if this is like the "about me" section on myspace, i'll just say i'm 17, i'm open minded, i'm weird and fun, and i like to help people.
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14/f
Ok me and my bf just started going out a few days ago. I feel so nervous around him though. I just want to know how to feel more comfortable when I'm around him. When we sit next to each other or something I kind of shake but not alot. Like he can't tell I'm shaking. I'm just nervous. Can you tell me some ways I can get more comfortable? Or anything of the sort. Thanks so much! (link)
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I toooootally know that feeling. So basically when i think about it, there's a difference between guy friend and boyfriend. With a guy friend you can be comfortable around because you're not trying to impress him and make him think you're cute and whatnot. And with a boyfriend, there's that connection between you two because you like eachother, which might give you that nervous feeling because you want him to think the best of you. Which is my point. Relax because you got him! haha. I know it might seem hard and since you're so young you still have a bit to learn, but just be yourself. Just relax and be comfortable around him! He's your boyfriend :)
OH and as for ways to get comfortable, maybe try talking on the phone more? I know that helps a little. Invite him over your house, watch movies, play video games. Share your interests whether one of you think it's stupid or not. Do something silly and it will definitely help because you'll break the ice!
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Is it wrong, as a girl, to continue to hang out with guys that I know are probably trying to figure out how to sleep with me? I know there's no emotional strings...they just want the physical. I still hang out with them though because I think they're fun. I'd never do anything with them because I have a boyfriend and I just blow off their comments and requests. I've also told them that I'm not going to cross the friendship line with them. Is it okay to still hang out with them? My boyfriend knows some of them but he doesn't know that they well...want me. Some are his friends. I just think theyre fun people and I know I wouldn't hurt my boyfriend that way. Everyone is 18-20 in age. (link)
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There shouldn't be a problem. I love hanging out with guys who are just fun and i don't have to have an emotional thing with. And it's definitely normal for a guy to want a hot chick, ya know? Just keep letting them know you're off limits, and if it becomes an obsessive thing or gets a little out of hands, you might want to get your boyfriend involved. Not necessarily in a bad way, but have him hang out around you more. Stay close to him so that maybe you're friends will get the clue that you're serious about your boyfriend?
Hope i helped!
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14/f
I'm in high school now and lots of people are talking about college. I want to go to college and I know lots of people start thinking about it when they are freshman. The thing is I want to do good in life and stuff but I don't believe I can do it. I don't get the best grades, honestly. In Biology I have a D. So that brought me down more to where I think I can't go to a college because they look at C's or better. That's the only low grade I have but its Biology. The rest of my classes are average classes. I don't know if I can do it and I feel really pressured but I want to. I am just confused. I don't know what I want and what to do with my life. Thanks for your help. (link)
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It's good that you're thinking about college so early! that's definitely one of the best things to do as a high school student, because you know where you want to be headed. BUT you can only do it if you believe in yourself. Seriously. If there's something you want, you have to work HARD and you have to believe that you can do it ( i know that sounds completely cheesy but it's true!).
And remember, you're still a freshman! you don't have to make any seriously life-changing decisions about college just yet. You should be focusing on your grades and whatnot right now. I know it might seem really hard, but it will definitely pay off in the end. Get a tutor or go to intervention or something like that if you're really struggling. Have your friends help you if that works better!
But no matter what, good grades=good college. and you don't have to necessarily choose what college until you know what you want to do. Explore. you're in high school! :D
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okay so i wrote an earlier question about this and hers like another story to it. and so it was sorta like me and my friend hung out with these boys named charlie and noah and craig. they went home and i was tellin my friend how i though i might have a crush on charlie and i could see myself dating him. so she said that i should talk to him. well then she started talkin to him and now they are datingg. yes she did talk to me about it like was askin me if i was okay wit it. but like really if ur friend likes a guy and you told them to go for it. you dont go for it so like offcoarse i was like yea idc whatever cause im a nice friend. well like they have been dating fo rlike 2 almost 3 weeks. so he messaged me on myspace a few days ago and told me he liked me and that this girl like hasnt really givin him a reason to break up wit her. so i was like wow okay. like i really like hima nd like i have sorta been talkin to him. but like is this right or is it wrong? cause he might dump her for me so i dont know if its wrong. helpp haha (link)
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Well it's not really wrong, in my opinion. It's just drama lol.
