Ben and Jenny, and explain to her that you guys are just friends and that your not trying to steal him away from her. If she really has that big of a problem than why is she with him? She should be able to trust him. I think you are fine. Don't stop talking to him or anything. You are doing nothing wrong. x3
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Tell her to get lost! Why should you have to stop talking to Ben because she's insecure about their relationship? If she really thinks that someone can come between them, then how great is their relationship to begin with? Eather that or she's on the rag.
Love,
The Waffler
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Dont tell her to get lost, but hang out with him anyway. I lost a good friend because of his girlfriend and I hated it. You'll regret not trying to hang out with ben and stuff... Be friends with him, who cares that shes jealous? She needs to calm down and be assured by Ben that your just friends! Really dont give up a great friendship just because of that!! tell me how it goes if you can=)
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Well, you cant really blame Jenny for being jelous its a normal emotion for like,......every girl. maybe she is over reacting but you should try to explain to her that you are not trying to move in on her man! Just tell her that you guys are just friends!
Hope I helped!!
~<3
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