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My bestfriend is always trying to get me and my boyfriend to double with her and hers. The problem is that her boyfriend really likes mine but my boyfriend finds hers a tad annoying and doesnt really want to hang out with him. He likes my bestfriend just not her boyfriend. So I'm not sure what to do because she keeps asking us to do stuff and sometimes we go but its ALOT more often that we dont. And I know my boyfriend has a horrible time when we go because her boyfriend will try to pull him away and things like that. And I can't tell my bestfriend this because it'll upset her
You're right... you definitely shouldn't tell your bestfriend. That would hurt her unnecessarily. Talk to your boyfriend. Tell him that you understand that he has a rotten time with this guy, and that you hate to ask him to do something that he doesn't enjoy... but that your friendship with your bestfriend is very important to you, and if you keep avoiding these double dates, it will cause hard feelings between you and your friend.
Ask him if he wouldn't mind hanging out with them just once in a while. If you do it just every so often, it won't seem like you're completely avoiding them. Just a small sacrifice on your boyfriend's part to help you maintain an important friendship. In return, you can offer to do something of his choosing, that you normally don't like doing.
Hope it works out! =)
so my bff has liked this guy for ages, but he's just a friend. i'm the only person that knows and she's sworn me to secrecy. but i just found out through another friend that he has a thing for me. now i dont like him like that and even if i did, i wouldn't pursue it out of respect for my bff. but what i want to know is how do i tell her? do i tell her?
i dont want her to hate me cause i usually get the guys not her. help!
If you don't like him, and nothing is gonna happen between you and him, then there's no reason to tell your bff about it. It would just upset her for no good reason.
i'm 15 girl that's a sophmore in highschoool!
i want to be popular
and i don't want the typical advice like put yourself out there..it does not work or help!
Well, it helps if you understand what true populartiy really means. Being popular means being liked and respected by everyone... not just a handful of people in the "cool group."
A lot of people don't understand that. They think that hanging around a certain group will make them popular. So they put all their energy into impressing and befriending that small handful of people. Sometimes they succeed, and they get accepted into that group. But that doesn't get them real, lasting popularity. Because the cool group is constantly changing. The people who seem to be "all that" right now will eventually be dethroned by someone else. And if those are your only friends, you'll be yesterday's news right along with them.
Think of it this way: let's say you want to run for class president, or homecoming queen, or captain of your sports team. You'll need a lot more votes than just the 10-15 people who are currently "cool." You'll need a majority of the people in your school voting for you. Which means you'll need to be truly "popular" - liked and respected and admired by a whole lot of different people.
So the key to being popular is to be nice and friendly to everyone... and I mean *everyone*. The cool people, the nerdy people, the sporty people, the emo people, even the people who no one else likes. It doesn't mean you have to be best friends with all of them, it just means being nice and treating them all with kindness and respect.
But you can't be fake, because people can see right through that. You have to be sincere, and truly believe that every single person has something to offer and is worthy of your time, attention and friendship. When you have that attitude, you'll find that you'll have a lot of friends - people who like you, and who you like right back. And that's what being popular is all about.
ok well my bf and i broke up because he doesnt have time for a gf and im moving in a little over a month. its been really painful for me and i dont know what to do. i dont really care about dating him anymore but hes my best friend too and we have been best friends for a while. he knows everything about me but now he doesnt even have time to call me-seriously. he never calls and when he( or i) finally calls he is like im really busy i cant talk now sry we can talk later. i dont know what to do and last sunday he was flirting with me A LOT and we ended up kissing a couple times because we still kinda like each other but its really confusing. the thing that i cant handle is i've never had a friend who didnt even have time to talk to me! we go to different schools and now he never has time to hang out so we barely see each other except at church and youth group. please help me!! he doesnt have time but he means so much to me and i am leaving soon!!! thank you so much and i will rate :)
Awwww, I'm really sorry that he's acting that way. And I know exactly how you feel, because I've been in the same situation. So I think I know what's going on here.
See, I had to move several times during my school years. And every time, the same thing happened. As soon as they found out I was moving, some of my friends - even my closest ones - would start to act distant. Suddenly they didn't have as much time for me, or they started to drift away to other friends. It was almost as if I was already gone. And it hurt so bad! I was going to miss them terribly, and all I wanted was spend as much time with them as possible while I still had the chance. Why didn't they feel the same way?
