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I'm 16 yrs old and my mom is constantly angry at me. This has been like this since my brother(12) came back home from living on the other side of the country, where he lived with my dad for a while. She ignores me in favor of listen to whatever my brother's saying instead of me. My bro will snap at me and talk to me like I'm a piece dirt and when I snap back(out of anger) she tells me off like I'm the one in the wrong. My bro talks to my mum like she is a piece of dirt, he is always cussing and he always demands money and things to be bought for him but we're quite a poor family(I'm on my friend's computer currently). She throws stuff i've done for her back in my face for example she will constantly go on about how she needs something done but she never does it so i take time to do it for her thinking i'm helping and she acts thankful at the time but last night (in a fit of anger) she saw fit to tell me that I shouldn't have done it because she didn't want MY help. that hurt a lot... I may be talking to her and she stops listening half way through (there is always something more interesting than what I've got to say). Everytime I try to talk to her about my feelings on how she treats me she always gets anger, like I'm not entitled to my feelings and thoughts. For example, the other night I needed someone to talk to concerning some friends but she wasn't listening so I went through to my room and sat on my bed, staring into space, trying to get a handle on my emotions(trying to stop myself from crying)and she come through about an hour later and asked what I was doing just sitting there and I said to her that I was trying to talk to her earlier but she wouldn't listen. She told me to 'shut the fuck up' and slammed my bedroom door closed. I started to cry, uncontrollably and my mum came through about an hour later saying that she couldn't hear the movie she was watching over my crying and she asked why I was crying, so I responded 'there is no point in telling you since it'll make you angry' and with that she stormed out, she didn't care. I had my 'special daughter' necklace that she had give to me, it was around my wrist...I started to twist until it sliced through my wrist...I don't normally do this, I didn't even realize i was doing this in till I was bleeding... plz help.... xx (link)
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I know about cutting, its scary and its no answer or solution to anything, trust me. Your just staarting, go back don't go down this path, you'll regret it. Your mom seems to be having some personal problems. Maybe she feels bad for not being their for your brother and wants to replace lost time with him. She may feel if she corrects him hell get mad and leave again and shed fail as a mother again. Maybe she has stress aand stuff and arguing with her would just tick her of more. Don't be afraid to tell her you love her or give her a hug, that may help her feel better. Half the time we got no ideaaa what the stress of being a parent can be.
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It's been 7 months since my ex broke up with me...I loved him with all of my heart. No matter how much avoidance I do, no matter how much I try not to think of him...I am still so very much in love with him. When he broke up with me, he told me it that it wasn't my fault, but that it was because he was having a hard time being in a relationship and wanted to concentrate on raising his daughter...I found out a few weeks ago that he is dating another girl now...I am angry with him, but I haven't confronted him about it...we work in the same building, so I just started ignoring him all together...I couldn't even look at him, I was just so disgusted. Finally, I cracked, still unable to fully let him go, and spoke with him briefly, being friendly and even joking around a little...and now, he's ignoring ME. Now I'm even more pissed off and angry...and what's more, I find myself so jealous of his new gf that it makes me sick to my stomach. I just don't know what to do...I know I need to move on. I haven't been stalking him or anything like that, but I still can't stop thinking of him. I still feel like we were destined, and that he is the perfect guy for me...I just don't understand why I couldn't have him. I want to ask what I can do to get him off my mind, but it's not as simple as avoiding him or doing things to distract me from thinking of him...that's how deep my pain runs...I can't afford counseling or anything like that either...I just don't know what to do... (link)
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I know the feeling and it isn't one I would want anyone to go through so I am sorry you are this situation. Try doing activites or hobbies you have. Keep yourself busy with things that make you happy. For me, I always loved reading, I joined a reading club, so id be with other people as well. I opened aa fanfiction accound and started writing on my free time and got a boost up with the positive reviews I got. Also, remember that you are a valuable person. You deserve someone who can treat you well aand love you dearly. It won't happend over night but with time, you'll see progress. Good luck.
