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Hurtful Thing
At school there is this boy I have never alked to, but like a lot. My friend told me that she saw him put a note in my locker on monday. We didn't have school on tue. or wed. Well I looked inmy locker and found a note saying "hey I think your really cute too, And i know it was you who called me. From, I think you know who." I feel sooo stupid for believing it. I was soo happy. My face got red and my stomach got that queasy feeling. Then like 2hrs. later my 4th locker neighbor down asked me If I got that note in my locker. I was like yeah, did you see who put it in, and she's like (friends name) did. I was so hurt. That note filled me with false hope. She asked me if I was mad at her and I said yes. Get this, s got mad at me 4 being mad at her. She's like y are you getting so mad it's stupid cuz I thought it would get you to talk to him. And I was like NO IT WOULD HAVE MADE ME LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT! And she was like "Whatever". When I got home all I didi was cry and I am crying right now. I feel like such an idiot for even believing it. What should I do, sorry it's so long.
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I can understand how you're feeling, and i can understand that you're upset. But your friend wasn't doing anything to intentially hurt you, she was trying to help you, but not in that sort of way. Her intentions were good.
What you should do now, is to go to your friend and (now don't take this the wrong way) and thank her. Yes, thank her because she was trying to help you get a realtionship with a guy you like. Look at the situation in a positive way.
As for this guy, don't be shy. There is a book out called 'The Fine Art of Small Talk' by Debra Fine which will give you confidence to start a conversation in any situation. Hopefully, this will get you the relationship which your friend wanted to get you.
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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Well, it doesn't sound like your friend was intentionally trying to hurt you... it sounds like she honestly thought it would be helping you. So I think you should forgive her. Yeah, what she did was stupid, but everyone makes mistakes, and she is your friend.
But you should also tell her to please never do anything like that again. And tell her why... tell her how much it hurt when you found out the note wasn't really from him. And tell her how bad it would've been if you'd started talking to him and then found out he didn't like you. She probably didn't think those things through, so she needs to know why what she did wasn't such a great idea. But once you've told her, then just let it go. Forgive and move on.
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you shouldnt feel stupid for thinking it was him. i DEFINATELY would have thought so too. today i thought you measure the diameter of the earth with a piece of string because someone told me so (yeah, im gullible). i know it hurts you that your friend did that to you, but it seems like she did it to help you. apparently she doesnt know much because what she did could have caused problems. shes also only thinking about herself. be glad that nothing happened. your friend probably didnt think about the consequences, which she should have. it was her fault, and she has no reason to be mad at you. believe me, no matter how hurt you may be, try not to hold grudges. yes, its hard not to when youre mad. holding grudges always turns out for the worse. TRUST ME. maybe just talk to her calmly and nicely about it and she may have a different reaction to the situation. tell her how it made you feel and all that stuffff. i really hope i helped =] . goood luck !
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OMG that happened to me, except my friend had done it to me on VALENTINES DAY. Yeah, it was pretty much humilitaingg and I was sooo mad at her, she got equally mad at me for being mad at her. It was sooo stupid, so I think that you should just let her be mad because what she did was not a funny joke since she knew how much you were crushin on that guy. If she wanted to encourage you to talk to him, playing a cruel prank like that was definetly not the way to do it and soo uncool of her. BUT look at it from a different perspective, at least she was trying to get you to talk to him and cares enough to try to make you talk to him, even though she could have just done that a different way. So if you want to be mad at her, go ahead, but if you don't want to, hug and make up because you didn't actually talk to the guy, but try talking to him :] and this time, I'm sure she won't do that cold prank again.
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