Well, I eventually realized they DID feel the same way. My moving was going to be as painful for them as it was for me. Once I was gone, things would be different and there'd be a "gap" in their lives. So what they were doing was trying to prepare themselves for life without me. Letting me go slowly just helped them have a head start toward their new life without me there.
I think that's what's happening with your boyfriend/bestfriend. It sounds like you two have been really close, and he was probably devastated when he learned you were moving. If you continued to date, or even stay really involved with each other as friends, it will be even harder for him when you actually leave. So he's just trying to protect himself from being hurt any more than he already has.
I know that doesn't make it any easier, but it might help to understand why he's acting that way.
Anyway... try talking to him about it, or maybe write him a nice note about it. Let him know how important he is to you, and how hard it will be for you to leave him when you move, and how you'd like to spend as much time as possible with him while you still can. He might not realize that his effort to protect his own feelings is actually hurting you even more. However, if he continues to stay distant, just realize that it's only because he's going to miss you so much.
I hope this helps some. And good luck with your move!
I met someone at work, and they're really nice but also kinda strange.
So I was talking to them and being nice, and they're just coming on too strong, they asked for my phone number and always ask when I'm working and to phone them to hang out and stuff.
But it's just like too pushy, like she wants me to always have break with her,and phone her and always do stuff. And I hate to sound mean but I kinda don't want to, becuase she weirds me out. I feel as she is like suffocating me but I don't know her, and she does it all being really nice.
Is there anyway to absent out of this friendship, or at least get them to lay off, without saying it to them don't want her hurt feelings.
It sounds like this girl probably doesn't have many friends, and she's just starved for companionship. So when someone is nice to her, like you have been, she gets a little too excited and clings on to hard. And that scares people away. It's kind of sad.
But just because you feel sorry for her doesn't mean you have the responsibilty of being her new best friend. On the other hand, just because she's irritating you doesn't mean you have to be mean or cold to her. Just keep being friendly when you're around her. But if you don't want to do something with her, you don't have to... just politely say sorry, you can't. Eventually she'll figure out that your friendship is going to be the kind that stays on the "acquaintance at work" level.
I have a guy friend who asked me for money for his birthday this year. I know its a bit impersonal, but its what he wants. anyway, anyone have a cool/creative way to like give to him? thanks.
Here are a few ideas:
Tape a bunch of singles together end to end, in a long strip. On one end, tape a blank piece of paper. Put the money in a small box with a slot cut in the top (like a kleenex box), and leave the blank piece of paper sticking out of the slot. Write "Pull me" or some cute saying on the paper... when he pulls the note, the long strip of bills will come out.
Fold up a bunch of dollars accordian-style, and tie them each with a long string. Tie the other ends of the strings to the inside of an umbrella, and close it up. When he opens the umbrella, it will be "raining money."
Get one of those really big chocolate bars; slide off the paper wrapper, carefully open the foil, and put the money inside; then seal it all back up. When he opens it, it will be like finding the "golden ticket".
Put the money inside a balloon (a thick or dark colored one, so he can't see the money inside) and tie the balloon to a small box. When you give it to him, he'll think the balloon is just a decoration for the box. But inside the box, he'll find just a single pin. He'll have to figure out what to do with the pin in order to find his real gift!
If you have a joke shop or toy shop nearby, see if they have one of those silly cans with the coiled up "snake" that pops out (do you know what I'm talking about?). You can wad up a bunch of bills and put them on top of the snake thingy, so that when he opens up the can, the money will go flying out everywhere.
My best friend is really pretty. Guys are constantly talkiing to her and commenting on her looks. I feel so awkward just standing therewhile all the guys are allhitting on her. I mean--i'm not ugly but they never do anything like that to me. i feel extremely ugly when i'm with her.I feel bad to be saying this,, but what should i do? liek i feel like im jealous of her maybe?? I don't have a low self esteem any other time--it's just with her. I try not to let it get to me--but after a while it does. How do i get guys to pay attention to me too? and what else should i do?