SO, i know you told your friend first that you liked him but sometimes that makes it more attractive to other girls to go for the same guy. And sometimes guys will go for any cute girl, ya know? not to be mean.
If he really does like you, then you should go for it. Just try to keep things cool with your friend too, because situations like that tend to create problems. Tell her something like "i know you were with him and you liked him, but so did i and i told you about it first. Don't get mad if he likes me back." Maybe not exactly in those words but something like that. Just keep things cool, and if you and the guy like eachother, then there's no point in him staying with a girl he doesn't like.
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Mkayy well I don't know if this is a cute idea for a guy or whhahh. But my boyfriend is a senior, I'm a sophomore. We've been dating on and off for almost a yearrrr, anyway, I was just wondering if this is a good idea to ask him to like Winter Formal:
So like over break, I'll tell him I need to talk to him, he'll come over but then in my driveway will be WINTER FORMAL spelled out in rose petals and then like in tea light candles put a huge heart around it and light it?
I don't know if this is like good for a guy haha my Mom was like um I don't think your bf will like that, that's more of like a girl thing with the rose petals? My other idea is just spelling out WINTER FORMAL in tea lights but like that'll take awhile haha and I'm scared only parts of the letters will stay lit, if you know what I'm saying? Anywayy thanks(: (link)
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that's the cutest idea i've ever heard!!
if you're afraid the candles wont stay lit, they have fake tealight candles that still flicker, but they run off batteries. they're so cool :)
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Ever since 7th grade, I am now a freshman, I cannot seem to like a guy for more than a month, give or take a few days/weeks.
Usually I find a guy that is either hard to get or really quiet, then I make him like me. Then I am excited for a couple days, but I get sick of the person about a week after they start showing that they like me.
I like boys to like me, but when they do, I don't care much for them. It's like a game that I can't stop.
I WANT TO KNOW IF THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME! Does anyone else have this problem? Is it a phase? Will I finally find the right person and STICK with them?!? (link)
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nah. you're just a girl.
maybe you get bored because those guys just don't put for the same challenge you do, or don't stay interesting for long enough.
i'm sure when you find a guy that can keep your interest level up and/or continue to surprise you, you'll be able to stick with him.
but you're in high school so it's not really a big deal. just don't go having sex all the time!
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Hey i read that your are shy around guys i can relate . do you do anything to help you? for me i get real shy n keep answers short barely any eye contact n i keep red (link)
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haha. i'm the saaaame way. but i TRY to fight it by pretending i'm around a guy that i don't like. when i'm around a guy that's not cute or is just the buddybuddy kind of guy, i don't get nervous at all so i pretend that the cute guy is just another buddy (even though i'm dying inside lol).
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How do you be yourself?
I a wonder about stuff like friendship and like my personality and when i ask my friend about these things she just says:
"Just be yourself."
How do I be myself? (link)
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to "be yourself" is something you do subconsciously, or things you do that you've never noticed before. If you focus on things just to do them, then it's not really being yourself.
For example, the way i talk to guys. I'm really shy around really cute guys and i just CANNOT get over my nervousness, but once i get to know them i get comfortable and it eases the shyness. It's not something i have to try to do, it's just how i am.
hope i helped!
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15/f
well, i've been with my boyfriend for about 11 months. and the thing is, i'm not sure how i feel at the moment. i KNOW i can do better, because he treats me bad at times, and he gets too overly paranoid. he gets paranoid by saying that i can't talk to guys. -___-" and he got mad at me for going to target after school with my friend, which is a girl. because he says that there are probably guys there... but anywho.. i seem to be annoyed with him often also. but yet when something happens that could possibly break us up.. that's when i start getting scared.. but i don't do anything about it. i don't get as scared as i used to.. but i still get scared and nervous. when he used to say "never let me go" i feel touched and stuff, and he said that to me today, i didn't feel anything.. i just changed the subject. So, what's going on? am i losing feelings for him? am i not getting enough sleep or something? or am i just annoyed with him at the moment..?
what should i do? please & thank you! (link)
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so i had the exact same thing happen to me.
ok, you're realizing now that you could do better. GOOD.
you CAN do better. sure, you might have/have had strong feelings for him but now you know he's not what you want/need. i know you might get scared, but that's probably minor seperation anxiety, or you just don't like the change.
i think in the end a break up would be good. jealousy like the type he has takes so much away from you, and that's not what you want. be yourself, and if he doesn't like it, he's not right.