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Me and a friend that I had been best friends with since third grade were in a huge fight for a year, & just yesterday we apologized to each other. We're friends again, but something doesn't feel right. I still feel guilty/nervous about something, but I can't figure out what it is. It's like I want to be her friend, but I'm scared to? I don't know. How can I stop feeling like this? (link)
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dont worrie i juz got in a fight with my bff and i felt tat same way and i could totally tell she felt the same like i would say my usual jokes the once she would lught ar and she would only smile i in the other hand felt ackward talking to her its juz tat i realized tat i was afraid she was gonna hurt me agian she felt guilty about it well its juz a stage give it sumtime
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I have a boyfriend. Me and him have this notebook that we pass back and forth and when anyone askes to see it we always so no. Well, my friends went off on me saying that i was a fake friend, and then she claims that she tells me everything when she tells me nothing at all, well, then she gets all of my other friends mad at me and keeps pretnding like she's innocent, but she's far from it. I have a really REALLY big secret that i could tell everyonethat could really hurt her. I don't Know if I am better off without her as a friend, or not, or if i should tell her big secret. Please Help Me! (link)
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u cant sink 2 her level u telling her secret will only cause more drama make her feel guilty by juz not saying nothing let it go if she brought plle against u den she aint worth your time
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my best friend's grandmother is dying...what do i do...i dont want to see her sad :( (link)
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Let her now that you are still alive and love her.Write her a poem that comes right from your heart and give it to her.F.Y.I you are a great friend
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Yeah. I kind of need help!! Me and my best friend r having a huge fight right now and I don't know what to do. We both said things we didnt mean. What should I do? Im so confused? ;0; Please help me. I already apologized but she wont take my apology!! (link)
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Get 6 flash cards and in the front of one card write the letter s on the next o and continue until you wrote the word sorry!In the back write diffrent perrsonal message or poem on each card.then leave one card on her desk in the beginning of each period.At the end of school wait for her to come out and ask her if she forgives you
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My friend is really nice but sometimes.. what she does .. it makes me mad.
We would make plans and then she would say she could pick me up. So i get ready and I'm all happy, I wait for a couple of hours and she never comes. Then I talk to her sister to see what's up and she's unaware of these plans.
She keeps doing this to me. Making plans and never following through.
What do I do? (link)
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fist you have to see if she is like this to just you or if she does it to everyone.If its just you she might not be to serious about your guys friendship.Tell her how you fell and tell her to be honest wit u
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15f. I met a guy at a party who I liked at the time and wanted to hook up with, and I didn't tell him, but he told me he doesn't hook up with girls because he doesn't want his parents to find out. Now he calls me every so often and we have long conversations, and he tells me that asking this one girl out was the biggest mistake of his life. He and I flirted a lot at the party, which was about two and a half months ago, and grinded. Do you think he might like me? What should I do about it? I kind of still like him. He's not hot but he's very cuddly. (link)
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you never lose by loving you lose by holding back.GO FOR IT AND ASK HIM OUT.hE MIGHT b 2 shy.dont live wit the douth
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Ok, i REALLY REALLY like this guy, like i LOVE him, and he knows it but he just wants to b freinds, and he said he mite go out one day. Hez not that smart,(dislexic)i am all as. and also he likes to hunt, and i aboslutely love animals. We r 2 totally different poeple but, i still love him. No,matter how hard i try i can't forget about him, What do i do. (link)
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opposits attract.If u really love him u would let him go.Better to have loved and lost then never to have loved at all.All you can do now is thank him for his honesty and keep the memmories in you heart.
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15f how do i forget about this guy i see every day at school plz help me this guy sometimes talks to me at school or by phone but i know he likes this girl named STACY so i think. plz give me a advice to forget about him i have not talk to him seens yesterday and i really miss him. i want to know if i really like him or if its just a fake crush but i do i figure it out. (link)
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you never lose by loving you lose by holding back.Ask him to be honest with you and tell you if u 2 can be more then friends.If he says no then you should forget about him.Hang out wit your friends and get busy.See him less And talk to other guys.
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I'm a teenage girl (raised catholic) who has been atheist/agnostic/unsure since the summer. I have encountered several recent events in my life that have lead me to believe that there really is a God after all. All of my friends are really strong christians- but I just don't think that God is real.
I don't know if Christianity is right- or even real... but I'm feeling compelled to recommit my life to Christ. What does that mean anyway? How can you "commit your life" to someone who isn't even real? Who IS Jesus? I mean this whole thing makes no sense. How can there be a God when there are so many other religions like islam and such? My prayers never came true as a Christian.