I had the same problem... my best friend was totally gorgeous, and whenever I was with her I felt like an old stump. So I know how you feel. Unfortunately, you can't make your friend any less attractive... but if you dwell on it and let it make you feel bad about yourself, those feeling will show through to others... and that will make YOU less attractive.
Try to think of it this way. Your friend may be the one attracting the guys, but since you're with her, you get to benefit from it! Sure, they may come over to talk to her, but you can join in and start talking to them as well. Instead of leaving or standing there quietly pouting, jump into the conversation and let them get to know you! As someone already said, looks aren't everything: I can think of tons of girls who aren't exactly runway models, but always have the guys' attention because they're friendly, outgoing and full of self confidence. If your attitude is "I have just as much right to their attention as she does", that attitude will shine through and the guys will come to feel that way, too.
I probably wouldn't mention your feelings to your friend, though. That will only make her feel bad or guilty... and after all, she can't help it. Besides, if she's a good friend, she probably already has a hint of how you might feel. If you bring it up, that might put a strain on your friendship.
Good luck! =]
I'm sitting at this table for prom and theres this one girl that hates me. she wanted me out of the table but i talked to the other people at the table and they said that i should stay.. so im gonna. but if that girl were to say something to me what should i say back?
If this girl says something rude to you in front of all those people, it will only make her look bad. Don't make yourself look just as bad by saying something rude back. If she makes any snide remarks, just ignore them; act like you didn't even hear it. If she actually says something rude to you, just calmly say "I'm sorry you feel that way", and go back to what you were doing. Don't let her or anyone else see that it bothers you. And really, you should try not to let it bother you! This is your prom and you should enjoy it!
OK well i have this friend that im really close to. but lately we've been getting into a lot of arguments. And they all have to do with guys. Im gunna hate myself for saying this but shes reaaally overweight. that doesnt matter to me we've been friends forever. I know this might sound self-centered but i think she gets jealous because i get a lot of attention from guys. And recently a waaay OLDER guy has been "interested" in her.(THIS GUY IS 5+ AND SHES 16) She doesnt even know him and shes all in love with him already. I tried talkin to her about it and told her its too soon to like him that much. She said i was jealous and it all blew up in my face. But i dont want him to just sleep with her and forget her. Am i being jealous? Or am i too honest? I dont want our friendship to end over a guy she just met. So any advice would help! THANKS! =)
No, it doesn't sound like you're being jealous... it sounds like you're honestly worried about your friend getting hurt. And you're probably right. If she doesn't usually get much attention from guys, it will be easy for her to fall hard for someone who shows an interest. And yes, if this guy is a dog, she could end up being used or hurt.
unfortunately, this is a really common situation. We've all seen friends get into relationships that we don't think are the best for them. Sometimes, like your friend's situation, we can see that the guy is just using them... or it could be a guy who's too clingy, or too demanding, or even abusive... or just bad news. And we want so bad for our friend to realize what everyone else can see so plainly: This guy is no good for you!
The problem is, a girl who's "in love" isn't going to listen to anybody who tries to rain on her parade. Even if she knows deep down that it's not the best situation, she's going to close her eyes to it... and she's going to resent anyone who tries to make her see it. If it's really a bad situation, she will eventually see it, and hopefully before too much damage is done. But as much as you want to help, she's going to have to figure it out on her own. If you keep saying bad things about the guy she loves, it will jeopardize your friendship.
So my advice is... go ahead and tell her nicely - once - that you're worried about the *possibility* of her getting hurt. And then drop it. Let her go ahead and make her own decisions, and be there as her friend. If things turn out badly, she'll need you more than ever, and then you can be a shoulder for her to cry on.
Good luck!
i have moved a lot. i want to send my old friends something so i can keep in touch with them. what do you think i should do? would cards be fine? (i dont have much money to spend, but lots of friends). any ideas?
Cards and letters are great! Everyone loves to get something in the mail... it's so much better than talking online, because it's something you can keep. And it's just fun to go to the mailbox and find something addressed to you!
