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I can't get over him...
It's been 7 months since my ex broke up with me...I loved him with all of my heart. No matter how much avoidance I do, no matter how much I try not to think of him...I am still so very much in love with him. When he broke up with me, he told me it that it wasn't my fault, but that it was because he was having a hard time being in a relationship and wanted to concentrate on raising his daughter...I found out a few weeks ago that he is dating another girl now...I am angry with him, but I haven't confronted him about it...we work in the same building, so I just started ignoring him all together...I couldn't even look at him, I was just so disgusted. Finally, I cracked, still unable to fully let him go, and spoke with him briefly, being friendly and even joking around a little...and now, he's ignoring ME. Now I'm even more pissed off and angry...and what's more, I find myself so jealous of his new gf that it makes me sick to my stomach. I just don't know what to do...I know I need to move on. I haven't been stalking him or anything like that, but I still can't stop thinking of him. I still feel like we were destined, and that he is the perfect guy for me...I just don't understand why I couldn't have him. I want to ask what I can do to get him off my mind, but it's not as simple as avoiding him or doing things to distract me from thinking of him...that's how deep my pain runs...I can't afford counseling or anything like that either...I just don't know what to do...
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Im in a very similar situation to you.
Break ups are never easy and it does take time. I know you feel like you are destined to be together but in order for that to be true..he needs to feel the same way. You need to focus on the good things in life and try to keep yourself happy. Dont pay attention to his actions and who hes dating.
Something that always helps me is thinking that if it is meant to be then it will. He will come back and sweep you off your feet like a man who does truley care. But if you waste your time waiting for him and he never comes than you will just get more and more lonely.
Let him go. Believe me, I know how hard it is and I know how connected you feel to him. You deserve someone to try hard in a relationship and really appreciate everything you have to offer. Im sure once you move on, guys will start popping up in your life and if you let one in...maybe he will prove to be a lot better than your ex. And who knows maybe your ex will come back and you guys can make it work. But please dont wait.
I really hope things work out for you and if you ever need someone to talk to about this feel free to ask me anything.
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I know the feeling and it isn't one I would want anyone to go through so I am sorry you are this situation. Try doing activites or hobbies you have. Keep yourself busy with things that make you happy. For me, I always loved reading, I joined a reading club, so id be with other people as well. I opened aa fanfiction accound and started writing on my free time and got a boost up with the positive reviews I got. Also, remember that you are a valuable person. You deserve someone who can treat you well aand love you dearly. It won't happend over night but with time, you'll see progress. Good luck.
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