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Everything and nothing at the same time?
15/f
I seem to 'be everything' but 'have nothing/no one.' I have a good personality, good looks and exceptional intelligence. I try to be nice to everyone and understand who they are, but no one does the same to me. In the halls at school people make comments on how good I look, how nice I am and such. But really, I only have one best friend. And no other friends.
I know everyone in my grade. Everyone. I've tried being in every different clique that there is but it never lasts. Tonight, I have no new years plans.
I haven't had a boyfriend for two years now either. Whenever I get close with guys they start to be complete jerks and use me. I am a virgin and have only kissed one guy in my entire life. I didn't even like him and he was 19. He just used me.
I feel like I have exhausted my options. What can I do? I need to be a little more than nice, because I have tried so hard. And I've tried not trying at all. I have made countless plans but I am still missing what I want most. Friendship.
When I invite people to my house they always say they are busy and will 'call me some other time' but never do.
I realize this was a terribly long question, so any comments, insight or answers on any portion of my question will help tremendously.
Thanks so much!
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I know exacly how you feel.THERE is an empty space in your heart but you just dont know how to fill it up.Dont do things cuz u want 2 please other people.
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ok well it sounds just like me, a couple of years ago....its as if you are always trying your hardest to be nice,please people,help, w/e you can do to others right?! they take advantage of people like yourself, you always call them they never seem to call you, it neer seems like you can keep/have/get a best friend(s) or just find more friends or people to hang out with..now i dont completely know you but mayb others see you as too good, possibly a saint? im not sure but whatever it is you are others may be jealous thats why all that happens to you.... you have options:
1. leave it be [you are you and if ppl have a problem with that too bad]
2. instead of sticking with a clique and being apart of them until they get old then going to a new one, dont be in a clique at all...befriend everyone -different cliques- you may have your own group of close people but you dont need to be so close like a clique BE OPEN
3. get in a sport or something you enjoy maybe you'll find some nice guys who have similar interests and wont take advantage of you or some really nice girls who may become you bff's
p.s. having only kissed one guy is awesome i applaud you that is really great
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You sound like me two years ago. I'm 17 now. I've never had a boyfriend, but I've always had great friends. Though I've not really had a lot of company over, I go to other people's houses' a lot. As for the New Years plans, most plans are to go out and get drunk..by the way..really isn't too much fun because you wake up the next day with a god awful hangover.
You're 15 right now, and I'm guessing you're either a freshman or a sophomore, and I would say that you would need to focus more on school more than anything beccause believe it or not, school is way more important than worrying about having "popular" people coming over to your house or getting wasted. By your junior year, you will hardly have time to go out all the time because you'll be swamped with school work depending on what kind of classes you are taking.
But if you're a freshman or a sophomore, the kids in your class will mature more and will realize that they can't take people for granted. They'll turn around and everyone will get a chance. You just have to give them some time...if you really think they are worth it. If you really want more friends, perhaps you should join some student organizations, it will help you interact with other students and make more friends.
But really, all you really need is one best friend, as long as you have one best friend, you're set to go. So don't worry about how many friends you have. I garentee you that these "popular" kids who have all these "friends", half of them don't even like eachother..believe me.
Just keep your head up.
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Well maybe your coming on too strong. That's the only thing I can think of. People are sometimes blind to what's in front of them. Its ok that you've only kissed one guy. I realized that he used you and I'm sorry it happened but you can't dwell on the past sweetie. You're only 15 and the time will come. I only have one best firned too. At least you have a friend you can talk to. Try inviting her over more often and getting to know her better. All you can be is yourself. If people don't like that, let it be their problem. They are missing out on hanging out with you.
Hope I helped!
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