Ok, I have this best friend, I'll call her Sierra. Now, Sierra is great and everything, but she's a little... well, to be honost, she's a complete poser. But instead of posing as a certain stereotype [skater, prep, emo, etc.] She copies me! She ALWAYS does what I do! Don't get me wrong, I am flattered, but it's annoying, especially when people actally believe her about things she says she does. Like art, for example. I've had a huge passion for drawing since Pre-K. My dad's side of the family were artists, so I kind of grew up around the environment. I have a sketchbook that I take to school, to doodle when I get bored in class. Ok, a few weeks ago, I had my sketchbook out in study hall and was doodling, when she comes up and asks me what i'm doing. I answered and then she goes off about how she "loves to draw too!" and "what a coincidance!". I have never, I mean NEVER, heard or saw any of this sudden artistic surge before, from her. She went on and on about how she was a "deep thinker artisticly inclined" [her exact words] person, and said she would bring her sketchbook so we could "study each other's artistic skills". Well, she goes out that night and buys her self one of those little kid's diaries, with lined, pink pages, and about the size of a regular chapter book. It was brand new, and I knew this for a fact, because it had a price tag on it.
That's just one example. Another;
My dad and I absolutely LOVE the Beatles. My dad has almost all of their cd's and some records and I've got most downloaded on my ipod. I've loved them for a while, and all my friends knew it, but until Sierra came along, no one really cared. She came along and decided she suddenly "loved the beatles" also. She only knows one song by them, but she acts like she knows all about them.
There are many other circumstances too. It has gotten to the point where she has even begun to dress like me! She wears the same shirt I do every day in gym. Don't get me wrong, it's flattering, but it's gotten to the point where it's a little infuriting. However, we happen to be best friends. I don't know how that worked out though, but we are best friends, since I DO like her as a person. It's just annoying as hell for someone to copy every move you make or thing you say. How do I let her know how much it annoys me, without actually saying it to her face? She's a tad Bipolar and gets set off very easily. I just don't want to ruin our friendship. Thanks.
Well, you're right. She's copying you because she admires you and wants to be like you. She may also think that it will strengthen your friendship; the more you have in common, the closer you'll be. So she does all she can to show you how much "alike" you are.
But yeah, it's definitely annoying when someone copies you! I've had it happen to me, and I always wondered why it bothered me so much. We should be flattered, right? So why is it so irritating? I think the reason is...
We all have certain traits that make us unique, make us who we are. Like your drawing, and love of the Beatles. When someone else copies that, it's not unique to us anymore; it's like they've stolen some of our individuality. Suddenly your sketchbook doesn't make you special anymore, because your friend does it, too.
But the truth is, you're a lot more than just your style and talents and interests. It's the combination of all those things that makes you unique. And no matter how hard she tries, she will never be able to duplicate ALL those things. Even if she succeeds in imitating some things, there's no way she can ever BE you. And everyone else knows that. It's obvious to everyone that YOU'RE the artist, and that she's copying YOU.
What your friend probably needs is a little confidence boost, so she can feel good about her own unique qualities. It might help for you to pick a few of her good traits and really make a big deal about them. Let her know that you really like some of the things that make her DIFFERENT from you. Then she might not need to copy you so much.
Hope this helps, and good luck! =]
Me and a friend that I had been best friends with since third grade were in a huge fight for a year, & just yesterday we apologized to each other. We're friends again, but something doesn't feel right. I still feel guilty/nervous about something, but I can't figure out what it is. It's like I want to be her friend, but I'm scared to? I don't know. How can I stop feeling like this?
I think it's really natural that you feel that way. You were in a fight for a year... that's a long time! And even though you're both wanting to be friends again, things probably feel a little different. And they are! For one thing, you've both probably changed some during the last year. You've been hanging out with different people and experiencing different things without each other. In a way, it's kinda like you're both different people now. For a while, it will almost be like you're getting to know each other from scratch again.
