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This takes a little explaining.. High school drama stinks..
I had this really great guy friend, we'll call him David, and one day in October 2006 I realized that I felt more than friendship for him. I was totally in love with him. I told him on New Year's Eve and it really seemed like he had the same feelings and we started hanging out and stuff and we were pretty much "unofficially" going out. Another girl at school, we'll call Brook, who has a very bad reputation and is not not to be mean but is not at all attractive, liked him a lot as well. I found out on Valentine's Day last year that they were officially going out. I was crushed and depressed. David and I were no longer friends and she rubbed it in my face that she got him and I didn't. They dated, but never communicated at all, they only text messaged, nothing else, until right after school started back this year and she broke up with him for another guy I liked, we'll call Pablo. She started dating him, so David and I had slowly gotten our friendship back and he fell for me. I made sure he had no feelings for Brook, and he assured me he didn't. We started going out and had an amazing relationship. We spent all our free time togther and fell in love so fast. It was amazing and we both loved each other so much and had even talked seriously about a future.. All in the six weeks we went out.. One morning he said "we need to talk" and he took me in the hall at school and he had realized that he was still in love with Brook and he had just used me to make her jealous. He had called her the night before and told her and she was breaking up with Pablo the same day. The next day David and Brooke were back together. Me, David, and Pablo are all Christians. David has put on a huge front and is being extremely immature about everything, and his whole life has turned into an act. He could be an absolutely amazing person, but has made some horrible descisions and gotten caught up with Brook. I think they're having sex as well. David always wanted more from me, but I never realized that. I'm still kinda friends with David because I'm still in love with him. Does anybody have any advice whatsoever for this? I love David and it's killing me to see him throw himself away like this. He always has the most sad and lost look in his eyes, and he's completely lost. I want to do anything I can to help him, but I really don't know what to do. I kinda also still have feelings for Pablo and things between us might work out soon. Any advice whatsoever would help! My life is so messed up and I really need some advice on helping it get back on track. I'm spending tons of time in prayer for everybody in this situation, and I just need direction.
Thank you so much!
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As much as it hurts you to see your best friend going through that, you need to think for yourself. find what makes YOU happy and don't worry about him. you may not get over what you had, but you will get over all the drama that happened and the choices HE decided to make to mess things up. All i could say is if you want him to realize that he did mess up, just stop talking to him and tell him that he has a gf (and you have a bf if you do at the time). make him feel bad and realize that he doesn't have you anymore.
i know, it sucks. but if he wants to be a true person, he'll do something about it. otherwise, he's NOT worth your time, tears, or heart.
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Well I can't say I've been in this sort of situation before, but I would strongly suggest staying away from David. I mean, if you want to help him and be friends with him, that's fine, but I don't think he is the right guy for you. If he's going to use you for jealousy purposes, then he shouldn't be a guy that you want to date. I'm in high school too, so I know from experience that he's probably one day going to grow out of his relationship phase with Brook, cause sexually based relationships never last. Maybe if you try distancing yourself from David, it will draw him to you, and then you can tell him how he's been acting; because if you make your feelings for him that obvious, then he knows he can use you whenever he feels like it. Try getting together with Pablo, just make sure he's not going to do what David did.
Hope this helps :]
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ignore him
he is not worth it,
if he led you on like that them you should forget abotu him
i know that that might be hard to do but its worth it.
~♥cherry♥~
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Weellll. Haha seems like you've got yourself into a dilemna. I think that you should really take time off from liking anybody. Just figure out what YOU need right now. After all, if David wants to go and ruin his life thats whats hes going to do. But if you really feel the need to talk to David, tell him about what all your feeling. Tell him that you want him to be happy.
+ And i think that if you really want David to be happy, you should want him to whether it involves you in his life or not. The biggest act of love is sacrifice.
I hope i helped! =]
xxx
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