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My mom doesn't love me?
I'm 16 yrs old and my mom is constantly angry at me. This has been like this since my brother(12) came back home from living on the other side of the country, where he lived with my dad for a while. She ignores me in favor of listen to whatever my brother's saying instead of me. My bro will snap at me and talk to me like I'm a piece dirt and when I snap back(out of anger) she tells me off like I'm the one in the wrong. My bro talks to my mum like she is a piece of dirt, he is always cussing and he always demands money and things to be bought for him but we're quite a poor family(I'm on my friend's computer currently). She throws stuff i've done for her back in my face for example she will constantly go on about how she needs something done but she never does it so i take time to do it for her thinking i'm helping and she acts thankful at the time but last night (in a fit of anger) she saw fit to tell me that I shouldn't have done it because she didn't want MY help. that hurt a lot... I may be talking to her and she stops listening half way through (there is always something more interesting than what I've got to say). Everytime I try to talk to her about my feelings on how she treats me she always gets anger, like I'm not entitled to my feelings and thoughts. For example, the other night I needed someone to talk to concerning some friends but she wasn't listening so I went through to my room and sat on my bed, staring into space, trying to get a handle on my emotions(trying to stop myself from crying)and she come through about an hour later and asked what I was doing just sitting there and I said to her that I was trying to talk to her earlier but she wouldn't listen. She told me to 'shut the fuck up' and slammed my bedroom door closed. I started to cry, uncontrollably and my mum came through about an hour later saying that she couldn't hear the movie she was watching over my crying and she asked why I was crying, so I responded 'there is no point in telling you since it'll make you angry' and with that she stormed out, she didn't care. I had my 'special daughter' necklace that she had give to me, it was around my wrist...I started to twist until it sliced through my wrist...I don't normally do this, I didn't even realize i was doing this in till I was bleeding... plz help.... xx
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I know about cutting, its scary and its no answer or solution to anything, trust me. Your just staarting, go back don't go down this path, you'll regret it. Your mom seems to be having some personal problems. Maybe she feels bad for not being their for your brother and wants to replace lost time with him. She may feel if she corrects him hell get mad and leave again and shed fail as a mother again. Maybe she has stress aand stuff and arguing with her would just tick her of more. Don't be afraid to tell her you love her or give her a hug, that may help her feel better. Half the time we got no ideaaa what the stress of being a parent can be.
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i'd say its time to go live with your dad. the truth is, your mom doesn't hate you. she's stressing and sad and angry at herself and you might remind her of herself, which would result in her lashing out at you. on top of this, opposite sex parents usually favor the opposite sex child (your mom listening to your brother and not you). around the time that daughter's become a teenager, parents get a taste of what the child is going to become later in life. either they like it or they don't. when i was your age, i got into a lot of trouble with the law and it changed my relationship with my mom forever. she acts like a mother towards me but neither of us like eachother at all, and we both know it. its because she didn't act like that when she was my age and she's scared and nervous, since she doesn't know how to deal with a delinquent as a daughter.
your mom sounds like a class-a cunt right now, and even if theres plenty of psychological problems that could be causing her behavior, its NO EXCUSE. first thing i'd do if i were you is call the police and tell them that your mother is being neglegent to your feelings and emotionally abusive. next, consider your other living options. maybe you could be emancipated, maybe you could live with your friend for a little bit, or just go live with your dad.
whatever you decide to do, i hope you find happiness. oh, and don't try and talk things out with your mom. you've already proven it does no good in helping whatsoever.
good luck, and i'm here if you need anything else.
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