But that's okay. If you're both willing to put the fight behind you and move on, then there's no reason you can't be great friends, even best friends, once again. Just don't expect your friendship to be exactly the same as it was before. It will be a little different... but that's not a bad thing. It might be even better than it was before! Just give it some time. =]
ok so my one friend is the kind of person who is always happy,totally random, is ALWAYS smiling, can make ANYONE laugh...just happy in general. well one day someone told me that they saw her walking down the hall ccrying. i was shocked cause i didnt think that i would ever see her cry. so when i saw her 2 periods later i asked if she was ok. she said she was and not to worry.well i couldnt help but worry cause she is the happiest person i know. so after that class was over...i went to wildcat.i was sitting therre trying to convince myself that everything was ok. i couldnt. i just got htis feeling that something was seriously wrong. then one of my other friends walked in and said that she was in the bathroom crying. im worried that first of all something is horribly wrong. and second of all that our friendship isnt as good as i thought it was. i am really worried about her. i dont want to ask her about it cause she obviously doesnt want me to know.
WHAT CAN I DO FOR HER/OUR FRIENDSHIP?
You're really sweet for being concerned about your friend. But try not to let it bother you so much. Just because she hasn't told you what was wrong, doesn't mean she doesn't feel close to you or doesn't trust you. Some people just don't like to talk about their problems.
And honestly, it's not always necessary to talk about our problems. It might sound strange to say that, because we're always told, "Don't keep things inside; talk about it!" That can be true sometimes, but not every time. Sometimes making a big deal about something can actually make it worse. Sometimes you can just have a good cry, work things over in your mind, and move on, without worrying your friends or blowing things out of proportion.
Sure, your friend could have a serious, ongoing problem; and if she does, I'm sure she'll let you know if she feels the need to talk about it. But it could've been something minor that she's already handled and forgotten about. Which reminds me of something that happened to me, which I'll tell you about because it's so silly!
I NEVER cried at school, except this once. At lunch one day, my friend Katie told me she was sorry that she couldn't invite me to her birthday party, 'cause she could only invite 5 people. She and I weren't really close, so it didn't hurt my feelings.. I actually thought how sweet it was for her to explain that. Well, then I overheard someone at another table say something mean about my boyfriend... and for some reason it really got to me and I kinda teared up. And then I noticed that Katie was looking at me, and I thought "Oh no! She thinks I'm crying because of her b-day party! And she probably feels really bad 'cause she thinks she hurt my feelings!" And THAT made me REALLY sad, that I was making her feel bad, so I started bawling like an idiot! And everyone was like "Omg what's wrong?" but I felt so stupid I couldn't tell anyone! And I never did. Pshh... it was so silly!
But anyway... you just never know why someome might be crying. But if it's really important, I'm sure your friend will let you know.
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[kind of long. but i really need help]
there's this girl that i'm friends with. we used to be best friends, but lately our relationship has been kind of strained. she's just been so out of control the past 2 weeks that i have no idea how to handle it. we were basically the same two weeks ago.
we're both 15 going on 16, and we had never been drunk, or done anything illegal, or had boyfriends, or h/u'd with anyone. well it started when she went to this persons sweet 16 and got drunk at an afterparty. at first i was like whatever. everyone gets drunk as a teen, no big deal. then last friday she told me she smoked cigarettes, something we swore to eachother we would never EVER do. i was in a different state this week visiting relatives and while i was gone she threw a wild house party and did weed and got completely drunk and h/u'd with 4 guys and got fingered. and she may have had sex but she doesn't even remember. I feel like she's changing too fast and there's nothing i can do about it. and even though i wasn't even in the same state as her when this party happened, i somehow feel responsible. like i let her down in a way. like i was the reason she started hanging out with these kind of people because i had been a bit too clingy and pushed her away and made her want to rebel against everyone. she doesn't understand that she can get in serious trouble for what she did, if anyone ever finds out. and the worst part is, i don't think she even feels bad about it. she'd wanted to get drunk and high and make out with guys so bad. she told me this. and it seems like she's kind of happy about it and i just don't know what to do to make her understand how worried i am about her and how dangerous this kind of behavior really is without sounding too motherly and like a loser.
any advice is appreciated.
Well, you're probably right. In some ways, your friend probably IS happy about what she's doing. For one thing, doing something wrong and getting away with it is kind of exciting. She may really be enjoying the thrill of "living dangerously." Also, the approval and acceptance of the people she's partying with might be filling some need for her. If she has any self-esteem issues, it would be very important for her to be liked and accepted by these people (who probably ARE really fun and nice people, even though they do bad things). Same thing with the hook-ups... it's not only exciting, but it makes her feel attractive and desirable... "Wow, all these guys think I'm hot enough to hook up with!"