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ok i met this guy at a party and we hooked up a cuople times and grinded and i mean we hooked up allot.. and i was leaving he asked for my number and he alls me all the time...and i think he really loves me alot thats what he syad beacuse i no i fell in love with this kid in less then a week. and he said his crazy about me..and you know you meet people at clubs and there all fake well his that guy he calls me none stop and txts me everyday since we met and im suppose to be going out with him this weeknd ...amd i stupid...or should i be worried or something...do you really think he loves me ...is this even possible please help !! ??? (link)
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you're not stupid. you're just excited over something new and fantastic, like a bug attracted to a bug light.
but i wouldn't say you're in LOVE. you may love the things about him, but nothing serious.
and make sure if/when you guys go out, don't get carried overboard with the whole "we're in love" thing and have sex or whatnot. just take time to really get to know him. after a while, then you can make the judgement about love.
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my bf and i are best friends and i love him but we keep having problems. first things have been a little rocky because im moving faaar away in June. like a 2 day drive away. the problem now tho is that i went to where im gonna live soon to look at houses and schools and stuff with my parents for a week and his phone is broken (just broke last week a couple days before i left state) he called me on his friend's phone on friday and tried to get in touch through IM but i didnt have a computer. and he emailed Sunday but never replied to my email (i borrowed my friends computer) the last couple days i have tried really hard to get in touch and now it seems he doesnt care. he didnt email me or call on his brother's phone or his mom's or dad's. he had options and he didnt do anything. he is in school so during the day he couldnt do anything but w/e. idk why but he and i keep having problems! he keeps doing things like this that make it seem like he doesnt care. every other week i am upset because he acts like he doesnt care!!
i know i might seem a little extreme but we are in a serious relationship and the last time i talked to him for real was last Tuesday! he called on Friday but we only talked for like 5-10 minutes. we didnt even really talk either. he had opportunities and i tried very hard to get in touch. and Monday was our 3 month anniversary and he forgot. it just seems like i put out more effort than he does.
i have high expectations and im willing to wait for a guy who can reach those and i always thought he could but now idk.
i called him on his brothers phone finally today and he has a really hard test that he knows nothing about and he did reeeally bad on his last test in that class and he didnt study at all before tonight apprently so he was like i cant talk i will call you some time tomorrow. and im on break and we were supposed to hang out and i cant go see him if he doesnt call me until tomorrow because then its too late my mom needs more notice than that. and i am going through a REALLY hard time moving and everything and i need him to be here for me. im stressed out! i cant keep having these problems but i love him!
please help me! i dont know what to do. today when he was like i'll call you tom i was like fine and he said bye and then i hung up. then i cried. it hurts me when he acts like he doesnt care and i understand that he had a test but he couldnt even email me and we havent talked in forever and i always make time for him. he always says he cares but idc what he says i care about what he does. and right now he isnt showing it at all. he says he doesnt want a break and all this will make us stronger but its not normal for us to always have problems. we used to never have problems. i know hes a great guy and i really do love him but hes not giving me what i want and what i give him. please give me some advice and i need as much as i can get!
im sorry this is so long but im really upset and torn. thank you SO much! i will rate for all your help :) (link)
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sure, you may love him, but you could love anybody (not trying to be mean)
there are some people that just aren't meant for you, and i think he might be one of them.
and considering you're only on 3 months and that he couldn't even remember, i'd say you should take a break. i'm not saying permanently break up unless that works better for you.
just take time for yourself. you can't give him your all and get nothing in return, because from experience, it's not worth it.
you'll move on. you'll find someone better. you said yourself, you're willing to wait!
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ok well i really like this guy who goes to my school rite. well i'm to much of a chicken to go up to him and just talk to him even tho like we kno eachother.. idk if i should tell him how i feel or if i should just stick to the outskirts...ugh i'm sooo confused what should i do? if i do talk to him what should we talk about? (link)
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if you're shy, i know how you feel. i'd say the simplest way (and it was easiest for me) would be starting out with "hey what's up"
ask how his weekend was, blah blah blah. casual talk.
if he starts maybe flirting with you or asks for your number, then he possibly likes you or thinks of you more than a friend...however you want to put it.
