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becoming more outgoing/gaining friendships
19/f.
I am seeking advice on making some new friends and in mending previous friendships. In the past, I've been really shy and uptight when I meet people, and I feel as though I may come across to new people as being unfriendly...and my old friends don't really ask me to hang out anymore. I miss them and I feel uncomfortable asking them to get together because I am scared of rejection and awkwardness. I do really care about my friends and miss their presence in my life, but I don't know how to show it.
I want to change this perspective that I think people have of me, and I want to make new friends and become close with my old friends again.
It's my second year of college and I commute to classes daily by my car and live at home with my family still. I think I lost a lot of friends when I started becoming serious with my boyfriend last year.
What can I do to reach out to people and be more friendly/confident? I want to show people that I'm not as uptight as I was before.
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all it takes is a change in scenery. when i was in elementary school, i was in the top 2 MOST hated kids in 5th grade.but when i went to the middle school, there were people who said they tought i was cool. there are people to this day that can't believe that i was so disliked by so many. maybe you should go up to someone you don't know very well and say,"hi."this always works for me.
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The only thing you really can do is ask them to hang out. Try and reconnect. If you all have Facebook, you could send them each a message saying how you miss them and you're sorry for neglecting the friendship, and hopefully you can do something together soon. People will be receptive to that kind of thing.
As far as making new friends, people LOVE confidence. You have to figure out how to carry yourself in a confident manner, and not be too shy, but not too outgoing. Just be honest. If you meet a new friend from a mutual friend, get to know them. "Hey, those shoes are really cute, where did you get them?" "What are you majoring in?" "Did you grow up here? It's a pretty cool place to live" etc.
Good luck!
Megan
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