So the partying and hooking up is offering a lot of things to make her feel good. And it will be pretty dang hard to convince her to give that all up.
But deep down, I'll bet she also feels pretty bad about it. Certainly she knows it's bad for her; that it could get her in trouble; that she could get a bad reputation. And whether she knows it yet or not, she'll eventually figure out that these guys who are hooking up with her are just using her.
So what can you do? Just keep being her friend. Let her know that you worry about what she's doing... that she might get in trouble, or get hurt, or get a bad reputation. Let her know that she doesn't need those things in order to have fun, have friends, or get a boyfriend.
And just expect that she won't want to hear it. She may tell herself (and you) that you're just jealous of her new friendships and lifestyle. But deep down she will know you're right. And if you continue to be there for her, no matter what she's done, hopefully your support will be enough to help her give that stuff up.
Good luck!
ok my birthday is in 2 days and i am really excited about it. So tonight my 2 friends and i are hanging out. they said it will be a little party.just a little get together. but i was telling my one friend H that i was going to wear a pin that said birthday girl on it just to be cute. and she said that would be bragging. i said no it won't because everyone has a birthday and i am happy about mine. and my other friend S had a crown on when it was her birthday and it was 1 day before. and H didn't get mad at that.now she is mad at me and i don't want to go now. Do you really think i was bragging? and how can i tell her that it is not bragging? i need help and fast!
Well, I think your friend used the wrong word for what she was trying to say. Wearing the pin isn't "bragging"... but it might seem (to her) that you're wearing it to get attention. And of course, wearing the pin WILL get you attention... but there's nothing wrong with that. It's your birthday!! Everyone deserves to feel special on their birthday!
It sounds to me like your friend is a little jealous of you. Maybe she feels like you always get more attention than she does. Don't let her get to you. That's her problem, and she'll need to get over it. If you want to wear the pin, go ahead! Have fun! And Happy Birthday!
what does "hold you down" mean?
Well, it sometimes means "don't let them keep you from doing what you want, or what you're capable of doing." For instance, if some of your friends have no interest in going to college, but you've always planned on it, someone could say that your friends might "hold you down"... that is, influence you not to go to college.
OK this may not make sense to all of you, and if so, I'm sorry :P
Well the thing is..I feel more comfortable hanging around with guys than girls. I have an equal amount of guy and girl friends and I'm NOT a tomboy.
An ordinary girl.
But I donno, it's like with guys I'm more relaxed and more outgoing.
But then again, at the same time I have quite low self esteem.
Is there anything wrong with me? The way I feel more relaxed around guys, why is that?
Also what could I do to improve my self esteem?
I think this makes perfect sense. If you have a low self esteem, then I can defintely see how you would feel more comfortable around guys than girls.
When you're around other girls, you may be subconciously comparing yourself to them, and feeling that you don't measure up. You might feel that you're not as pretty or fun or attractive as them. You may even worry that they're thinking that about you, too. If you're constantly worried about measuring up to someone, or competing with them, of course it's difficult to relax and be yourself around them.
With your guy friends, on the other hand, there's no need for comparisons; they're guys, you're a girl. That makes you special when you're around them, no matter what. There's no competition between you. And if your guy friends ever flirt with you, even just a little, that boosts your self esteem. So you feel more confident and relaxed around them.
So how can you improve your self esteem, so you can feel just as relaxed and confident around your girl friends as you do with the guys? Well, here are a couple things to think about:
1) Keep in mind that nobody is perfect. Everyone (even the seemingly "perfect" people) have things they wish they could change about themselves. And there are some things you CAN change about yourself. If you want to change them, then go ahead and work on it. Some things, however, can't be changed. But if you constantly dwell on things you can't change, that will only make you bitter and unhappy. And that will make you far less attractive than any of your actual "flaws" will. So put those things out of your mind, and focus on your good qualities. If you concentrate on the things you like about yourself, others will see them as well. It's like if someone sees you looking out the window, they'll look out too to see what you're looking at. It works the same way when you're looking at yourself; if your focus is on your positive traits, that's what others will look at, too.