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Okay I already know this girl isn't my friend because she always likes the guys I like. And I finally found this AMAZING beyond awesome guy. And I'm super shy, and she know's he likes me & I like him. But now she talks to him ALL THE TIME. And I havn't asked her if she likes him, but like I just know it. And now, she's like, pretending to be me and like the same things as me and asking me like "what kind of music do you like?" "What are you talking to _____ about?!" and I'm like going crazy. I'm so shy, and he wants me to talk to him but I want him to talk to me. But then this girl, my so called friend like keeps purposly messing it up by telling me like "Oh you shouldn't talk to him, he said he's not in the mood" even though that was a complete LIE. What do you think I should do? (link)
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If you know what's going on, go with YOUR instincts, not what other people say. your so called "friend" needs to go somewhere the sun don't shine. He's your guy, so go get him. talk to him, don't be shy (i know that's really hard, but once you start up, things will get better and easier). if you really want him, you gotta show him.
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This takes a little explaining.. High school drama stinks..
I had this really great guy friend, we'll call him David, and one day in October 2006 I realized that I felt more than friendship for him. I was totally in love with him. I told him on New Year's Eve and it really seemed like he had the same feelings and we started hanging out and stuff and we were pretty much "unofficially" going out. Another girl at school, we'll call Brook, who has a very bad reputation and is not not to be mean but is not at all attractive, liked him a lot as well. I found out on Valentine's Day last year that they were officially going out. I was crushed and depressed. David and I were no longer friends and she rubbed it in my face that she got him and I didn't. They dated, but never communicated at all, they only text messaged, nothing else, until right after school started back this year and she broke up with him for another guy I liked, we'll call Pablo. She started dating him, so David and I had slowly gotten our friendship back and he fell for me. I made sure he had no feelings for Brook, and he assured me he didn't. We started going out and had an amazing relationship. We spent all our free time togther and fell in love so fast. It was amazing and we both loved each other so much and had even talked seriously about a future.. All in the six weeks we went out.. One morning he said "we need to talk" and he took me in the hall at school and he had realized that he was still in love with Brook and he had just used me to make her jealous. He had called her the night before and told her and she was breaking up with Pablo the same day. The next day David and Brooke were back together. Me, David, and Pablo are all Christians. David has put on a huge front and is being extremely immature about everything, and his whole life has turned into an act. He could be an absolutely amazing person, but has made some horrible descisions and gotten caught up with Brook. I think they're having sex as well. David always wanted more from me, but I never realized that. I'm still kinda friends with David because I'm still in love with him. Does anybody have any advice whatsoever for this? I love David and it's killing me to see him throw himself away like this. He always has the most sad and lost look in his eyes, and he's completely lost. I want to do anything I can to help him, but I really don't know what to do. I kinda also still have feelings for Pablo and things between us might work out soon. Any advice whatsoever would help! My life is so messed up and I really need some advice on helping it get back on track. I'm spending tons of time in prayer for everybody in this situation, and I just need direction.
Thank you so much! (link)
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As much as it hurts you to see your best friend going through that, you need to think for yourself. find what makes YOU happy and don't worry about him. you may not get over what you had, but you will get over all the drama that happened and the choices HE decided to make to mess things up. All i could say is if you want him to realize that he did mess up, just stop talking to him and tell him that he has a gf (and you have a bf if you do at the time). make him feel bad and realize that he doesn't have you anymore.
i know, it sucks. but if he wants to be a true person, he'll do something about it. otherwise, he's NOT worth your time, tears, or heart.
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this guy kept saying he liked me and that he wanted to go out with me and stuff
then he told me he liked another girl
and im totally heart broken
any ways to cheer me up? (link)
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that's minor, you're lucky.
just move on. don't think about him. if you do, distract yourself of talk to your friends. find a new hottie to drool over. it's the best and easiest way. just DON'T THINK ABOUT HIM
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So,the boy I like came to the basketball court.And me and my friend were the first one's there.So then like 4 or 5 of his friends come too.And then we were all like chillin and playing some basketball.Then the whole time I was there, frome when I got to the court and he left he was trying to make me laugh,he kept looking at me,he tried to impress me,and he was laughing with me.Are those signs of flirting?I want to know what it means.Thanks for anyones advice. (link)
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definite flirting. you got him good :)
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Okay, a few weeks back, I hooked up with one of my friend's friend. And I can't stop thinking about him. I added him to my myspace and he talks to me off and on, but how can I tell if he maybe sorta likes me or not. I've never felt this way about a hook up at all. But for some reason I just want to talk to him and hang out with him. Could I tell him or message him anything that wouldn't make me seem desperate at all/????/ (link)
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continue talking to him. tell him that you want to chill sometime....or, in his language, "hook up again". just be like "it was really fun" or whatever you wanna say.