Oh, by the way- I hate going to church and i don't see the point in doing it. It never even brought me closer to this so-called God. To be a true Christian (not a poser) do you HAVE to attend mass? What if I just want to have my OWN faith? I also don't believe in Bible verses and stuff- like I don't think that the people in it were real. Why can't we just have faith in GOD and not all the crap that goes along with it? (link)
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the reason there are many religions is cuz the devil dosent want people to be close and about the lord.Sometimes god dosent answer our prayers right away cuz he wants to test us.He wants to make sure we actually love him.He dosent want people who just use him.
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my freshman year i got accepted to one of the top performing art schools in the nation for vocal performance!! i was so excited!! ever since i heard about it ive wanted to go....My dream ever since i could remember was to be a singer...when i attended school for the first few weeks i noticed that there was a music male teacher that i would always catch looking at me....about 2 months into school, he told me to stay after class because he wanted to enter a song id written in a major record label contest. I walked into his room and he told me to sit on the piano bench and he'd be right back. So i did as he said and got my music out and waited. When he came back he shut the door and locked it he said that he locked it "because he didn't want to be bothered with the janitors" so i didn't think anything of it, kinda thought it was wierd (music rooms are soundproof) but anyway, he sat down next to me and placed his hand on my upper thigh and said im so proud of the progress your making in my class, you're deffinately going to acheive your dream and go somewhere with your talent" he put his arm around my shoulder and acted like he was grabbing my music, and he pushed it off the side on "accident" so i bent down to grab it, and as i bent down he grabbed my butt. and i told him to stop. but then he sternly said, "if you want to pass the class and win the comptetion you'll let me do what i want. Trust me, you want me on your side. I can give you everything you want." I sat back down, giving him another chance, hoping he would stop, but it just got worse as time went on. Long story short, he ended up raping me.
When i threatned him that i would tell, he just said "do you really want to leave this school?? you're parents would take you out of here and you wouldn't get ot pursue your dream anymore." and after i thought about it i realized that i wanted to be a singer more than anything else, and this school would help me out so much. So i continued to put up with it...
This situation has been continuing on and off for about 2 1/2 years now. I haven't told anyone, becuase i don't want to run the risk of anyone finding out becuase then i wouldnt be able to go to this school anymore. I just really feel like i need to talk to someone, but i don't know who to talk to. I don't feel comfortable telling my boyfriend, bestfriend, or anyone whats going on.
What should i do? I want to continue achieving my goals, and the school helps out with this alot, but at the same time i want the abuse to stop. I'm sorry this is so long, thanks so much for taking your time to help.
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its good that you you want to be a singer but there are more important things in life.If u tell on him he wont harm you or other people.You have the power to stop this man from abusing you.If you have the courage to keep this up then you must have the courage to tell on him.There are many other schools you can go to.it dosent matter wat school you go to.what matters is the talent and the guts.
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I seem to 'be everything' but 'have nothing/no one.' I have a good personality, good looks and exceptional intelligence. I try to be nice to everyone and understand who they are, but no one does the same to me. In the halls at school people make comments on how good I look, how nice I am and such. But really, I only have one best friend. And no other friends.
I know everyone in my grade. Everyone. I've tried being in every different clique that there is but it never lasts. Tonight, I have no new years plans.
I haven't had a boyfriend for two years now either. Whenever I get close with guys they start to be complete jerks and use me. I am a virgin and have only kissed one guy in my entire life. I didn't even like him and he was 19. He just used me.
I feel like I have exhausted my options. What can I do? I need to be a little more than nice, because I have tried so hard. And I've tried not trying at all. I have made countless plans but I am still missing what I want most. Friendship.
When I invite people to my house they always say they are busy and will 'call me some other time' but never do.
I realize this was a terribly long question, so any comments, insight or answers on any portion of my question will help tremendously.
Thanks so much!
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I know exacly how you feel.THERE is an empty space in your heart but you just dont know how to fill it up.Dont do things cuz u want 2 please other people.
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My very best friend has been acting sorta mean like different since we first met. She acts like since she is older than me by a few months she can boss me around! I mean she still is nice to me but at times she can really get to my nerves. We never really fought but do get mad at each other. When she around other people she treats me like I'm not there and I'm invisable. I don't know if she means to do this but it bothers me. And when I want to sit by one of my friends she no I want to sit by her! And she always gets her way! She is real spoiled too but thats not really the problem. What should I do? (link)
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well tell her how you fell.Maybe if she knows how you actually feel shell stop doing whats shes doing.
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