2) Whatever it is you don't like about yourself, you can be certain that it bothers YOU a whole lot more than it bothers anyone else. In fact, most people probably don't even notice it. Just think about it... do you focus on all your friends' flaws? The zit on their chin, the couple extra pounds they're carrying, the fact that they stink at math? Probably not. You like and admire them for their personality, the fun you have together, your conversations and inside jokes, etc. I once knew a girl who had a huge birthmark over half her face; yeah, it was noticable, but once you got to know her, you didn't even see it, you just saw "her." She was one of the most popular girls at school.
I hope this helps some. But don't worry... there's nothing wrong with you. :)
ok so my best friends going out with my best guy freind
and she wants to break up with him bc she wants to fool around with other guys
and my guyfriend keeps asking me if his gf is mad at him and i told my best friend i wouldnt tell her bf but i cant lie to him ahh
should i tell him or tell her that she needs to break up with him now!??or both plz help bc i cant lie to my best friend!
I've been in your same situation. What I ended up doing was telling my guy friend, "Look, both of you are my really good friends, so I don't want to get in the middle with you two. I'm really sorry, but I think it's best if you work things out between the two of you."
As for your friend... I think it'd be okay to tell her your opinion (that she ought to break up with him if she doesn't like him anymore)... but just say it once, and then let her do what she's gonna do.
ohkayy, well i go to this school. but before it, i went to this other school where i had the best friends ever. but at my new school im not really sure if i have REAL friends. cause you see,.. lets use "lisa,jenny,mercede,mconey" as names for an example.. so lets say, lisa and jenny are best friends, but jennys friends with mercede so mercede hangs out with lisa. and mercedes friends with mconey so mconey hangs out with lisa and jenny.. but there not exactly REAL friends cause they know each other threw each other ! :) lol. well thats the kind of situation i have. and im sorry if this is confusing.. if it is tell me and i'll see if i can fix that. well .. anyways, i have a group of friends that know each other threw each other and i kinda hate some one the people. and dont know what to do cause if i say something .. i'll cause drama which i really hate.. so what do you think i should do ? please give me your opinions. i'd appreaciate it.
thanks in advance ♥
Well, your situation actually seems pretty normal to me. I mean, that's usually how you make new friends... you meet them through other people. And just because one of your friends knew someone else first doesn't mean you can't become friends with that person, too.
Of course, you'll always meet people you don't really care for. But you're right... saying that you don't like them isn't going to accomplish anything besides making you look bad. So just keep your opinions to yourself. If you have to be around them because your other friends like them, just be nice and polite.
At school there is this boy I have never alked to, but like a lot. My friend told me that she saw him put a note in my locker on monday. We didn't have school on tue. or wed. Well I looked inmy locker and found a note saying "hey I think your really cute too, And i know it was you who called me. From, I think you know who." I feel sooo stupid for believing it. I was soo happy. My face got red and my stomach got that queasy feeling. Then like 2hrs. later my 4th locker neighbor down asked me If I got that note in my locker. I was like yeah, did you see who put it in, and she's like (friends name) did. I was so hurt. That note filled me with false hope. She asked me if I was mad at her and I said yes. Get this, s got mad at me 4 being mad at her. She's like y are you getting so mad it's stupid cuz I thought it would get you to talk to him. And I was like NO IT WOULD HAVE MADE ME LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT! And she was like "Whatever". When I got home all I didi was cry and I am crying right now. I feel like such an idiot for even believing it. What should I do, sorry it's so long.
Well, it doesn't sound like your friend was intentionally trying to hurt you... it sounds like she honestly thought it would be helping you. So I think you should forgive her. Yeah, what she did was stupid, but everyone makes mistakes, and she is your friend.
But you should also tell her to please never do anything like that again. And tell her why... tell her how much it hurt when you found out the note wasn't really from him. And tell her how bad it would've been if you'd started talking to him and then found out he didn't like you. She probably didn't think those things through, so she needs to know why what she did wasn't such a great idea. But once you've told her, then just let it go. Forgive and move on.