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Okay well in the first semester this really cute guy walked ito my spanish class, and well i was talking to my bestfriend and well i could totally notice him checking me out, im trying not to be concieded and all but after that day he came more and more. it was really fun to go to that class after that :) but when it came to christmas break we stopped talking........no talking. then i saw him in the hallway the other day and i was OMG OMG flipping out and well i laugh when i flip out so i was laughing liek hardcore. but then i saw he had a myspace so i sent him a request he added me and then messaged me and i was laughing bc i was flipping out. well he has a girlfriend now, and well i dont know if i should keep on talkign to him. and well i like him alot but the thing is he might tryout for cheerleading but the thing is in cheerleadering is that you cant date inside the squad. HELP ME PLS should i keep talkign to him if he has a girl anddd ohhh yeah she is a DANCER!!! DANCERS DONT GET ALONG WITH CHEERLEADERS!!!!! and well i told him i would help him with his cheerleading should i???????? (link)
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dude forget about a relationship. just be friends with him and don't think about going any farther, because that's how it starts out. once you guys get to talking more and more (and trust me, it's great to have a hot friend) maybe you two could end up together. main focus: befriending him. that's about all i could say.
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15/f
I really like this guy and he is in my group for a class project. Yesterday, we had to get in our groups and most of our group was goofing off and not listening to what we were supposed to be doing. So him and I were basically the only ones working on the assignment.
Before any of this happened, I was so shy and I would never talk to him. I'd look at him but i'd never actually talk to him. Well I don't know what happened but suddenly I felt like my normal self when I was talking to him.
Is that normal to feel that way? because I thought you were supposed to be nervous when you're around the person you like but during that time period I felt normal.
Oh and if you have any advice on what to do after that so I can be his friend and possibly more than friend? I've only had 1 boyfriend and that lasted for 5 days and we never kissed. Help me please (link)
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Welllllllll
since you feel normal around him, that's really good. that means you guys (or at least you) hit it off really well. future friendship is a go.
now, talking to him more and stuff might be tricky. dont think too much about it or it'll be really hard for you. just keep an open mind (like: he doesn't know you, so don't worry about messing up)
maybe next time you work together, talk to him more. ask him how life is or whatever. casual talk, ya know? that's the easiest way to talk to someone.
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-I NEED TO GET THIS 0FF MY CHEST.
okay so i like this boy, lets just call him [C]
well ive liked c befor and he liked me to, well up until one day, one of his friends where all like; you cant like him he's like a brother to you, well i guess after that happend he stoped likeing me and started to call me "LIL SIS" i dont get why i guess cause he didnt want his BOYS saying things or picking on him i dont really know. well after that he got a 'GIRLFRIEND' so he deff didnt like me, but i still had a BIG crush on him i prob liked him for about three years until last year i stoped likeing him. well now ive seen him around alot and we kinda hang out. -I'M REAL COOL WITH ALL THE PEOPLE HE HANGS WITH-
and i'm starting to like him again, the thing is i know he doesnt like him exsept as a friend, I'M ALREADY STARTING TO SUPPER LIKE HIM;;
i try making him like me i wright him on myspace, & [T R Y] to make him keep talking to me like bring things up like how was your day and stuff, we only talk for about 2o mins then i'll wright him and he will just read it, [WHICH SUCKS CAUSE HES THE ONLY PERSON I WANAA TALK TO]
IDK i just dont want to start liking him all over again and get hurt.
my advice is how do stop liking this boy
or NOT GET HURT?
-please please please answer this question i dont care, whatever you have to say anything can help me at this point just please let me know.
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don't talk to him anymore?
get yourself interested in another guy/guys or just concentrate on your friend/make new ones.
donn't think about him, and it especially doesn't help when you talk to him because it just sparks the feelings all over again.
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