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Me and a friend that I had been best friends with since third grade were in a huge fight for a year, & just yesterday we apologized to each other. We're friends again, but something doesn't feel right. I still feel guilty/nervous about something, but I can't figure out what it is. It's like I want to be her friend, but I'm scared to? I don't know. How can I stop feeling like this?
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dont worrie i juz got in a fight with my bff and i felt tat same way and i could totally tell she felt the same like i would say my usual jokes the once she would lught ar and she would only smile i in the other hand felt ackward talking to her its juz tat i realized tat i was afraid she was gonna hurt me agian she felt guilty about it well its juz a stage give it sumtime
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Hi,
The way your feeling is normal and only to be expected, and your friend will be feeling the same way. You can't spend a year at loggerheads with a former friend then go back to the way things where. The apologies where only the first step, you need to give it time and put in work to get back the relationship you once had.
Chandler xx
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I think it's really natural that you feel that way. You were in a fight for a year... that's a long time! And even though you're both wanting to be friends again, things probably feel a little different. And they are! For one thing, you've both probably changed some during the last year. You've been hanging out with different people and experiencing different things without each other. In a way, it's kinda like you're both different people now. For a while, it will almost be like you're getting to know each other from scratch again.
But that's okay. If you're both willing to put the fight behind you and move on, then there's no reason you can't be great friends, even best friends, once again. Just don't expect your friendship to be exactly the same as it was before. It will be a little different... but that's not a bad thing. It might be even better than it was before! Just give it some time. =]
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It's probably still somewhat awkward for both of you since you were in a fight for a year. You probably still feel like this because somewhere inside of you there are still hurt feelings from whatever happened, and she is probably feeling the same way. My best advice to you would be to simply talk to her about it. My best bet is that if you are feeling this way that she is too, and there are probably some unresolved issues still. If you talk to her i think things will feel better, and you won't be scared to be her friend.
I hope this helps. : )
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